Understanding Marriage
  • From the beginning it was ordained for man and woman to be joined (cleave) together and be one (united) flesh (body/family). The concept of divorce was not from the beginning, because what Ahayah has put together, let no man put asunder.

Gen 2:20

And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the foul of the air, and to every beast of the field: but for Adam there was not found an helpmeet for him.

Gen 2:18

And AHAYAH Alahayim said, It is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an helpmeet H5828 for him.


H5828 עֵֶזֵֶר ezere From H5826; aid: - help.

H5826 עזַַָָר ‛ezere e-zere' A primitive root; to surround, that is, protect or aid: - help, succor.

  • Ahayah’s decree was to make an aid to help for the man not to be alone in his life. A man is cleaved unto his wife and they walk as one flesh according to the will of Alahayim.

Gen 2:21

And AHAYAH Alahayim caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof.
Gen 2:22

And the rib which AHAYAH Alahayim had taken from man, made he a woman, & brought her unto the man.
Gen 2:23

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.

Gen 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave H1692 unto his wife: and they shall be one H259 flesh.




dobekwa A primitive root; properly to impinge, that is, cling or adhere; figuratively to catch by pursuit: - abide, fast, cleave (fast together), follow close (hard, after), be joined (together), keep (fast), overtake, pursue hard, stick, take.



okọdu A numeral from H258; properly united, that is, one; or (as an ordinal) first: - a, alike, alone, altogether, and, any (-thing), apiece, a certain [dai-] ly, each (one), + eleven, every, few, first, + highway, a man, once, one, only, other, some, together.


  • The woman was created for the man, yet is the man of the woman, so they are one together as the Image of of Alahayim. 

1Co 11:7  For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of Alahayim: but the woman is the glory of the man. 
1Co 11:8  

For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 
1Co 11:9  

Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. 


  • It is ordained from the beginning when a man takes a wife, his priorities change. As it is written " a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife." He is no longer firstly(primarily) a servant to his parents; but he becomes a servant, guide, and leader by example unto his household first, and then his obligations to his parents come second. He leaves his parents and cleaves to his wife because they shall not be separated, so being master of his own house, his priorities have changed. With the examples of Jacob living near his parents and aiding them, while tending to his own house shows that the husband still honors his father and his mother, including in-laws who have also become his parents, {Tobit 10:12} but he tends to the needs of his household firstly while still giving reverence to his parents. 

  • The husband and his wife or wives leave their family to be in unity as one body just as Jacob's wives agreed to do when he took his wives and left their father Laban {Gen 31:4-18} to go with him to his own home in Shechem, {Gen 33:18} while his father Isaac lived in Hebron.{Gen 35:27} So we can see both husband and his wife or wives left their parents house. According to the scriptures, we have more examples to see that the man would take his wife and bring her to his homeland, so both have to leave their parents and cleave together. 

Psalm 45:10-11

10  Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget also thine own people, and thy father's house;

11  So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he is thy Adono; and worship thou him.

Genesis 31:14-18

14  And Rachel and Leah answered and said unto him, Is there yet any portion or inheritance for us in our father's house?

15  Are we not counted of him strangers? for he hath sold us, and hath quite devoured also our money.

16  For all the riches which Alahayim hath taken from our father, that is ours, and our children's: now then, whatsoever Alahayim hath said unto thee, do.

17  Then Jacob rose up, and set his sons and his wives upon camels;

18  And he carried away all his cattle, and all his goods which he had gotten, the cattle of his getting, which he had gotten in Padanaram, for to go to Isaac his father in the land of Canaan.

Genesis 33:18

18  And Jacob came to Shalem, a city of Shechem, which is in the land of Canaan, when he came from Padan–aram; and pitched his tent before the city.
Tob 7:13

Then he called his daughter Sara, and she came to her father, and he took her by the hand, and gave her to be wife to Tobias, saying, Behold, take her after the Law of Moses, and lead her away to thy father: And he blessed them,  (The taking of the hand to give her to her husband was to show the transfer of authority over his daughter. This also shows the law of Moses was to take one's wife with you to the land of one's father because she is now one's bones and flesh. This law was even before Moses because the 11 Patriarchs and Jacob did the same thing.)
Jasher 45:5.

And Levi and Issachar went to the land of the east, and they took unto themselves wives from the daughters of Jobab, the son of Yoktan son of Eber ; and Jobab, the son of Yoktan, had two daughters; the name of the elder was Adinah, and the name of the younger was Aridah. 
Jasher 45:6.

And Levi took Adinah, and Issachar took Aridah, and they came to the land of Canaan, to their father’s house, and Adinah bare unto Levi, Gershon, Kehath and Merari ; three sons.
Jasher 45:7.

and Dan went to the land of Moab and took for a wife Aphlaleth, the daughter of Chamudan the Moabite, and he brought her to the land of Canaan.
Jasher 45:8

And Gad and Naphtali went to Haran and took from thence the daughters of Amuram the son of Uz, the son of Nahor, for wives.
Jasher 45:10.

And these are the names of the daughters of Amuram ; the name of the elder was Merimah, and the name of the younger Uzith ; and Naphtali took Merimah, and Gad took Uzith ; and brought them to the land of Canaan, to their father’s house.
Jasher 45:12.

And Asher went forth and took Adon the daughter of Aphlal, the son of Hadad, the son of Ishmael, for a wife, and he brought her to the land of Canaan.
Jasher 45:13.

And Adon the wife of Asher died in those days; she had no offspring. And it was after the death of Adon that Asher went to the other side of the river and took for a wife Hadurah the daughter of Abimael, the son of Eber, the son of Shem.
Jasher 45:14.

And the young woman was of a comely appearance, and a woman of sense, and she had been the wife of Malkiel the son of Elam, the son of Shem.
Jasher 45:15.

And Hadurah bare a daughter unto Malkiel, and he called her name Serach, and Malkiel died after this, and Hadurah went and remained in her father’s house.
Jasher 45:16.

And after the death of the wife of Asher, he went and took Hadurah for a wife, and brought her to the land of Canaan, and he also brought with them Serach her daughter, and she was three years old, and the damsel was brought up in Jacob’s house.
Jasher 45:17.

And the damsel was of a comely appearance, and she went in the sanctified ways of the children of Jacob; she lacked nothing, and AHAYAH gave her wisdom and understanding.
Jasher 45:19.

And Zebulun went to Midian, and took for a wife Merishah the daughter of Molad, the son of
Abida, the son of Midian, and brought her to the land of Canaan
Jasher 45:21.

And Jacob sent to Aram the son of Zoba, the son of Terah, and for his son Benjamin he took Mechalia, the daughter of Aram, and she came to the land of Canaan to the house of Jacob; and Benjamin was ten years old when he took Mechalia the daughter of Aram for a wife. (Exodus 21:9 He bought her to be a wife for his son as the law states one can do.)
Jasher45: 22.

And Mechalia conceived and bare unto Benjamin, Bela, Becher, Ashbel, Gera and Naaman, five sons; and Benjamin went afterward and took for a wife Aribath, the daughter of Shomron, the son of Abraham, in addition to his first wife, and he was eighteen years old; and Aribath bare unto Benjamin, Achi, Vosh, Mupim, Chupim, and Ord ; five sons. (even when one may have multiple wives, they still have to leave their father's house to be with their husband.)

  • Ahayah gave men wives, so they may be an aid to continue the race of men and populate the earth as he commanded.

Gen 1:28 

 And Alahayim blessed them, and Alahayim said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. 

Enoch 15: 1-7

[1] And He answered and said to me, and I heard His voice:’ Fear not, Enoch, thou righteous

[2] man and scribe of righteousness: approach hither and hear my voice. And go, say to [the Watchers of heaven] who have sent thee to intercede [for them: "You should intercede for men, and not men

[3] for you: Wherefore have ye left the high, holy, and eternal heaven, and lain with women, and defiled yourselves with the daughters of men and taken to yourselves wives, and done like the children

[4] of earth, and begotten giants (as your) sons? And though ye were holy, spiritual, living the eternal life, you have defiled yourselves with the blood of women, and have begotten (children) with the blood of flesh, and, as the children of men, have lusted after flesh and blood as those [also] do who die

 and perish.

[5] Therefore have I given them wives also that they might impregnate them, and beget

 children by them, that thus nothing might be wanting to them on earth.

[6] But you were [formerly]

[7] spiritual, living the eternal life, and immortal for all generations of the world. And therefore I have not appointed wives for you; for as for the spiritual ones of the heaven, in heaven is their dwelling.

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