Understanding Marriage

To understand marriage, let's look at what transpired from the beginning.

Jubilees 3-4

3. And on these five days Adam saw all these, male and female, according to every kind that was on the earth, but he was alone and found no helpmeet for him. 4. And Ahayah said unto us: "It is not good that the man should be alone: let us make a helpmeet for him."

Ahayah saw that it wasn't good for the man to be alone nor without anyone to help him with his duties in his life as every other male had a female for his companion, so he made him a woman as a companion and help unto him. Man's whole duty in this life is to fear Alahayim and keep His commandments [Ecc 12:13-14] and he was given woman to help him fulfill this mission in the earth [Sir 36:24; 26:22] (along with whatever other endeavors Alahayim would place upon him to do having his wife as a pillar of rest in his labours); and his wife following after his mind [Sir 7:26] in agreement with him to keep the law [Amo 3:3; Sir 25:1] being well instructed in her mind by him with the washing of the water of the word [Eph 5:25-27] to walk in the fruits of the law and Spirit, [Sir 26:14; 36:23] would lead to her salvation as he is the savior of the body {his wife} even as Christ is the savior of the Church: [Eph 5:22-23]

Ecclesiastes 3:9-13

What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboureth? 10 I have seen the travail, which Alahayim hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it. 11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that Alahayim maketh from the beginning to the end. 12 I know that there is no good in them, but for a man to rejoice, and to do good in his life. 13 And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of Alahayim.

Ecclesiastes 2:24

There is nothing better for a man, than that he should eat and drink, and that he should make his soul enjoy good in his labour. This also I saw, that it was from the hand of Alahayim.

As he works in the labors Alahayim gives him, he is given a wife for himself to help him and give him rest in his labors in this life:

Sir 36:24

He that getteth a wife beginneth a possession, a help like unto himself, and a pillar of rest.

She being like unto him in agreement with him fulfill the law, helps protect him as a tower against death (the sins of the flesh that cause death that is) for him in this life as she is trustworthy unto him and would do him good all his days as a good helpmeet unto him:

Sir 26:22

...a married woman is a tower against death to her husband.

Proverbs 31:11-12

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Being his own precious possession (made for him only), companion and help in this life, she is his joy to cherish as she is his portion from Alahayim in this life; and her goodness helps him have peace in this life:

Proverbs 18:22

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of Ahayah.

Ecclesiasticus 26:1-3

Blessed is the man that hath a virtuous wife, for the number of his days shall be double. 2 A virtuous woman rejoiceth her husband, and he shall fulfil the years of his life in peace. 3 A good wife is a good portion, which shall be given in the portion of them that fear the Lord.

Ecclesiastes 9:9-10

Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun. 10 Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.

Together, man and his wife who helps him, can fulfill the duty of man in the earth for their salvation:

Ecc 3:14

I know that, whatsoever Alahayim doeth, it shall be for ever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and Alahayim doeth it, that men should fear before him.

Ecclesiastes 12:13-14

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear Alahayim, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For Alahayim shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.

Rom 2:12, 16, 13

For as many as have sinned without law shall also perish without law: and as many as have sinned in the law shall be judged by the law; 16 In the day when Alahayim shall judge the secrets of men by Yache Christ according to my gospel. 13 (For not the hearers of the law are just before Alahayim, but the doers of the law shall be justified.

Not only was man given a woman for companionship and help in his life, Ahayah also gave men wives to impregnate them and beget children so that they would lack nothing upon earth:

Enoch 15:5

[5] Therefore have I given them wives also that they might impregnate them, and beget children by them, that thus nothing might be wanting to them on earth.

Ahayah gave men wives, not only as an aid in companionship, but also that together they may continue the race of mankind by being fruitful and multiplying with children (in wedlock).

Jasher 1:4

4. And Ahayah caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept, and He took away one of his ribs, and He built flesh upon it and formed it and brought it to Adam, and Adam awoke from his sleep, and behold a woman was standing before him.

Man was given his woman (made for him) from Alahayim:

Jubilees 3:6-7

And He awaked Adam out of his sleep and on awaking he rose on the sixth day, and He brought her to him, and he knew her, and said unto her: "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she will be called [my] wife; because she was taken from her husband." 7. Therefore, shall man and wife be one, and therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.

When he knew her (lay with her), she became his wife after he consummated the marriage to become one with her:

Jasher 1:5-6

5. And he said, this is a bone of my bones and it shall be called woman, for this has been taken from man; and Adam called her name Eve, for she was the mother of all living. 6. And Alahayim blessed them and called their names Adam and Eve in the day that He created them, and Ahayah Alahayim said, be fruitful multiply and fill the earth.

Intercourse was meant for man and his wife to partake in for pleasure with one another (avoiding fornication) and fulfill the work of filling the earth as commanded by procreation whenever Alahayim would cause the woman to conceive.

Testament of Rueben 2:3, 9

3 and seven other spirits are given to him at his creation, that through them should be done every work of man. 4 The first is the spirit of life, with which the constitution of man is created. 5 The second is the sense of sight, with which ariseth desire…9 The seventh is the power of procreation and sexual intercourse..

Alahayim created man and gave him eyes (to behold and desire his own wife or wives), the constitution of reproductive organs, and the power of procreation and intercourse to be ravished in her love and fulfill the fruitful work of filling the earth with children by her (or them). Though there are instances to refrain from coming together for prayer and fasting for example, it is a trespass against Alahayim's commands for husband and wife to avoid being fruitful and multiplying by making one's wife barren and unable to have children:

Jasher 2:19-22

19. For in those days the sons of men began to trespass against Alahayim, and to transgress the commandments which he had commanded to Adam, to be fruitful and multiply in the earth. 20. And some of the sons of men caused their wives to drink a draught that would render them barren, in order that they might retain their figures and whereby their beautiful appearance might not fade. 21. And when the sons of men caused some of their wives to drink, Zillah drank with them. 22. And the child-bearing women appeared abominable in the sight of their husbands, as widows, whilst their husbands lived, for to the barren ones only they were attached.

Since the marriage bed is undefiled and whoremongers will be destroyed for commiting fornication, {Heb 13:4} a wife is also given to a man as a tower against death by helping him avoid committing fornication by having his own wife for benevolence:

1 Corinthians 7:2

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Sir 26:22

An harlot shall be accounted as spittle; but a married woman is a tower against death to her husband.

Also, a woman can marry a man in the Lord to avoid burning for fornication as well:

1Co 7:9

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Thus far, a man was given a wife for companionshipo, help to fufill his labors in the earth, a pillar of rest in his labors, a tower against the death of spiritual fornication (sin) of any kind, and to be fruitful and multiply with children in the earth.

The Marriage Process

Let's see how the marriage process began in the earth:

Jubilees 3:5-7

5. And Ahayah our Alahayim caused a deep sleep to fall upon him, and he slept, and He took for the woman one rib from amongst his ribs, and this rib was the origin of the woman from amongst his ribs, and He built up the flesh in its stead, and built the woman. 6. And He awaked Adam out of his sleep and on awaking he rose on the sixth day, and He brought her to him, and he knew her,

When the woman was made, Adam knew her, which is the intercourse required to consummate a marriage:

and said unto her: "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she will be called my wife; because she was taken from her husband."

When the woman is given to a man by her head, as the Lord gave his daughter who he created, Eve, to Adam, and the man sleeps with her; they are now one flesh:

7. Therefore shall man and wife be one, and therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh

The woman was created for the man and came into being of the man:

1Co 11:8-9

For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Yet, from that point forward, all men are by the woman in childbirth:

1Co 11:12, 11

For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of Alahayim. 11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.

So both are one in the Lord not being without one another:

1Co 11:7

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of Alahayim: but the woman is the glory of the man.

The man is the image and glory of Alahayim and the woman that the man cleaves unto as his own flesh, is his glory, to comprise the image of Alahayim, male and female:

Gen 1:27

So Alahayim created man in his own image, in the image of Alahayim created he him; male and female created he them.

A wife is a man's bone and flesh that he loves as his own body:

Eph 5:28

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

While the husband is the head of the body which is his wife:

Eph 5:23, 29

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Thus far the scriptures show a man's wife is his bones and flesh as his own body and he is her head and the savior of her body because she is his body (bones and flesh). When a man takes a wife, she is his nakedness being one flesh with him:

Lev 18:8

The nakedness of thy father's wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father's nakedness.

The man's wife, however many he is appointed by Alahayim, is his nakedness, she being his body that should not be uncovered by another man.

Lev 18:16

Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy brother's wife: it is thy brother's nakedness.

One can confirm that a man's wife is his nakedness even if she is his other wife by evidence of Jacob's other wife, the handmaid Bilhah, was defiled and it was an uncovering of his skirt and shame:

Gen 30:4

And she gave him Bilhah her handmaid to wife: and Jacob went in unto her.

Jubilees 33:8, 12

And Jacob was exceedingly wroth with Reuben because he had lain with Bilhah, because he had uncovered his father's skirt 12. And again, it is written a second time: "Cursed he be who lieth with the wife of his father, for he hath uncovered his father's shame"; and all the holy ones of Ahayah said "So be it; so be it."

Are All Ordained to Marry?

Not all men are ordained to be married as some are made eunuchs for the kingdom's sake and abide unmarried:

Mat 19:12

For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

Some men like the Apostles Thomas, John, and Paul became eunuchs for the kingdom's sake remaining unmarried:

1Co 7:7

For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of Alahayim, one after this manner, and another after that.

1Co 7:8

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
1Co 7:9

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

The gift of remaining unmarried isn't for every man as some men's gift from the Lord is a silent and loving woman:

Sir 26:14

A silent and loving woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed.

Also the portion of them that fear the Lord is a good wife:

Sir 26:3

A good wife is a good portion, which shall be given in the portion of them that fear the Lord.

For those who are appointed of the Lord for marriage, wives are appointed for men from the beginning:

Tob 6:17

And the devil shall smell it, and flee away, and never come again any more: but when thou shalt come to her, rise up both of you, and pray to Alahayim which is merciful, who will have pity on you, and save you: fear not, for she is appointed unto thee from the beginning; and thou shalt preserve her, and she shall go with thee. Moreover I suppose that she shall bear thee children. Now when Tobias had heard these things, he loved her, and his heart was effectually joined to her.

If a man has a need to marry, there are protocols for us in the faith:

1Co 7:8

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

1Co 7:9

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Polycarp to Philippians 5:2

…..It becometh men and women too, when they marry, to unite themselves with the consent of the bishop, that the marriage may be after the Lord and not after concupiscence. Let all things be done to the honour of Alahayim.

Not all women are ordained for marriage either as some men must keep their virgins (daughters) pure for a greater reward for her (even as Peter the Apostle, kept his virgin daughter):

1 Corinthians 7:34

There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit:..

Polycarp to the Philippians 5:3

...The virgins must walk in a blameless and pure conscience.

A man doesn’t have to give his daughter in marriage as he may be lead to store up a greater reward by keeping his virgin:

1 Corinthians 7:37

Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

1 Corinthians 7:36

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

If Alahayim wills a man to give her in marriage (and she desires to marry), the man does right by her to give unto a man of understanding

Sir 7:25

Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding

He is sure to give her a man of understanding who shows his understanding by departing from evil:

Job 28:28

And unto man he said, Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding.

A man that fears Alahayim and turns away from evil is a man of understanding who is eligible for marriage to a daughter and sister that believes in Yache Christ.

The Blessings of Marriage and Virginity

Apocalypse of Paul 20

And I said, “Lord, what is this place?” And he said to me, “This is the land of promise. Hast thou never heard what is written: Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth? The souls therefore of the just, when they have gone out of the body, are meanwhile dismissed to this place.” And I said to the angel, “Then this land will be manifested before the time?” The angel answered and said to me, “When Christ, whom thou preachest, shall come to reign, then, by the sentence of Alahayim, the first earth will be dissolved and this land of promise will then be revealed, and it will be like dew or cloud, and then Lord Yache Christ, the King Eternal, will be manifested and will come with all his saints to dwell in it, and he will reign over them a thousand years, and they will eat of the good things which I shall now show unto thee.”

Apocalypse of Paul 21

And I looked around upon that land and I saw a river flowing of milk and honey, and there were trees planted by the bank of that river, full of fruit: moreover, each single tree bore twelve fruits in the year, having various and diverse fruits: and I saw the created things which are in that place and all the work of Alahayim, and I saw there palms of twenty cubits, but others of ten cubits: and that land was seven times brighter than silver. And there were trees full of fruits from the roots to the highest branches, of ten thousand fruits of palms upon ten thousand fruits. The grape-vines moreover had ten thousand plants. Moreover, in the single vines there were ten thousand thousand bunches and in each of these a thousand single grapes: moreover, these single trees bore a thousand fruits. And I said to the angel, “Why does each tree bear a thousand fruits?” The angel answered and said unto me, “Because the Lord Alahayim gives an abounding flood of gifts to the worthy, because they also of their own will afflicted themselves when they were placed in the world doing all things on account of his holy name.” And again I said to the angel, “Sir, are these the only promises which the Most Holy Alahayim makes?” And he answered and said to me: “No! there are seven times greater than these. But I say unto thee that when the just go out of the body they shall see the promises and the good things which Alahayim has prepared for them.” Till then, they shall sigh, and lament saying: “Have we emitted any word from our mouth to vex our neighbour even on one day?” I asked and said again: “Are these alone the promises of Alahayim?” And the angel answered and said unto me: “These whom you now see are the souls of the married and those who kept the chastity of their nuptials, containing themselves. But to the virgins and those who hunger and thirst after righteousness and those who afflicted themselves for the sake of the name of Alahayim, Alahayim will give seven times greater than these, which I shall now show thee.”

More Edification on Marriage

For further edification on understanding marriage, lawful marriage, and lawful divorce, please visit the following website tabs and video lessons:

Lawful Marriage:

https://www.hebrewreaders.com/lawful-marriages

Interracial Marriage:

https://www.hebrewreaders.com/understanding-colossians-2-14

Understanding Divorce:

https://www.hebrewreaders.com/understanding-divorce

Are Multiple Wives Righteous?:

https://www.hebrewreaders.com/are-multiple-wives-righteous

Man, His Wife, and Christ

https://youtu.be/tAcZp9hD3e0?si=Hq4G8IZAmFYknSOI

Building a Safe Haven: The Woman

https://youtu.be/arKEC632b-U?si=hlaaN20H_uzzfiRd

Alahayimly Marriage:

https://youtu.be/MU05zdq1FnE?si=Mow7NcPfbOKaUqSt

True Love: A Woman of the Faith: "The Power of Entreaty"

https://youtu.be/lHO1MG3Zsmg?si=TmGs17CleyAnV5rM

The Purposes for Marriage

Through scripture, we confirm wives are appointed of Alahayim unto men, {Tob 6:17} not for lust but uprightly {Tob 8:7} for the following upright reasons:

For companionship {Gen 2:18}
An helpmeet and pillar of rest in the labors of life {Sir 36:24}
A blessing to be fruitful and multiply {Jash 1:4} by impregnating them, {Enoch 15:5}
A tower against death through committing sin. { Sr 26:22}
For saving of the woman from burning for fornication. {1Co 7:9}
For the salvation of the woman as the man is the savior of her body as Christ is the savior of the Church {Eph 5:23; Isa 4:1}
"The Duty of a Husband's brother" raising up seed to a man's brother or near kin who had no child. {Deut 25:5-10; Ruth 4:10}
Taking Hebrew wife according to the right of inheritance in Israel. {Num 36:8-9; Ruth 4:5-11; Tob 6:12; 3:12}

These are upright purposes for marriage. A believing man does not take a wife for lusts sake but for an helper and a stay in uprightness:

Tob 8:6-8

Thou madest Adam, and gavest him Eve his wife for an helper and stay: of them came mankind: thou hast said, It is not good that man should be alone; let us make unto him an aid like unto himself. 7 And now, O Lord, I take not this my sister for lust but uprightly: therefore mercifully ordain that we may become aged together. 8 And she said with him, Amen.

How a Man Receives a Wife from the Lord

If the Lord Yache wills a man to be married, the good man focuses his energy on singleness in the fear of the Lord laboring in good works, study and his flocks (family, if he has one already, and/or business), until the Lord gives him a wife whom He wills so as to do all things in humility and long-suffering according to the will of Alahayim in His commandments to avoid suffering any harm by being lead by the spirit of fornication into error:

Testament of Rueben 4:6

6 For a pit unto the soul is the sin of fornication, separating it from Alahayim, and bringing it near to idols, because it deceiveth the mind and understanding, and leadeth young men into Hades before their time. 7 For many hath fornication destroyed; because, though a man be old or noble, or rich or poor, he bringeth reproach upon himself with the sons of men and derision with Beliar.

Testament of Reuben 7:1, 4

1 Beware, therefore, of fornication; and if you wish to be pure in mind, guard your senses from every woman. 4 For in fornication there is neither understanding nor holiness, and all jealousy dwelleth in the lust thereof.

Testament of Reuben 4:1

Pay no heed, therefore, my children, to the beauty of women, nor set your mind on their affairs; but walk in singleness of heart in the fear of the Lord, and expend labour on good works, and on study and on your flocks, until the Lord give you a wife, whom He will, that ye suffer not as I did.

Following the simplicity of the testimonies, laboring in good works, study and our labors of overcoming the spirits that war against the mind and growing closer to Lord Yache in humility and longsuffering while waiting upon a spouse will ensure a good patient man will be ready as Alahayim prepares a good wife for him. Joseph is an example of how patiently waiting in purity of body and spirit keeping oneself from idols through obeying the commandments in humilty and longsuffering is a good work unto Alahayim while waiting for a spouse to be given according to His will:

Testament of Reuben 4:8-10

8 For ye heard regarding Joseph how he guarded himself from a woman, and purged his thoughts from all fornication, and found favour in the sight of Alahayim and men. 9 For the Egyptian woman did many things unto him, and summoned magicians, and offered him love potions, but the purpose of his soul admitted no evil desire. 10 Therefore the Alahayim of your fathers delivered him from every evil and hidden death.

Testament of Joseph 10:1-

1 Ye see, therefore, my children, how great things patience worketh, and prayer with fasting. 2 So ye too, if ye follow after chastity and purity with patience

and prayer, with fasting in humility of heart, the Lord will dwell among you, because He loveth chastity

Testament of Joseph 11

1 Do ye also, my children, have the fear of Alahayim in all your works before your eyes, and honour your brethren. 2 For everyone who doeth the law of the Lord shall be loved by Him.

Testament of Joseph 18:1, 3

1 If ye also, therefore, walk in the commandments of the Lord, my children, He will exalt you there, and will bless you with good things for ever and ever. 3 For, behold, ye see that out of my humility and long -suffering I took unto wife the daughter of the priest of Heliopolis.

According to precepts, everything in the commandments are about humility and longsuffering in man, [Hermas Parable 8 {7:6}] so Joseph's efforts in humility and longsuffering shows he kept the commandments in everything waiting for a wife that was his portion from the Lord who the Lord willed for him to have. Because of Joseph’s longsuffering and humility, when Joseph was ready for a wife, Alahayim had prepared Asenath to be given to him for a wife according to His will:

Joseph and Asenath 15:2-5

2 And Asenath took it from her head. And again the divine angel saith to her: "Be of good cheer, Asenath, the virgin and pure, for lo! the Lord Alahayim heard all the words of thy confession and thy prayer, and he hath seen also the humiliation and affliction of the seven days of thine abstinence, for that from thy tears much

clay hath been formed before thy face upon these ashes. Accordingly, be of good cheer, Asenath, the virgin and pure, for lo! thy name hath been written in the book of life and shall not be blotted out for ever; but from this day thou shalt be renewed and refashioned and re-quickened, and thou shalt eat the blessed bread of life and drink a cup filled with immortality and be anointed with the blessed unction of incorruption. Be of good cheer, Asenath, the virgin and pure, lo! the Lord Alahayim hath given thee to-day to Joseph for a bride, and he himself shall be thy bridegroom forever.

Joseph and Asenath 15:9

And lo! for my part I go to Joseph and will speak to him all these words concerning thee, and he will come to thee to-day and see thee

The Angel of Alahayim also revealed to Joseph that Asenath was to be his wife so he could know she the woman for him from the Lord. Joseph waited on that confirmation in his patience and went to her after he knew she was his wife ordained for him from the Lord, doing all things in humility uprightly:

Joseph and Asenath 19

1. And, while they were yet speaking these things, a boy came saying to Asenath: 'Lo! Joseph standeth before the doors of our court." 2. Then Asenath hasted and went down the stairs from her loft with the seven virgins to meet Joseph and stood in the porch of her house. 3. And, Joseph having come into the court, the gates were shut and all strangers remained outside. 4. And Asenath came out from the porch to meet Joseph, and when he saw her he marveled at her beauty, and said to her: " Who art thou, damsel? Quickly tell me." 5. And she saith to him: " I, lord,' am thine handmaid Asenath; all the idols I have cast away from me and they perished. 6. And a man came to me to-day from heaven and hath given me bread of life and I ate, and I drank a blessed cup, and he said to me: I have given thee for a bride to Joseph, and he himself shall be thy bridegroom forever; 7. and thy name shall not be called Asenath, but it shall be called " City of Refuge," and the Lord Alahayim shall reign over many nations, and through thee shall they seek refuge with Ala Most High.' And the man said: ' I will go also to Joseph that I may speak into his ears these words concerning thee.' And now thou knowest, lord, if that man hath come to thee and if he hath spoken to thee concerning me." Then Joseph saith to Asenath: '' Blessed art thou, woman, of Ala Most High, and blessed is thy name for ever, for that the Lord Alahayim hath laid the foundations of thy walls, and the sons of the living Alahayim shall dwell in thy city of refuge, and the Lord Alahayim shall reign over them forever. 11. For that man came from heaven to me to-day and said these words to me concerning thee. And now come hither to me, thou virgin and pure, and wherefore standest thou afar off?"

It is not right for a man that worships Alahayim to sleep with his wife before the marriage:

Joseph and Asenath 20:8

And Joseph stayed that day with Pentephres; and he did not sleep with Aseneth, for he said, "It is not right for a man who worships Alahayim to have intercourse with his wife before their marriage."

For any man ordained to be married, focusing on the work of humility and long-suffering in keeping the commandments in singleness of heart fearing the Lord will lead to a good spouse being given to the man who shows his humility in reverence (fear) towards the Lord by his patience to wait for a wife to be given to him:

Sir 26:3

A good wife is a good portion, which shall be given in the portion of them that fear the Lord.

In simplicity, the man that walks in singleness of heart in the fear of the Lord will be given a good wife for his portion if he is ordained to be married. Some men, have been given one wife for their portion like Isaac, while others like, Jacob, Simeon, and Benjamin had multiple wives appointed unto them from Alahayim for their portion.

How Are Wives Appointed?

A Believer can be given a wife appointed to him of Alahyim in these different ways according to scripture:

A father gives a man his daughter to wife {Tobit 7:7-13}
A father gives a man his daughter to wife for a dowry price {Gen 29:18-20}
A wife gives her maid for a wife to her husband. {Gen 16:3; 30:3-4,9}
Being a hired servant, his master gives his maidservant for a wife unto him. {Exo 21:4}
A father sells his daughter to be a maidservant betrothing her unto the man. {Exo 21:7-11}
A father sells his daughter to be a maidservant to a man for his son to wife { Exodus 21:7-11}
A female captive of war whom a man has a desire to wife {Duet 21:10-14}
A man receives a wife to perform "the duty of a husband's brother" unto her. {Deut 25:5-10; Gen 38:8}
A man receives a wife according to "the rights of inheritance" in Israel. {Num 36:8-9}
A believing woman who's unbelieving husband departed so she is free to marry a man in the Lord {1 Cor 7:15}
A woman who's husband died so she is free to marry whom she wills in the Lord. {1 Cor 7:39; 1 Sam 25:39-42}

How to Identify a "Man of Understanding"

A man of understanding is as follows according to precept:

Ecclesiasticus 33:3

A man of understanding trusteth in the law; and the law is faithful unto him, as an oracle.

He trusts in the law and has faith in the guidance he gets from it to walk in it fearing Ahayah:

Psalms 111:10

The fear of Ahayah is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.

Psalms 119:34

Give me understanding, and I shall keep thy law; yea, I shall observe it with my whole heart.

He does the commandments so that he may keep the law with his whole heart meditating on the testimonies to gain understanding of how to keep the law in wisdom in all facets of his life

Psalms 119:125

I am thy servant; give me understanding, that I may know thy testimonies.

Psalms 119:97

MEM. O how love I thy law! it is my meditation all the day.

Psalms 119:98 Thou through thy commandments hast made me wiser than mine enemies: for they are ever with me.

Psalms 119:99 I have more understanding than all my teachers: for thy testimonies are my meditation.

His understanding is shown in that he departs from evil fearing to do wrong to any man lest he offend the Lord

Job 28:28

And unto man he said, Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding.

In his labors of humility and long-suffering to have life through keeping the commandments, he will be on an excellent spirit walking uprightly

Pro 17:27

He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit.

Pro 15:21

Folly is joy to him that is destitute of wisdom: but a man of understanding walketh uprightly.

How a Woman Prepares for Her Husband from the Lord

Women, even as men, have to expend their labors on good works, studying, and their flocks (children/business) to become or remain a good woman until the Lord Yache give them as a wife to a man of understanding:

Sir 26:3

A good wife is a good portion, which shall be given in the portion of them that fear the Lord.

So sisters should also focus on their growth in the faith with patience to become holy women so that they may fall into the portion of a man that fears the Lord if Lord Yache wills they be married lest through idleness not putting in the work in walking righteousness, they fall into wickedness and be given to a wicked man (so that they may learn from the experience and grow):

Sir 26:23

wicked woman is given as a portion to a wicked man: but a holy woman is given to him that feareth the Lord.

Whether a woman is ordained to be married or not, as a believer her focus is to order her ways aright according to the law showing her trust in Alahayim through her faithfulness to keep the commandments: Trusting

Sir 2:6

Believe in him, and he will help thee; order thy way aright, and trust in him.

Sir 15:15

If thou wilt, to keep the commandments, and to perform acceptable faithfulness.

In your faithfulness to obey His voice observing his commandments as a woman that fears the Lord practicing humility and long-suffering by upholding the law, continue doing so in patience waiting for the will of Alahayim to be revealed whether He ordains for you to be given as a wife to a man of understanding or has ordained for you to maintain your chastity unto the Lord Yache remaining unmarried.

Sir 2:7-10

Ye that fear the Lord, wait for his mercy; and go not aside, lest ye fall. 8 Ye that fear the Lord, believe him; and your reward shall not fail. 9 Ye that fear the Lord, hope for good, and for everlasting joy and mercy. 10 Look at the generations of old, and see; did ever any trust in the Lord, and was confounded? or did any abide in his fear, and was forsaken? or whom did he ever despise, that called upon him?

For an example, Ruth choose to serve Ahayah Alahayim and was given unto Boaz, a righteous man, so the testimonies of the generations of old show none that trust in Ahayah are forsaken. In the meantime of waiting to know the Lord Yache's will for your life, whether to remain unmarried or be given to a man of understanding, a unmarried woman's focus is on the things of the Lord to keep herself pure in body and spirit as a holy woman prepared for whatever the Lord wills upon her life:

1 Corinthians 7:34

...The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: ..35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

That's the focus for unmarried sisters in the faith of Yache Christ:

1 Corinthians 7:8

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

Unmarried women (whether virgins or not) and widowed women of age 60 and up, it is good to abide unmarried.

1 Corinthians 7:9

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

For unmarried women (virgins or not), if marriage is necessary to keep oneself from sinning, then do so with the man of understanding in the Lord who the Lord Yache the Everlasting father wills for you to be married unto (and your father after the flesh consents unto) by evidence of revealing it unto you and him as he did for Asenath and Joseph.

1 Corinthians 7:36

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry

The man who gives his daughter in marriage has to be sure to give her unto a man of understanding who trusts in the law and operates according to it to do the commandments by evidence of him departing from evil his manner of life:

Sir 7:25

Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.

Giving one's daughter unto such a man in marriage according to the Lord's will is no sin:

1 Corinthians 7:28

..if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

Having the pleasure of intercourse will cause trouble in the flesh as once having partook in the pleasure, a woman will have need of resisting the desire for fornication (pleasure with someone that is not her husband) which can enter in through the love of pleasure, so once married, the woman would need to focus on how she may please her own husband and have due benevolence with him only to keep herself from the spirit of fornication:

1 Corinthians 7:2-5

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

1 Corinthians 7:34

There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. ..she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

For virgins who can contain and Lord Yache shows he wills for them to remain as chaste virgins towards him abiding in their virginity, their believing fathers may his virgin keep as the Lord wills:

1 Corinthians 7:37-38

For widowed women age 60 and up, if they cannot contain themselves, they may marry the man of understanding in the Lord whom the Lord wills them to be with; it’s no sin:

1 Corinthians 7:39

The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of Alahayim.

If the widows age 60 and over can contain themselves, then it is better if they abide in their chastity unto the Lord to remain pure in body and spirit performing the ministration of widows in the faith:

1 Timothy 5:3, 5-7

Honour widows that are widows indeed. 5 Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day. 6 But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth. 7 And these things give in charge, that they may be blameless.

The ministration of widows in the faith is as follows (regardless of their age):

Polycarp the the Philippians 4

3 Our widows must be sober-minded as touching the faith of the Lord, making intercession without ceasing for all men, abstaining from all calumny, evil speaking, false witness, love of money, and every evil thing, knowing that they are Alahayim's altar, and that all sacrifices are carefully inspected, and nothing escapeth Him either of their thoughts or intents or any of the secret things of the heart

The criteria for widows to remain as such and be entered into the number of the widows whom the church has charge over are as follows:

1 Timothy 5:9 Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man,

1 Timothy 5:10 Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.

For widowed women age 59 and below, they need to remarry unto the man of understanding that the Lord wills for them for their salvation. (They must continue in the "ministration of widows" until given in marriage of course):

1 Timothy 5:11-14

But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry; 12 Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith. 13 And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. 14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

1 Corinthians 7:39

The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

In either scenario (whether unmarried virgin, unmarried woman, or widows), if a woman is ordained of the Lord to be married, the same process of reasoning and seeking counsel on the matter to get the consent of the Bishop of our souls, Yache, and the blessing of their father is neccessary before taking action to marry:

Ecclesiasticus 37:15-16

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.

Ecclesiasticus 32:19

Do nothing without advice; and when thou hast once done, repent not.

Ecclesiasticus 22:16

As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.

Ignatius to Polycarp 5:2

It becometh men and women too, when they marry, to unite themselves with the consent of the bishop, that the marriage may be after the Lord and not after concupiscence. Let all things be done to the honour of Alahayim

So all things must be done with the consent of the Bishop Yache Christ the Lord according to his will as our Everlasting father, Yache Christ (even as it was done for Joseph and Asenath):

1 Peter 2:25

For ye were as sheep going astray; but are now returned unto the Shepherd and Bishop of your souls.

John 10:7, 11, 14

Then said Yache unto them again, Verily, verily, I say unto you, I am the door of the sheep. 11 I am the good shepherd: the good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep. 14 I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine.

When a woman is ready for marriage, Alahayim will give her to her husband even as Asenath was given to Joseph when she was truly ready for being an helpmeet to him and he had done the will of Alahayim keeping himself from evil through observing his commandments in humility and long-suffering.

Joseph and Asenath 15:2-5

The Lord will also do well and communicate by making the man of understanding whom she is ordained to be with aware that she is his wife to be so that both of them will know their union is ordained of the Lord uprightly and not for lust:

Joseph and Asenath 15:9

And lo! for my part I go to Joseph and will speak to him all these words concerning thee, and he will come to thee to-day and see thee

How to Identify a Man fit for Marriage:

This is great wisdom to help sisters understand these latter times and navigate through the current world by understanding through scripture what types of men to beware of and avoid lest they transgress in defiling the sanctuary of Ahayah (their heart) and dishonoring the name of their father by join themselves unto a strange man to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever:

2 Corinthians 6:14-18

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of Alahayim with idols? for ye are the temple of the living Alahayim; as Alahayim hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their Alahayim, and they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

The unclean thing is idolatry. It is not lawful for sons and daughters of the Most High Ala, the Father of our Lord Yache through faith and by faith, to make marriages with unbelievers lest they be lead as astray in such relationships to serve idols as befell Solomon for an example of how outlandish (unbelieving persons) spouses can cause a believer to sin:

Neh 13:25-27

And I contended with them, and cursed them, and smote certain of them, and plucked off their hair, and made them swear by Alahayim, saying, Ye shall not give your daughters unto their sons, nor take their daughters unto your sons, or for yourselves. 26 Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his Alahayim, and Alahayim made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin. 27 Shall we then hearken unto you to do all this great evil, to transgress against our Alahayim in marrying strange wives?

For these reasons, the commandments prohibit making marriages with unbelievers of any nation. Sisters this understanding helps to take heed not to consent unto any marriage to an unbeliever out of reverence for Alahayim and your fathers:

Jubilees 30:7-11

7. And if there is any man who wisheth in Israel to give his daughter or his sister to any man who is of the seed of the Gentiles he shall surely die, and they shall stone him with stones; for he hath wrought shame in Israel;

The seed of the Gentiles are referring to unbelievers who do not perform acceptable faithfulness by keeping the commandments of any nation including Israel. Believers who depart from iniquity keeping the commandments calling on the name of Yache are children of Abraham through faith (Gentiles) and by faith (Israel) and brethren in the faith of Yache Christ:

and they shall burn the woman with fire, because she hath dishonoured the name of the house of her father, and she shall be rooted out of Israel. 8. And let not an adulteress and no uncleanness be found in Israel throughout all the days of the generations of the earth; for Israel is holy unto Ahayah, and every man who hath
defiled (it) shall surely die: they shall stone him with stones. 9. For thus hath it been ordained and written in the heavenly tables regarding all the seed of Israel: he who defileth (it) shall surely die, and he shall be stoned with stones. 10. And to this law there is no limit of days, and no remission, nor any atonement: but the man who hath defiled his daughter shall be rooted out in the midst of all Israel, because he hath given of his seed to Moloch, and wrought impiously so as to defile it. 11. And do thou, Moses, command the children of Israel and exhort them not to give their daughters to the Gentiles, and not to take for their sons any of the daughters of the Gentiles, for this is abominable before Ahayah

Sisters, understand that in these last days, many men will not be men of understanding who are fit for marriage so take heed to keep yourselves pure in body and spirit until the Lord get you where you need to be for your own growth and he reveals who the husband is he has ordained for you even as he did for Asenath:

2 Timothy 3:1-5, 7, 6

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of Alahayim; 5 Having a form of holiness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

If a man is detected walking in any of these attributes or spirits, he is denying the power and not in the knowledge of the truth so he is not fit for marriage in the faith of Yache Christ.

2 Timothery 3:7, 6

7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. 6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,

This strange man would only seduce silly women laden with sins led away with divers lusts: This means that the man may seem well put together, but it’s wise to pay attention to the workings of the man and how he walks (his manner of life) and speaks. Is he an example of a believer or seeking to do so earnestly? For we know "For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief." Pro 24:16 So ladies keep an eye open and understand him to see if he does trip up does he keep getting worse adding sin upon sin [Sirach 3:27] or does he get back on his feet, learn and redirect his steps. [Pro 3:6] This is a key indicator and should be understood before walking into any relations, along with the proper steps of marriage. Women who aren't focused on the things of the Lord to keep themselves pure [1Co 7:34] but are rather living in pleasure [1 Tim 3:3] lead away with divers lusts, will be enticed by these unbelieving men and end up in unhealthy relationships. Women of understanding trusting in the law will go through the proper protocols on the other hand to keep themselves from strange men as Ahayah would not suffer them to be taken by his attempts like he protected the righteous woman in the purity of her maidenhood from her youth from the serpent so that she may preserve her rib (body) for the man she was made for by Alahayim:

Proverbs 3:13, 26

Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding. 26 For Ahayah shall be thy confidence, and shall keep thy foot from being taken.

4Macc 18:4-5

4. Now these are the words that the mother of the seven sons, the righteous woman, spake to her children: 'I was a pure maiden, and I strayed not from my father's house, and I kept guard over the rib that was builded into Eve. 5. No seducer of the desert, no deceiver in the field, corrupted me; nor did the false, beguiling Serpent sully the purity of my maidenhood; 6. I lived with my husband all the days of my youth;

You, daughters of Abraham in the faith, are given wisdom through these scriptures to not be seduced by strange men being led away from the truth. By abiding in the fruits of the Spirit, these will help you to identify for yourself what you need to see in others for a blessed bond. Please remember that prayer is needed and you should wait on word from Alahayim in patience until the Lord Yache give you to a man of understanding if he wills you be married. From the testimony of Joseph and Asenath along with Tobias and Sara, Alahayim shows a man and/or woman to whom they ought to be married. He speaks by dreams, visions, prophets, and Urim. [1 Sam 28:6] So abiding in faith, praying to the Most High about the man to direct your way in truth, [Sir 37:15] and waiting on an answer from Him in necessary patience [Sir 20:32] concerning a potential spouse to ensure counsel is had before any action is taken [Sir 37:16] will ensure that your heart will not fear at any time because it was established by advised counsel from the Lord: [Sir 22:16]

Sir 37:15-16

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.

Sir 20:32

Necessary patience in seeking the Lord is better than he that leadeth his life without a guide.

Sir 22:16

As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time

A Righteous Marriage Process

Step 1: The consent of the Bishop that the marriage may be after the Lord

Get the consent of the Bishop that the marriage may be after the Lord

Polycarp to Philippians 5:2

Inquire of Alahayim through Lord Yache or inquire of Lord Yache if the woman is whom they will for you to have before taking action and be patient for an answer:

Sir 37:15-16

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.

Sir 20:32

Necessary patience in seeking the Lord is better than he that leadeth his life without a guide.

Sir 32:19

Do nothing without advice; and when thou hast once done, repent not.

Sir 22:16

As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.

Step 2: Consent from her head of household

Speak to the woman's father or brother/male figure of near kin (if father is deceased) about marrying her:

Tob 6:10

Tob 7:1, 8-12

1 And when they were come to Ecbatane, they came to the house of Raguel, and Sara met them: and after they had saluted one another, she brought them into the house. 8 Moreover they entertained them cheerfully; and after that they had killed a ram of the flock, they set store of meat on the table. Then said Tobias to Raphael, Brother Azarias, speak of those things of which thou didst talk in the way, and let this business be dispatched. 9 So he communicated the matter with Raguel: and Raguel said to Tobias, Eat and drink, and make merry: 10 For it is meet that thou shouldest marry my daughter: nevertheless I will declare unto thee the truth. 11 I have given my daughter in marriage to seven men, who died that night they came in unto her: nevertheless for the present be merry. But Tobias said, I will eat nothing here, till we agree and swear one to another. 12 Raguel said, Then take her from henceforth according to the manner, for thou art her cousin, and she is thine, and the merciful Alahayim give you good success in all things.

Step 3: Receive her father's blessing

Tob 7:13

Then he called his daughter Sara, and she came to her father, and he took her by the hand, and gave her to be wife to Tobias, saying, Behold, take her after the law of Moses, and lead her away to thy father. And he blessed them;

Step 4: Write up the Marriage Covenants

Tob 7:14

And called Edna his wife, and took paper, and did write an instrument of covenants, and sealed it.

Step 5: A feast Wedding Feast

Tob 7:15-16

15 Then they began to eat. 16 After Raguel called his wife Edna, and said unto her, Sister, prepare another chamber, and bring her in thither.

Step 6: The Wedding Chamber

Tob 8:1, 4

1 And when they had supped, they brought Tobias in unto her. 4 And after that they were both shut in together, Tobias rose out of the bed, and said, Sister, arise, and let us pray that Alahayim would have pity on us.

Step 7: Pray For a Blessed Marriage

Tob 8:5-8

Then began Tobias to say, Blessed art thou, O Alahayim of our fathers, and blessed is thy holy and glorious name for ever; let the heavens bless thee, and all thy creatures. 6 Thou madest Adam, and gavest him Eve his wife for an helper and stay: of them came mankind: thou hast said, It is not good that man should be alone; let us make unto him an aid like unto himself. 7 And now, O Lord, I take not this my sister for lust but uprightly: therefore mercifully ordain that we may become aged together. 8 And she said with him, Amen.

Step 8: Consummate the Marriage

Tob 8:9, 19

So they slept both that night. 19 And he kept the wedding feast fourteen days.

Enjoy the rest of the feast, however long it lasts (usually 7-14 days in scripture).

Step 9: Move into the Marital Home

Take your wife with you to your homeland and get your parents blessing upon departure:

Tob 10:11-12

And he blessed them, and sent them away, saying, The Alahayim of heaven give you a prosperous journey, my children. 12 And he said to his daughter, Honour thy father and thy mother in law, which are now thy parents, that I may hear good report of thee. And he kissed her. Edna also said to Tobias, The Lord of heaven restore thee, my dear brother, and grant that I may see thy children of my daughter Sara before I die, that I may rejoice before the Lord: behold, I commit my daughter unto thee of special trust; wherefore do not entreat her evil.

Marriage Requirements

A wedding feast is a formality but isn't required by the law in marriage. A father's consent along with whatever dowry he may require (he may not require one at all) and consummation is all that is required to make a marriage complete. Jacob's marriage with Leah (a feast was held with no dowry) and his marriage with Rachel (no feast was held but a dowry was given) are examples of these in the testimonies:

Genesis 29:15-19

And Laban said unto Jacob, Because thou art my brother, shouldest thou therefore serve me for nought? tell me, what shall thy wages be? 16 And Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. 18 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter.19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me.

The consent and dowry price was agreed upon (for Rachel):

Genesis 29:20-21, 23, 25-26

20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her. 21 And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her. 22 And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast. 23 And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her.

A wedding feast was held for Leah and the marriage was consummated with Leah which shows a marriage doesn't require a dowry if the father does not require one as Leah was given to Jacob for nothing.

Genesis 29:25-28

25 And it came to pass, that in the morning, behold, it was Leah: and he said to Laban, What is this thou hast done unto me? did not I serve with thee for Rachel? wherefore then hast thou beguiled me? 26 And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn.

He received his wife Alahayim ordained for him (as Leah had to be given first according to the law of Alahayim unawares to Jacob at the time but Alahayim had mercy to ensure he kept it):

Jubilees 28:6-7

And Laban said to Jacob: "It is not so done in our country, to give the younger before the elder." And it is not right to do this; for thus it is ordained and written in the heavenly tables, that no one should give his younger daughter before the elder--but the elder one giveth first and after her the younger--and the man who doeth so, they set down guilt against him in heaven, and none is righteous that doeth this thing, for this deed is evil before Ahayah.7. And command thou the children of Israel that they do not this thing; let them neither take nor give the younger before they have given the elder, for it is very wicked.

So Jacob received Leah his first wife by 1) her father's consent and 2) consummating the marriage.

Jubilees 28:10

...for Leah had been given to him for nothing

After receiving his first wife according to the law, he received his second wife, Rachel, according to the law by 1) her father's consent, 2) an agreed dowry, and 3) consummating the marriage:

Jubilees 28:8-10

8. And Laban said to Jacob: "Let the seven days of the feast of this one pass by, and I shall give thee Rachel, that thou mayest serve me another seven years, that thou mayest pasture my sheep as thou didst in the former week." 9. And on the day when the seven days of the feast of Leah had passed, Laban gave Rachel to Jacob, that he might serve him another seven years, and he gave to Rachel, Bilhah, the sister of Zilpah as a handmaid. 10. And he served yet other seven years for Rachel, for Leah had been given to him for nothing.

Genesis 29:28

28 And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week: and he gave him Rachel his daughter to wife also.

What is A Marriage in the sight of Alahayim?

This edification helps understand what constitutes a marriage in the sight of the Lord according to scripture. A marriage is union between a man and an unmarried woman (if it be the Lord wills he have more than one wife, each wife he has would be an unmarried woman).

Mark 10:6-8

But from the beginning of the creation Alahayim made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore Alahayim hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

This is what marriage is from the beginning and if a man has more than one wife, each wife is one flesh with her husband as his bones and flesh respectively even as a man's father's wives, whether the man's mother or his father's other wife (though she is not his mother), they are his father's nakedness (flesh) so they ought not to be uncovered:

Leviticus 18:8

The nakedness of thy father's wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father's nakedness.

Relations between a man and another man’s lawful wife (according to scripture) is not upheld as a marriage as it is adultery for defiling one'self with her:

Leviticus 18:20

Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour's wife, to defile thyself with her.

Leviticus 20:10

And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

In regard to a man and an unmarried woman, though one doesn’t have to be legally married according to the court of law in any country to be married according to scripture, intercourse alone doesn’t make a man married to a woman according to scripture by evidence of the fact that if a man sleeps with a woman who isn’t betrothed (meaning she is unmarried or not espoused to someone else), he has to endow her to be his wife to rectify things with her father lest he bear sin for his fornication:

Exodus 22:16

And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.

The scriptures confirm, sleeping with an unmarried woman who isn’t your wife defiles her as Shechem defiled Dinah by laying with her when she wasn’t his wife:

Jdt 9:2

O Lord Alahayim of my father Simeon, to whom thou gavest a sword to take vengeance of the strangers, who loosened the girdle of a maid to defile her, and discovered the thigh to her shame, and polluted her virginity to her reproach; for thou saidst, It shall not be so; and yet they did so:

Jdt 12:16

Now when Judith came in and sat down, Holofernes his heart was ravished with her, and his mind was moved, and he desired greatly her company; for he waited a time to deceive her, from the day that he had seen her.

If he would have deceived her to entice her to lay with him out of his sinful desire to sleep with her, it would have been a sin with her to defile and shame her as she wasn’t his wife:

Jdt 13:16

As the Lord liveth, who hath kept me in my way that I went, my countenance hath deceived him to his destruction, and yet hath he not committed sin with me, to defile and shame me.

It was the spirit of Fornication leading Holefernes in his desire for pleasure and drinking wine only ministered unto the spirit of Fornication working in him to commit a shameful act (which Judith wasn't will do fulfill lest she shame herself):

Testament of Judah 13

2 For the spirit of fornication hath wine as a minister to give pleasure to the mind; for these two also take away the mind of man.

The spirit of Fornication just uses wine as a minister to help a person fulfill their desires or what they have pleasure in, yet the spirit of Fornication herself operates in the love of pleasure, so she can lead a soul to commit the following acts even without wine if the persons mind is overcome by her to let her enter their nature and senses:

Testament of Judah 13:1, 3

1 And now, my children, I say unto you, be not drunk with wine; for wine turneth the mind away from the truth, and inspires the passion of lust, and leadeth the eyes into error. 3 For if a man drink wine to drunkenness, it disturbeth the mind with filthy thoughts leading to fornication, and heateth the body to carnal union; and if the occasion of the lust be present, he worketh the sin, and is not ashamed.

This helps understand its fornication that leads to working sin without shame. Deceit aids Fornication to lead the mind to sin without shame if the person doesn’t preserve modesty (humility):

Testament of Judah 13:7-8

7 For much discretion needeth the man who drinketh wine, my children; and herein is discretion in drinking wine a man may drink so long as he preserveth modesty. 8 But if he go beyond this limit the spirit of deceit attacketh his mind, and it maketh the drunkard to talk filthily, and to transgress and not to be ashamed, but even to glory in his shame, and to account himself honourable.

testament of Judah 14:1

1 He that committeth fornication is not aware when he suffers loss, and is not ashamed when put to dishonour

Lord willing, this helps understand the spirits of Fornication and Deceit help a soul to commit sin without shame. Women, being the weaker vessel, are overcome with the spirit of Fornication more than men so a man has to take special care for the women of his household as their covering:

Testament of Reuben 5:3-4

3 For moreover, concerning them, the angel of the Lord told me, and taught me, that women are overcome by the spirit of fornication more than men, and in their heart they plot against men; and by means of their adornment they deceive first their minds, and by the glance of the eye instill the poison, and then through the accomplished act they take them captive. 4 For a woman cannot force a man openly, but by a harlot’s bearing she beguiles him.

Some daughters are not shamefaced unfortunately as they are overcome with spirit of Fornication which makes a person unashamed to sin so a father has to keep watch over them especially if they are showing signs of having pleasure in the works of the spirit of Fornication lest they defile themselves in their desire to fornicate to their shame in the sight of Alahayim:

Sir 42:9-11

The father waketh for the daughter, when no man knoweth; and the care for her taketh away sleep: when she is young, lest she pass away the flower of her age; 10 In her virginity, lest she should be defiled and gotten with child in her father's house…11 Keep a sure watch over a shameless daughter, lest she make thee a laughingstock to thine enemies, and a byword in the city, and a reproach among the people, and make thee ashamed before the multitude.

A man who has a shameless daughter (struggling with the spirits of Fornication and Deciet), has to keep watch over her body lest she shame him (and herself) by getting herself defiled in her youth:

Sir 26:9, 11

The whoredom of a woman may be known in her haughty looks and eyelids. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass against thee.

Sir 7:24

Hast thou daughters? have a care of their body, and shew not thyself cheerful toward them.

When a daughter is showing the characteristics or signs of whoredom (the spirit of Fornication), it’s not something to show one’s self cheerful about as it’s a serious matter to implement protocols to protect her body lest through her liberty to have her way, it leads to her getting enticed or enticing others to get defiled:

Sir 26:10-11

10 If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuse herself through overmuch liberty. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass against thee.

Fornication and Deceit would make her unashamed without reverence for others, so understanding this, a father is admonished not to be amazed if she happens to do something disrespectful towards him

Sir 26:12

12 She will open her mouth, as a thirsty traveller when he hath found a fountain, and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow.

That means she will desire to commit fornication or operate in the works of the spirit of Fornication in some way with different men so a father must implement protocols to keep her from shaming herself. Thankfully not all women are given to the spirit of Fornication to their shame as some will choose differently and thoses righteous women will keep themselves from being defiled not letting the serpent deceive them nor straying from their fathers house to be protected by him:

4Macc 18:4-5

This helps understand, the man who sleep with a woman that isn’t his wife has seduced her by enticing her to give into the desire for the pleasure of intercourse to defile the purity of her maidenhood (or her chastity in keeping herself for marriage when she comes to repentance from committing fornication in the past understanding her former deeds weren't profitable). So, if a man sleeps with a woman he isn’t espoused to, it’s fornication because a man ought to have gone through the proper steps for marriage (consent, dowry {if required}, then consummation) to have the pleasure of due benevolence with his own wife to avoid fornication.

1 Corinthians 6:18

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Sleeping with a woman who is not a man’s wife is a sin against his own body (dishonoring himself) and defiling her: [Rom 1:24]

1 Corinthians 7:2

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Through scripture this helps understand, sleeping with a unmarried woman (or one that is not espoused but she is not your own wife) is fornication and you would have to marry her to correct the error if her father (or brother) be willing to give her unto you or else, you’ll have to bear the sin and pay the cost for her to whom it is owed as she was her father’s possession that you defiled:

Exodus 22:16-17

And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

As for lawful marriage according to scripture, there are steps that must be taken and paperwork that is required for marriage according to scripture.

Marriage requires:

Consent from the woman’s father or brother if the father is ill deposed (or deceased).
Dowry (bride price) agreed upon with her father (or brother) and paid to him. {If required by whomever is giving her away}
Paperwork documenting the marriage covenants (agreements) of the man and his wife.
Wedding Feast & Marriage Chamber where intercourse to consummate the marriage takes place in during an optional wedding feast. If no wedding feast is had, intercourse consummates the marriage process to make it complete by law.

Disclaimer: There are different laws for remarriage situations (widows, maidservants & divorcees) and marriage to female captives. We just focused on the usual marriage between a man and an unmarried woman here

Pre-espousal intercourse or premarital intercourse falls under fornication. If a man entices a woman and sleeps with her without consent from her father (or brother) to have her as his wife and paying the agreed upon dowry for her (if required), it’s fornication and he has to surely endow her to be his wife to rectify things according to the law by making her his wife if her father agrees, but if her father refuses, he needs to pay her father none the less for what he has done. In this scenario, he and the woman committed fornication. The woman is not at liberty to marry without her father or brother’s consent. All the man and woman who fell into fornication can do is confess their sin, repent and give an offering (work righteousness with purity of heart and lips) [Ode of Solomon 20:1-4] hoping Alahayim will forgive it, and not to do the act again with anyone in their repentance learning their lesson to wait on Alahayim to provide a believing spouse and going through the proper process of a lawful marriage before intercourse or any intimate activity again:

Numbers 15:22-23, 27-29

And if ye have erred, and not observed all these commandments, which Ahayah hath spoken unto Moses, 23 Even all that Ahayah hath commanded you by the hand of Moses, from the day that Ahayah commanded Moses, and henceforward among your generations; 27 And if any soul sin through ignorance, then he shall bring a she goat of the first year for a sin offering. 28 And the priest shall make an atonement for the soul that sinneth ignorantly, when he sinneth by ignorance before Ahayah, to make an atonement for him; and it shall be forgiven him. 29 Ye shall have one law for him that sinneth through ignorance, both for him that is born among the children of Israel, and for the stranger that sojourneth among them.

Continuing in the sin of fornication presumptuously is another matter that we would not suggest anyone to take the risk of doing;

Numbers 15:30-31

But the soul that doeth ought presumptuously, whether he be born in the land, or a stranger, the same reproacheth Ahayah; and that soul shall be cut off from among his people. 31 Because he hath despised the word of Ahayah, and hath broken his commandment, that soul shall utterly be cut off; his iniquity shall be upon him.

Hebrews 10:26-31

For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, 27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. 28 He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses: 29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of Alahayim, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace? 30 For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people. 31 It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living Alahayim.

Is Same Gender Union Lawful?

The cause of same kind relations is spiritual fornication against Alahayim in idolatry;

Romans 1:21, 23

21 Because that, when they knew Alahayim, they glorified him not as Alahayim, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. 23 And changed the glory of the uncorruptible Alahayim into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.

Wisdom of Solomon 14:12, 27

For the devising of idols was the beginning of spiritual fornication, and the invention of them the corruption of life. 27 For the worshipping of idols not to be named is the beginning, the cause, and the end, of all evil.

Romans 1:24-25

Wherefore Alahayim also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25 Who changed the truth of Alahayim into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.

Through idolatry, the uncleanness of same kind (gender) relations come about to dishonor one’s body through sinning against it in fornication;

Romans 1:26-27

For this cause Alahayim gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

Understanding the error stems from idolatry in spiritual fornication behind the struggle with same kind relations, we are called to be steadfast in the faith with forbearance in hopes of helping them have an example to come out of the struggle through our love and good works:

Romans 15:1

We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves.

Ignatius to Ephesians 10:2-3

…against their errors be ye steadfast in the faith..3 Let us show ourselves their brothers by our forbearance

Hebrews 10:23-24

Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) 24 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:

in steadfast love and forbearance in meekness, we are called to remember our own shortcomings (or past) to operate in love regardless of what others may struggle with, not speaking evil of them or operating in hatred towards them understanding Alahayim just showed kindness unto us through Lord Yache to bring us out of our own struggles and can do the same for others:

Titus 3:2-8

To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men. 3 For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another. 4 But after that the kindness and love of Alahayim our Saviour toward man appeared, 5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Spirit; 6 Which he shed on us abundantly through Yache Christ our Saviour; 7 That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life. 8 This is a faithful saying, and these things I will that thou affirm constantly, that they which have believed in Alahayim might be careful to maintain good works. These things are good and profitable unto men.

By maintaining good works in keeping the commandments through the fruits of the Spirit, we can actually be profitable to others who may be struggling in their journey in life by pleasing them unto edification through love so they can see another way to live and choose the path towards Alahayim

Romans 15:2

Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.

1 Corinthians 8:1 Now as touching things offered unto idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth.

Our actions in love towards others will help them come out of the errors and turn to the truth when they receive the edification they need through our love towards them. This helps them and us by covering our sins by our love towards others

James 5:19-20

Brethren, if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him; 20 Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.

Along with good works in love unto their edification, our prayers are necessary according to the will of Alahayim who would have us all to be saved:

1 Timothy 2:1-4

I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; 2 For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty. 3 For this is good and acceptable in the sight of Alahayim our Saviour; 4 Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.

Lord willing this helps for compassion and guidance towards our fellow neighbors in the world who may be struggling with idolatry. As for the question of whether same kind unions (or relations) are lawful, unions between same kind genders are not upheld as a marriage as it’s not the image of the Alahayimhead which is male and female;

Romans 1:20-21, 23

For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Alahayimhead; so that they are without excuse:

Genesis 1:26-27

And Alahayim said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness:..27 So Alahayim created man in his own image, in the image of Alahayim created he him; male and female created he them.

For these reasons, same kind unions are not considered a marriage nor lawful in the sight of Alahayim as its not the image They created human beings in. It is also unlawful to have same kind relations as its a work of fornication to do so;

Leviticus 18:22

Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.

The lack of the knowledge of Alahayim (or rejecting His knowledge) gives a soul over in the mind to do such inconvenient things:

Romans 1:28

And even as they did not like to retain Alahayim in their knowledge, Alahayim gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

It is not convenient for the soul to be in spiritual fornication (idolatry) nor is it convenient for the body to be dishonored through same kind relations, nor is it a true union in the sight of Alahayim who’s images is male and female (by which a man and his wife can be fruitful and multiply in the Earth as they were commanded). Lord willing, this segment helps for understanding lawful marriage according to scripture.

Unrighteous ways to go about Marriage

If a man falls into lust, he'll trespass against Alahayim and entice an unmarried woman and she'll consent to lay with him (if she falls into lust herself).

Exo 22:16-17

To rectify his trespass, he must endow her to be his wife and pay the dowry price, but it does not mean her father has to consent to give his daughter unto him as her father has a care for her body to give her unto a man of understanding (if the Lord wills him to give her away in marriage).

Sir 7:24-25

Hast thou daughters? have a care of their body ...25 Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.

The Marriage Life

It is ordained from the beginning when a man takes a wife, his priorities change:

Gen 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

A woman's priorities change in marriage as well. Her desire is to her husband and he now has rule over her as oppose to her father:

Gen 3:16

Unto the woman he said,.....and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

Both a man and his wife's priorities change because the married seek how they may please their spouse unto edification by doing whats right according to the law:

1Co 7:32-34

But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin... she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

In pleasing on another, they would do whats right by one another unto edification (even if one of them was in unbelief but pleased to dwell with their believing spouse as the strong {believer} ought to bear the infirmities of the weak {unbeliever}):

Romans 15:1-2

We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. 2 Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.

1 Peter 3:1-2, 7

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

The law for marriage {Gen 2:24} didn't say a man forsakes his parents because that would make him a blasphemer {Sir 3:16}

Sir 3:16

He that forsaketh his father is as a blasphemer; and he that angereth his mother is cursed of Alahayim.

With the examples of Jacob aiding his parents and while tending to his own household needs first, shows that the husband still honors his parents, including in-laws, who have also become his parents, {Tobit 10:12} but he simply tends to the needs of his household first:

Jubilees 29:15-16, 20

15. And he sent to his father Isaac of all his substance, clothing, and food, and meat, and drink, and milk, and butter, and cheese, and some dates of the valley, 16. And to his mother Rebecca also four times a year, between the times of the months, between ploughing and reaping, and between autumn and the rain (season) and between winter and spring, to the tower of Abraham. 20. And thither Jacob sent all that he did send to his father and his mother from time to time, all they needed, and they blessed Jacob with all their heart and with all their soul.

A man leaves his parents, even as Jacob lived in his own house, and cleaves to his wife (or wives) being the head of his own house to begin his own possession:

Sir 36:24

He that getteth a wife beginneth a possession, a help like unto himself, and a pillar of rest.

His priorities have changed to focusing on cherishing and nurturing his wife up in serving Alahayim as a guide and example of a believer:

Eph 5:25-29

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

For this reason, a man ought to spend that first year with his new wife (or wives) to foster a healthy relationship and cheer up his wife (or wives) by not taking on any new business ventures or military assignments that would require him to go away so that he may be free at home with the job he already is doing to cultivate his relationship(s):

Deu 24:5

When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.

Pro 5:18

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

Ecclesiastes 9:9

That first year is pivotal in getting to know each other in the time spent nourishing their relationship and love for one another because the demon Asmodeus turns newly weds against each other (if they don't take the time to cleave to one another in the faith to withstand the devil):

Testament of Solomon 22-23

22. And I Solomon, on hearing this, bound him more carefully, and ordered him to be flogged with thongs of ox-hide, and to tell me humbly what was his name and what his business. And he answered me thus: "I am called Asmodeus among mortals, and my business is to plot against the newly wedded, so that they may not know one another.

So its this demon that hinders newly weds from taking the time to get to know one another:

And I sever them utterly by many calamities,

Then he causes hardships to befall them and they don't come together when times get tough, not having taken the time to build a solid relationship or walk in the fruits of the Spirit and faith in Yache with one another, so he accomplishes his goal of severing them utterly by the calamities he causes:

and I waste away the beauty of virgin women, and estrange their hearts."

This demon works on estranging women's hearts in hatred before they are even married so parents have to help their daughters by prayer and having righteous discourse with them to strengthen them in love and understanding.

23. And I said to him: "Is this thy only business?" And he answered me: "I transport men into fits of madness and desire, when they have wives of their own, so that they leave them, and go off by night and day to others that belong to other men; with the result that they commit sin, and fall into murderous deeds."

That demon also leads husbands into fits to commit evil of some kind against his wife. A husband and wife have to work hard at keeping unity in the faith because other spirits seek to attack them during the course of their marriage as well like the spirits of the cosmic darkness (Testament of Solomon 34, 38):

Testament of Solomon 89

89. The eighteenth said: "I am called Buldumêch. I separate wife from husband and bring about a grudge

between them:

Couples have to be mindful of being bitter towards one another knowing it's this demon separating them.

Col 3:19

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

Hermas Vision 1

3[7]:1 "But do thou, Hermas, no longer bear a grudge against thy children, neither suffer thy sister to have her way, so that they may be purified from their former sins. For they shall be chastised with a righteous chastisement, unless thou bear a grudge against them thyself. The bearing of a grudge worketh death. But thou, Hermas, hast had great tribulations of thine own, by reason of the transgressions of thy family, because thou hadst no care for them. For thou wast neglectful of them, and wast mixed up with thine evil transactions.

Neglect is a sign of bearing a grudge. A man must not neglect his family being mixed up in evil transactions of his own or bearing a grudge against them as it will hinder his prayers too:

Hermas Parable 9

23[100]:4 If Alahayim and our Lord, Who ruleth over all things and hath the authority over all His creation, beareth no grudge against them that confess their sins, but is propitiated, doth man, who is mortal and full of sins, bear a grudge against man, as though he were able to destroy or save him? 23[100]:5 I say unto you--I, the angel of repentance--unto as many as hold this heresy, put it away from you and repent, and the Lord shall heal your former sins, if ye shall purify yourselves from this demon; but if not, ye shall be delivered unto him to be put to death.

He must focus on the Lord's business to please him, dwell with his wife according to the knowledge of the law without being bitter so their prayers aren't hindered and tend to his family through the righteous chastisement of words of righteousness spoken daily and holding them accountable in gentleness, longsuffering and love so that they can come out of their struggles as well. Bearing a grudge is a evil demon, so both husband and wife have to be mindful not to grieve the Holy Spirit by walking in the works of that demon or the works of the flesh that grieve Her too:

Eph 4:30

And grieve not the holy Spirit of Alahayim, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.

Pro 15:18

A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.

If a man or woman does get frustrated, they ought to be still and keep silent in purity of heart and sit upon their bed to get back to tranquility and cheerfulness where the Holy Spirit dwells:

Psa 4:4

Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah

If a wrong was committed against a spouse (as the demon said he causes wrongs in the house), the servants of the Lord are admonished not to sin when angry by taking heed to the instructions of Psalms 4:4 and forgiving whomever from the heart and not being bitter about it before the day ends in order to not give place to the devil by forgiveness in love and bearing grudges amongst other spirits that may attach to the person:

Eph 4:26-27

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.

As men and women grow in the faith, they rule their own spirit to be slow to anger, operating in discretion with the spirits of long suffering and understanding rather than getting frustrated or upset, but remaining gentle, cheerful and tranquil:

Pro 16:32

He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city

Pro 19:11

The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression

Eph 4:31-32, 30

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as Alahayim for Christ's sake hath forgiven you 30 And grieve not the Holy Spirit of Alahayim, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption
Hermas Mandate 5

1[33]:1 "Be thou long-suffering and understanding," he saith, "and thou shalt have the mastery over all evil deeds, and shalt work all righteousness.

1[33]:2 For if thou art long-suffering, the Holy Spirit that abideth in thee shall be pure, not being darkened by another evil spirit, but dwelling in a large room shall rejoice and be glad with the vessel in which she dwelleth, and shall serve Alahayim with much cheerfulness, having prosperity in herself.
1[33]:3 But if any angry temper approach, forthwith the Holy Spirit, being delicate, is straitened, not having [the] place clear, and seeketh to retire from the place; for she is being choked by the evil spirit, and has no room to minister unto the Lord, as she desireth, being polluted by angry temper. For the Lord dwelleth in long- suffering, but the devil in angry temper.

2[34]:3 But long-suffering is great and strong, and has a mighty and vigorous power, and is prosperous in great enlargement, gladsome, exultant, free from care, glorifying the Lord at every season, having no bitterness in itself, remaining always gentle and tranquil. This long-suffering therefore dwelleth with those whose faith is perfect.

2[34]:4 But angry temper is in the first place foolish, fickle and senseless; then from foolishness is engendered bitterness, and from bitterness wrath, and from wrath anger, and from anger spite; then spite being composed of all these evil elements becometh a great sin and incurable.

2[34]:5 For when all these spirits dwell in one vessel, where the Holy Spirit also dwelleth, that vessel cannot contain them, but overfloweth.

2[34]:6 The delicate spirit therefore, as not being accustomed to dwell with an evil spirit nor with harshness, departeth from a man of that kind, and seeketh to dwell with gentleness and tranquility.

2[34]:7 Then, when it hath removed from that man, in whom it dwells, that man becometh emptied of the righteous spirit, and henceforward, being filled with the evil spirits, he is unstable in all his actions, being dragged about hither and thither by the evil spirits, and is altogether blinded and bereft of his good intent. Thus then it happeneth to all persons of angry temper.

2[34]:8 Refrain therefore from angry temper, the most evil of evil spirits. But clothe thyself in long-suffering, and resist angry temper and bitterness, and thou shalt be round in company with the holiness which is beloved of the Lord.

Hermas Mandate 10

3[42]:1 "Therefore clothe thyself in cheerfulness, which hath favor with Alahayim always, and is acceptable to Him, and rejoice in it. For every cheerful man worketh good, and thinketh good, and despiseth sadness;

According to the law of Moses a man leads his wife away with him:

Tob 7:13

Then he called his daughter Sara, and she came to her father, and he took her by the hand, and gave her to be wife to Tobias, saying, Behold, take her after the Law of Moses, and lead her away to thy father: And he blessed them,

(The taking of the hand to give her to her husband was to show the transfer of authority over his daughter. The woman being the man's bones and flesh, goes away from her parents with him. In the Testimonies, the patriarchs did the same.)

Jasher 45:6, 12, 19

And Levi took Adinah, and Issachar took Aridah, and they came to the land of Canaan, to their father’s house, and Adinah bare unto Levi, Gershon, Kehath and Merari ; three sons. 12. And Asher went forth and took Adon the daughter of Aphlal, the son of Hadad, the son of Ishmael, for a wife, and he brought her to the land of Canaan. 19. And Zebulun went to Midian, and took for a wife Merishah the daughter of Molad, the son of Abida, the son of Midian, and brought her to the land of Canaan

even when one may have multiple wives, they still leave their father's house to be with their husband.

Genesis 31:14-18

14 And Rachel and Leah answered and said unto him, Is there yet any portion or inheritance for us in our father's house? 15 Are we not counted of him strangers? for he hath sold us, and hath quite devoured also our money. 16 For all the riches which Alahayim hath taken from our father, that is ours, and our children's: now then, whatsoever Alahayim hath said unto thee, do. 17 Then Jacob rose up, and set his sons and his wives upon camels; 18 And he carried away all his cattle, and all his goods which he had gotten, the cattle of his getting, which he had gotten in Padanaram, for to go to Isaac his father in the land of Canaan.

Genesis 33:18

18 And Jacob came to Shalem, a city of Shechem, which is in the land of Canaan, when he came from Padan–aram; and pitched his tent before the city.

Through Jacob's testimony, a man moves to a new place with his wife in agreement with them to go. According to the scriptures, we have testimonies to see that the woman also has her desire unto her husband forgetting her father's house, so both husband and wife have to leave their parents and cleave together.

Psalm 45:10-11

10 Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget also thine own people, and thy father's house; 11 So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he is thy Lord; and worship thou him.

Understanding due Benevolence

Concerning extra marital pleasures between a man and his wife, i.e "foreplay" the teaching is: "marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled;"[Heb 13:4] this means a husband may lawfully be ravished in the love of his wife [Prob 5:17-18] with consensual and due benevolence seeing as though they belong to each other. [I Cor 7:3-5] So it is not unlawful for a husband and his wife to enjoy each other in the privacy of their bed (so long as they avoid any unlawful intercourse.

Heb 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers Alahayim will judge.

Definition:

G4205 (Strong)

πόρνος

pornos

From πέρνημι pernēmi (to sell; akin to the base of G4097); a (male) prostitute (as venal), that is, (by analogy) a debauchee (libertine): - fornicator, whoremonger.

Debauchee: a person given to excessive indulgence in sensual pleasures.

Fornicator: a person who engages in sexual intercourse outside of marriage.

Whoremonger: a person who has dealings with prostitutes, especially a sexually promiscuous man.

Thayer Definition:

1) a man who prostitutes his body to another’s lust for hire 2) a male prostitute 3) a man who indulges in unlawful sexual intercourse, a fornicator

It is righteous for spouses to be passionate for one another and enjoy benevolence with each other in due season:

Pro 5:18-19

1Co 7:3-5

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Testament of Naphtali 8:7-10

7 For the commandments of the law are twofold, and through prudence must they be fulfilled. 8 For there is a season for a man to embrace his wife, and a season to abstain there from for his prayer. 9 So, then, there are two commandments; and, unless they be done in due order, they bring very great sin upon men.

10 So also is it with the other commandments. Be ye therefore wise in Alahayim, my Children, and prudent, understanding the order of His commandments, and the laws of every word, that the Lord may love you.

Testament of Naphtali 2:9

9 So then, my children, let all your works be done in order with good intent in the fear of Alahayim, and do nothing disorderly in scorn or out of its due season.

It is not upright to defraud one another of due benevolence except with consent, lest Satan tempt you for your incontinency to go commit fornication with someone that is not your spouse:

1Co 7:2

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Also, a man and his wife must avoid unclean or filthy intercourse in their marriage. The Union of a husband and his wife is beautiful in the sight of Alahayim because He is united in agreement with His family and made man to be in His image. Wisdom, Ahayah’s wife, the Mother of all creation, counts husband and wife as a thing that beautifies her as well:

Sir 25:1, 7-8

In three things I was beautified, and stood up beautiful, both before Alahayim and men: the unity of brethren, the love of neighbors, a man and a wife that agree together. 7 There be nine things which I have judged in mine heart to be happy, and the tenth I will utter with my tongue: a man that hath joy of his children, and he that liveth to see the fall of his enemy. 8 Well is him that dwelleth with a wife of understanding, and that hath not slipped with his tongue, and that hath not served a man more unworthy then himself.
Sir 40:23

A friend and companion never meet amiss: but above both is a wife with her husband.

Unlawful Intercourse in Marriage

Marriage, Intercourse, and Procreation

Alahayim created man in his own image and likeness. He gave man a woman for union in the image of His own union with the Holy Spirit as male and female, even as Christ (our Everlasting father) and the Church (the mother of us all) are united as one. A man’s wife is for his companionship and help in his labor in this life. She is also for him to impregnate to beget children in the earth to be fruitful and multiply (procreate) according to the blessing Alahayim gave the man and his woman.

Gen 2:18

And Ahayah Alahayim said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him

Enoch 15:5

5. Therefore have I given them wives also that they might impregnate them, and beget children by them, that thus nothing might be wanting to them on earth

Jasher 1:6

6. And Alahayim blessed them and called their names Adam and Eve in the day that He created them, and Ahayah Alahayim said, be fruitful multiply and fill the earth.

Along with being fruitful and having a wife (or wives) for companionship and an help, the man was given his wife to rejoice in and be ravished with her love in contentment with his portion from the Lord:

Ecclesiasticus 26:3

A good wife is a good portion, which shall be given in the portion of them that fear the Lord.

Proverbs 5:18-19

When a man has gotten his wife, he is supposed to have children with her so that he may have a blessed seed (children) with her:

Ecclesiasticus 36:24

He that getteth a wife beginneth a possession, a help like unto himself, and a pillar of rest.

Ecclesiasticus 26:20-21

When thou hast gotten a fruitful possession through all the field, sow it with thine own seed, trusting in the goodness of thy stock. 21 So thy race which thou leavest shall be magnified, having the confidence of their good descent.

When a man gets that good possession (wife) from all the earth, he sows his seed in it (as he was given his wife to impregnate) and trusts good fruit will come from his seed in that woman he is familiar with that's walking after his mind.

Understanding Filthy Intercourse

Unfortunately, men went against the commandment regarding being fruitful and multiplying of old time in their desire to fulfill their filthy lusts for the pleasure of intercourse and maintaining their wive’s beauty of figure without desiring children in their marriages:

Jasher 2:19-20

The use of body altering contraceptives (like birth control or Plan B) of any sort to render a woman barren altering her natural use (as she was given from Alahayim to her husband to utilize the power of procreation and intercourse by impregnating her) is a trespass against Alahayim who commanded to multiply and gave wives for that purpose (amongst others). A man is also partaking in evil if he consents unto his wife decision to alter her body with with contraceptives and if he persuades her to do it, he is in trespass as the sons of men did in Jasher 9:19-20 and the woman would be partaking in evil if she agrees to his unrighteous counsel to do so.

Jasher 9:21-22

And when the sons of men caused some of their wives to drink, Zillah drank with them. 22. And the child-bearing women appeared abominable in the sight of their husbands, as widows, whilst their husbands lived, for to the barren ones only they were attached.

These men didn't truly love their wives as their affection for them was based on their appearance. These men who made their wives barren didn’t love them uprightly by evidence of their desire for them being based on the beauty of their figures not desiring to have a family with them (and if they did have a second wife who could bear children, they would discard them only having affection for the one’s who maintained their figure to fulfill their filthy lusts for the pleasure of intercourse and the beauty of women). From the testimonies this helps understand, a man having intercourse with his wife only for the sake of fulfilling his lust by evidence of rendering her barren with a body altering contraceptive is unlawful (trespassing against Alahayim) and falls under “filthy intercourse” in a marriage.

An Example of Filthy Intercourse

Mygdonia, a believing woman, refused the filthy intercourse with her unbelieving husband (who wasn’t pleased to dwell with her by evidence of trying to turn her from the faith) because the intercourse they were having was only for the pleasure of intercourse and her beauty for an example of avoiding filthy intercourse for believers. Charisius, her husband chose her for marriage because of her stature in society (she was wealthier and from a more noble family birth than him) and her beauty exceeded other women. Both reasons were for his own glory, not out of sincere love uprightly, but for his lust:

Acts of Thomas 91

Telling whose wife she was, when the captain said: “She is the wife of Charisius, the kinsman of Misdaeus the king, he which is her husband is a hard man, for everything that he says to the king, the king obeys. Charisius will not allow her to continue in this state of mind which was promised to her, for there were lots of times when he praised her before the king, saying that there is no other woman he loves like her.

The reasons he loved her above other women is shown in his words and actions:

Acts of Thomas 93-94

But Charisius, the kinsman and friend of Misdaeus the king, came home from breakfast and found his wife not at home; he inquired from everyone that were in his house: “where have your mistress gone?” And one of them answered and said: “She has gone to that stranger.” When he heard this from his servant, he was angry with the other servants because they had not told him straightway where she was: then he sat down and waited for her. In the evening she returned and he asked her: “where have you been?” And she answered and said: “with the healer” Then he said to her: “Is that stranger a doctor?” And she said: “Yes, he is a physician of souls: for most physicians heal the body that is sick, but he heals the soul so that it will not be destroyed.” Charisius, hearing this, was very angry with Mygdonia because of the apostle, but he said nothing, for he was afraid because of her status which was above him both in wealth and of birth: so he left for dinner and she went to her room. Once there he said to the servants: “call her to come to dinner.” But she refused. 94 And when he heard that she refused to come out of her room, he went to her and said: “why would you not dine with me anymore and possibly not sleep with me anymore?

His real desire is to sleep with her as he will show by his actions (to help understand he avoided arguing with her not only because of her stature in society but also he didn't want to not be able to fulfill his desire):

Acts of Thomas 95

And when Charisius spoke, Mygdonia was silent, but she prayed, asking for daylight so that she might go to the apostle of Christ. Charisius then withdrew from her and went to dinner with a lot on his mind, for he was thinking of sleeping with her according to the want. And when he left, she bowed her knees and prayed, saying: “Lord Alahayim and Master, merciful Father, Savior Yache, do you give me the strength to overcome the shamelessness of Charisius and to help me to obtain the holiness wherein you delight, so that I too may find eternal life. After she had prayed, she laid herself on her bed and covered herself.

She didn't want to continue in the shamelessness of filthy intercourse just for the sake of pleasure and beauty without the desire for children after she learned from the apostle Thomas that the filthy intercourse she was having wouldn't profit her and realizing her relationship with her husband was based on lust and fulfilling pleasures not love uprightly. [Acts of Thomas 87]

Acts of Thomas 96

After Charisius had dined he came naked upon her, and she cried out, saying: “you have no more room here by me, for my Lord Yache is greater than you, He who is with me and rests in me.” And he laughed and said: “Why do you mock me, saying this of that sorcerer, and why do you knock him, who said: you have no life with Alahayim unless you purify yourselves.” And when he had said this he demanded to sleep with her,

He wasn't concerned for her as a person, but only that she may be as she was before so he could fufill his desire for pleasure;

but she refused and cried out bitterly and said: “I call upon You, Lord Yache, forsake me not! For with You I have made my refuge; for when I learned that You are Him that seeks out those that are covered in ignorance and saves them that are held in sin, but now I pray to You whose report I have heard and believed, come and help me and save me from the shamelessness of Charisius, so that his foulness may not get the upper hand of me. She then managed to tie his hands together and fled from him naked, and as she went forth she pulled down the curtain of the bedchamber and wrapped it about her; and went to her nurse, and slept there with her. But Charisius was troubled all night, and covered his face with his hands, and was thinking of going that very hour to tell the king what violent behavior was done unto him, but he thought about it, saying: “If my worries compel me to go to the king now, who will take me? I know that from all this abuse it had put an end to my reputation, my admiration and my dignity, which had cast me down into this depravity and had separated my sister Mygdonia from me.

Acts of Thomas 112

112…From you, Mygdonia I have received no help, and from this day on I will not worship the alahayims of the east anymore, because they have brought me these misfortunes, I have also decided that I will not pray to them or sacrifice to them anymore, for I am in mourning of my spouse. Cause what else should I ask of them? All my glory has been taken away, yet I am still a prince and next in power to the king, but you Mygdonia, had left me with nothing and has taken all these things away from me.

Acts of Thomas 113

And while Charisius spoke these things with tears, Mygdonia sat silently and looked upon the ground; then again he came to her and said: “My lady Mygdonia, most desired by me, remember from out of all the women of India, I chose you and took you as the most beautiful, although I could have chosen for myself in

marriage many other beautiful women: but yet I lie, Mygdonia, for by the alahayims it would not have been possible to find another woman like you in the whole land of India;

He felt his glory was in having one of the most beautiful, wealthy, and noble birthed women amongst the Indians which shows he didn’t marry her uprightly but for the sake of the glory (status) he could gain from the world through her. He also loved her because of the pleasure he got out of his filthy intercourse with her only desiring the pleasure and beauty of her body but not desiring children with her so she could keep her beauty that he felt gave him worldly glory:

Acts of Thomas 87

…Then he said to the woman Mygdonia: Rise up from the ground and compose yourself (take off thine ornaments and be mindful of yourself. For your clothes that you have on shall not profit you. Neither shall the beauty of your body, or your dress, neither your prestige status, or the authority of this world, or the filthy sex with your husband shall benefit you, should you long for true fellowship: for the physical appearance of decoration means nothing, and the body grows old and changes, and raiment wears out, and authority and mastership passes away, the fellowship of sex also passes away and is as it were condemnation.

Intercourse for pleasure without the desire for children was the filthy intercourse she was having with her husband to help understand how intercourse can be corrupted though married.

Filthy Intercourse Effects on the Family

In the testimonies, we also see getting married to have intercourse only for lust sake will lead to trouble in family life as the desire for intercourse isn’t upright out of love and desire for children as Alahayim commanded:

Acts of Thomas 12

“Remember, my children, what my brother said to you, and to whom he commended you; and know that if you refrain from this filthy intercourse you become temples holy and pure, being released from afflictions and troubles, known and unknown, and you will not be involved in the cares of life and of children, whose end is destruction. But if you get many children, for their sakes you become grasping and avaricious, plundering orphans and deceiving widows, and by doing this you subject yourselves to most grievous punishments. For most children become unprofitable, being possessed by demons, some openly and some secretly. For they become either lunatics or half-withered or crippled or deaf or dumb or paralytics or idiots. And though they be healthy, they will be again good-for-nothing, doing unprofitable and abominable works. For they will be detected either in adultery or in murder or in theft or in unchastity, and by all these you will be afflicted.

When marrying and desiring intercourse uprightly (out of love for one’s spouse having gotten to know her, being ravaged with her love and the desire for children) it will bring forth good fruit in the family having kept the commandments:

Acts of Thomas 12-13

…But if you obey and preserve your souls pure to Alahayim, there will be born to you living children, untouched by these hurtful things, and you will be without care, spending an untroubled life, free from grief and care, looking forward to receive that incorruptible and true marriage, and you will enter as groomsmen into that bridal chamber full of immortality and light.” 13 And when the young people heard this, they believed the Lord and gave themselves over to him and refrained from the filthy lust, and remained thus spending the night in the place. And the Lord went away from them saying, “the grace of the Lord be with you!”

They spent the night getting to know one another first so that they may be in agreement after the man’s mind in the Lord so that when they unite, it would be in love and truth uprightly. Tobit is an example of uprightly taking a wife as he desired to marry her for the sake of children, companionship, and upholding the law

Tobit 4:12-13

Beware of all whoredom, my son, and chiefly take a wife of the seed of thy fathers, and take not a strange woman to wife, which is not of thy father's tribe: for we are the children of the prophets, Noe, Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob: remember, my son, that our fathers from the beginning, even that they all married wives of their own kindred, and were blessed in their children, and their seed shall inherit the land. 13 Now therefore, my son, love thy brethren, and despise not in thy heart thy brethren, the sons and daughters of thy people, in not taking a wife of them: for in pride is destruction and much trouble, and in lewdness is decay and great want: for lewdness is the mother of famine.

When taking a wife in humility, it would be the believing woman that Alahayim ordains to be taken as was the case with Tobit (and Joseph who took a wife in humility and long-suffering according to the process of waiting on Alahayim):

Tobit 4:19-21

Bless the Lord thy Alahayim alway, and desire of him that thy ways may be directed, and that all thy paths and counsels may prosper: for every nation hath not counsel; but the Lord himself giveth all good things, and he humbleth whom he will, as he will; now therefore, my son, remember my commandments, neither let them be put out of thy mind. 20 And now I signify this to thee that I committed ten talents to Gabael the son of Gabrias at Rages in Media. 21 And fear not, my son, that we are made poor: for thou hast much wealth, if thou fear Alahayim, and depart from all sin, and do that which is pleasing in his sight.

Tobit 5:1-6, 16

Tobias then answered and said, Father, I will do all things which thou hast commanded me: 2 But how can I receive the money, seeing I know him not? 3 Then he gave him the handwriting, and said unto him, Seek thee a man which may go with thee, whiles I yet live, and I will give him wages: and go and receive the money. 4 Therefore when he went to seek a man, he found Raphael that was an angel. 5 But he knew not; and he said unto him, Canst thou go with me to Rages? and knowest thou those places well? 6 To whom the angel said, I will go with thee, and I know the way well: for I have lodged with our brother Gabael. 16 So they were well pleased. Then said he to Tobias, Prepare thyself for the journey, and Alahayim send you a good journey. And when his son had prepared all things for the journey, his father said, Go thou with this man, and Alahayim, which dwelleth in heaven, prosper your journey, and the angel of Alahayim keep you company. So they went forth both, and the young man's dog with them.

Tobit 6:10-12, 17

The angel said to the young man, Brother, to day we shall lodge with Raguel, who is thy cousin; he also hath one only daughter, named Sara; I will speak for her, that she may be given thee for a wife. 11 For to thee doth the right of her appertain, seeing thou only art of her kindred. 12 And the maid is fair and wise: now therefore hear me, and I will speak to her father; and when we return from Rages we will celebrate the marriage: for I know that Raguel cannot marry her to another according to the law of Moses, but he shall be guilty of death, because the right of inheritance doth rather appertain to thee than to any other. 17 …but when thou shalt come to her, rise up both of you, and pray to Alahayim which is merciful, who will have pity on you, and save you: fear not, for she is appointed unto thee from the beginning; and thou shalt preserve her, and she shall go with thee. Moreover I suppose that she shall bear thee children. Now when Tobias had heard these things, he loved her, and his heart was effectually joined to her.

He was shown she was a good (wise) woman and his lawful wife to be as she was ordained for him from Alahayim from the beginning and he had the opportunity to have children with her; all which made him love and desire her uprightly

Tobit 8:4-8

And after that they were both shut in together, Tobias rose out of the bed, and said, Sister, arise, and let us pray that Alahayim would have pity on us. 5 Then began Tobias to say, Blessed art thou, O Alahayim of our fathers, and blessed is thy holy and glorious name for ever; let the heavens bless thee, and all thy creatures. 6 Thou madest Adam, and gavest him Eve his wife for an helper and stay: of them came mankind: thou hast said, It is not good that man should be alone; let us make unto him an aid like unto himself. 7 And now, O Lord, I take not this my sister for lust but uprightly: therefore mercifully ordain that we may become aged together. 8 And she said with him, Amen.

There we see he married uprightly for a helper and a stay desiring children, not lustfully marrying for the love of pleasure in filthy intercourse which can negatively affect their relationship and their family (children). Jacob is also an example of loving a wife righteously for who she is as a person, not merely because of her beauty and status in society as Charisius did:

Jubilees 36:23

23. For he loved her exceedingly after Rachel her sister died; for she was perfect and upright in all her ways and honoured Jacob, and all the days that she lived with him he did not hear from her mouth a harsh word, for she was gentle and peaceable and upright and honourable. 24. And he remembered all her deeds which she had done during her life, and he lamented her exceedingly; for he loved her with all his heart and with all his soul.

Impure Intercourse

Unlawful intercourse also includes fornication and adultery (sleeping with someone who is not your lawful spouse according to the commandments) which is "impure intercourse."

Acts of Thomas 50-51

I loved a woman who lived in an inn outside the city, and she loved me also. And when I heard about you, believing that you proclaim the living Alahayim, I came and received the seal from you along with the others. And you said, “Whoever shall indulge in impure intercourse, especially in adultery, shall not have life with the

Alahayim whom I preach.” As I loved her very much, I entreated her and tried to persuade her to live with me in chaste and pure conduct, as you teach. And she would not. Since she would not, I took a sword and killed her. For I could not see her commit adultery with another.” 51 When the apostle heard this he said, “O insane intercourse, how you lead to shamelessness! O unrestrained lust, how have you excited this man to do this! O work of the serpent, how you rage in your own!

The love of pleasure in intercourse and the unrestrained lust to fulfill it leads to impure intercourse (unable to resist the pleasure) like fornication and adultery. Intercourse was meant for man and his wife to partake in for pleasure with one another and fulfill the work of filling the earth as commanded by procreation.

Testament of Rueben 2:3, 9

Alahayim created man and gave him eyes (to behold and desire his own wife or wives), the constitution of reproductive organs, and the power of procreation and intercourse to be ravished in her love and fulfill the fruitful work of filling the earth with children by her (or them). Then his wife or wives will help build up his household

Ruth 4:11

…Ahayah make the woman that is come into thine house like Rachel and like Leah, which two did build the house of Israel:..

The spirits of deceit appointed against mankind, particularly the spirit of Fornication, leads a man away from his purposes Alahayim appointed him through the love of pleasure in lust, covetousness and the insatiable desires of his eyes being unable to resist what is not his portion (adultery) or neglecting the command of Alahayim (to be fruitful) and the natural use of his own wife (procreation) rendering her barren or aborting their children “perverting the use of intercourse” in his love for pleasure and desire of his eyes to maintain her figure (though not desiring to have children).

Testament of Rueben 2:1-2, 9

1 And now hear me, my children, what things I saw concerning the seven spirits of deceit, when I repented. 2 Seven spirits therefore are appointed against man, and they are the leaders in the works of youth…9 The seventh is the power of procreation and sexual intercourse, with which through love of pleasure sins enter in. Wherefore it is the last in order of creation, and the first in that of youth, because it is filled with ignorance, and leadeth the youth as a blind man to a pit, and as a beast to a precipice.

Testament of Reuben 3:2

2 With these spirits are mingled the spirits of error. First, the spirit of fornication is seated in the nature and in the senses;

If a person loves the pleasure of intercourse unable to refrain from their lusts, it allows sins to enter in. This “first spirit of deceit in youth” that Rueben is referring to is the spirit of Fornication who operates in the love of evil pleasures which allows sins to enter in as She operates in the nature and the senses to lead a soul to sins.

Testament of Rueben 2:9

9 The seventh is the power of procreation and sexual intercourse, with which through love of pleasure sins enter in.

Testament of Reuben 3:2

2 With these spirits are mingled the spirits of error. First, the spirit of fornication is seated in the nature and in the senses;

Fornication, an error causing spirit, mingles with the power of procreation and intercourse through the love of pleasure operating in the nature and senses (eyes etc) to lead a soul astray to "pervert intercourse" by abortion, or corrupt it by "filthy intercourse" of some kind in pleasure without desiring children or "impure intercourse" having intercourse out of wedlock in fornication and adultery) causing a person to sin being drawn away from Alahayim to serve idols.

Testament of Rueben 2:9

…Wherefore it is… the first in that of youth, because it is filled with ignorance, and leadeth the youth as a blind man to a pit, and as a beast to a precipice.

Testament of Reuben 4:6

When in idolatry, the spiritual fornication causes adulteries, slaying (abortions) and the uncleanness of filthy intercourse:

Wisdom of Solomon 14:12, 21-24

For the devising of idols was the beginning of spiritual fornication, and the invention of them the corruption of life. 21 And this was an occasion to deceive the world: for men, serving either calamity or tyranny, did ascribe unto stones and stocks the incommunicable name. 22 Moreover this was not enough for them, that they erred in the knowledge of Alahayim; but whereas they lived in the great war of ignorance, those so great plagues called they peace. 23 For whilst they slew their children in sacrifices, or used secret ceremonies, or made revellings of strange rites; 24 They kept neither lives nor marriages any longer undefiled: but either one slew another traiterously, or grieved him by adultery.

There is the filthy intercourse (not desiring children), the perverting of intercourse (causing abortion slaying children), and impure intercourse (committing fornication, adultery, or maintaining a relationship with a spouse who is committing adultery)

Wisdom of Solomon 14:25-27

So that there reigned in all men without exception blood, manslaughter, theft, and dissimulation, corruption, unfaithfulness, tumults, perjury, 26 Disquieting of good men, forgetfulness of good turns, defiling of souls, changing of kind, disorder in marriages, adultery, and shameless uncleanness. 27 For the worshipping of idols not to be named is the beginning, the cause, and the end, of all evil

So it’s the spirit of Fornication in the nature and senses blinding to soul to fulfill filthy intercourse, impure intercourse, and the perverting of intercourse not having compassion to abort one’s children or trespass against Alahayim, one's body, and one's spouse if married.

Unlawful Intercourse is also intercourse in the buttocks as it is unclean intercourse by evidence of it being a work of a demon;

Testament of Solomon 61

And the spirit answered and said: "This is the first time I have stood before the, O King Solomon. I am a spirit made into a alahayim among men, but now brought to naught by the ring and wisdom vouchsafed to thee by Alahayim. Now I am the so-called winged dragon, and I chamber not with many women, but only with

a few that are of fair shape, which possess the name of xuli, of this star. And I pair with them in the guise of a spirit winged in form, copulating with them through their buttocks

It is also uncleanness to approach unto your wife to uncover her nakedness or lay with her during her time of separation (menstrual cycle). Likewise it is uncleanness to approach any woman in such case.

Leviticus 18:19

Also thou shalt not approach unto a woman to uncover her nakedness, as long as she is put apart for her uncleanness.

Leviticus 15:24

And if any man lie with her at all, and her flowers be upon him, he shall be unclean seven days; and all the bed whereon he lieth shall be unclean.

Leviticus 20:18

And if a man shall lie with a woman having her sickness, and shall uncover her nakedness; he hath discovered her fountain, and she hath uncovered the fountain of her blood: and both of them shall be cut off from among their people.

Leviticus 18:26

Ye shall therefore keep my statutes and my judgments, and shall not commit any of these abominations; neither any of your own nation, nor any stranger that sojourneth among you:

It is also unrighteous if one has multiple wives to lay with more than one in a day as Jacob only slept with one wife per day if due benevolence was desired:

Genesis 30:14-16

And Reuben went in the days of wheat harvest, and found mandrakes in the field, and brought them unto his mother Leah. Then Rachel said to Leah, Give me, I pray thee, of thy son's mandrakes. 15 And she said unto her, Is it a small matter that thou hast taken my husband? and wouldest thou take away my son's mandrakes also? And Rachel said, Therefore he shall lie with thee to night for thy son's mandrakes. 16 And Jacob came out of the field in the evening, and Leah went out to meet him, and said, Thou must come in unto me; for surely I have hired thee with my son's mandrakes. And he lay with her that night.

It’s evil to sleep with multiple women at once in any instance as it was a transgression of Absolom in the testimonies not only to commit adultery but he was sleeping with multiple women at once:

2 Samuel 16:21-22

And Ahithophel said unto Absalom, Go in unto thy father's concubines, which he hath left to keep the house; and all Israel shall hear that thou art abhorred of thy father: then shall the hands of all that are with thee be strong. 22 So they spread Absalom a tent upon the top of the house; and Absalom went in unto his father's concubines in the sight of all Israel.

The Perverting of Intercourse

As intercourse was to be used for procreation, the “perverting of intercourse” between a man and his wife is abortion (destroying the work of Alahayim that was commanded to be done) and the killing of children after they are born is murder:

Barnabas 19:5

Thou shalt not murder a child by abortion, nor again shalt thou kill it when it is born.

Murdering a child by abortion before it is born is "the perverting of intercourse."

Acts of Thomas 54

And the apostle said to her,” Tell us where you have been.” And she answered, “do you, who were with me, to whom also I was entrusted wish to hear?” and she commenced thus, “an ugly-looking man, entirely black received me; and his clothing was exceedingly filthy. And he took me to a place where there were many

chasms, and a great stench and most hateful vapour were given forth thence. And he made me to look into each chasm, and in the first I saw blazing fire, and fiery wheels running, and souls were hung upon these wheels, dashing against each other. And there was crying and great lamentation and no Savior was there. And that man said to me, “These souls are akin to you, and in the days of reckoning they were delivered to punishment and destruction. And then others are brought in their stead; in like manner all these are again succeeded by others. There are they who perverted the intercourse of man and wife.’ And again I looked down and saw infants heaped upon each other, struggling and lying upon each other. And he said to me, ‘these are their children, and for this they are placed here for a testimony against them.’

Apocalypse of Peter Chapter 8

And near by this flame shall be a pit, great and very deep, and into it floweth from above all manner of torment, foulness, and issue. And women are swallowed up therein up to their necks and tormented with great pain. These are they that have caused their children to be born untimely, and have corrupted the work of Alahayim that created them…

They corrupted the procreation and birthing process that Alahayim ordained for the forming of children in the womb by some means of abortion to cause the child to die. By these means, the work of Alahayim was corrupted as he gave us the power of procreation and intercourse in wedlock to be fruitful and multiply as He commanded:

…Other men and women shall stand above them, naked; and their children stand over against them in a place of delight, and sigh and cry unto Alahayim because of their parents, saying: These are they that have despised and cursed and transgressed thy commandments and delivered us unto death: they have cursed the angel that formed us, and have hanged us up, and withheld from us the light which thou hast given unto all creatures. And the milk of their mothers flowing from their breasts shall congeal, and from it shall come beasts devouring flesh, which shall come forth and turn and torment them for ever with their husbands, because they forsook the commandments of Alahayim and slew their children. As for their children, they shall be delivered unto the angel Temlakos (i.e. a care-taking angel). And they that slew them shall be tormented eternally, for Alahayim willeth it so

The women and their husbands, though married were only having intercourse to fulfill the pleasure of it without the desire for children in procreation by evidence of killing their children by some means anytime they had a pregnancy come up in their relationship. This manner of acting in a marriage to have intercourse without the desire for children and slaying one's children (whether by abortion, untimely births, or killing it after it is born) falls under the category of fornication though married:

…Over against them shall be another place where sit their children [both] alive, and they cry unto Alahayim. And flashes (lightnings) go forth from those children and pierce the eyes of them that for fornication's sake have caused their destruction…

Unlawful Intercourse in a Marriage includes:

“Filthy Intercourse” just for filthy lust without the desire for children.
“Perverting of Intercourse” being married and causing abortion not wanting to have kids though wanting to fulfill the pleasure of intercourse. This is the “perverting of intercourse” as it was meant to exercise the power of procreation and have children when Alahayim causes your wife to conceive seed from the pleasure of intercourse with her. Sleeping with your wife without the desire for children by slaying the child whenever a pregnancy arises falls under the category of fornication as well.
"Trespassing against Alahayim” being married but using body altering contraceptives rendering wives barren (by whatever means) to sleep with them for pleasure enjoying their beauty of figure without the ability to have children out of a desire for them to maintain their beautiful figure without the desiring to have children. This is a trespass against Alahayim and falls under filthy intercourse as it’s for lust sake without desire for procreation.
“Anal intercourse” of any kind (as it’s a work of a demon)
“Adultery (fornication)” of any kind by intimate relations with a man that’s not your lawful husband or the wife of another man.
“Uncleanness” Sleeping with multiple wives in the same day.
“Abomination” sleeping with a wife during the time of her menstrual cycle

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