Lawful Marriages

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Understanding the process of Marriage

A Father's Counsel for His Son

Testament of Reuben 2:1-2

1 And now hear me, my children, what things I saw concerning the seven spirits of deceit, when I repented. 2 Seven spirits therefore are appointed against man, and they are the leaders in the works of youth

Testament of Reuben 3:2–8

2 With these spirits are mingled the spirits of error. 3 First, the spirit of fornication is seated in the nature and in the senses; the second, the spirit of insatiableness, in the belly; the third, the spirit of fighting, in the liver and gall. 4 The fourth is the spirit of obsequiousness and chicanery, that through officious attention one may be fair in seeming. 5 The fifth is the spirit of pride, that one may be boastful and arrogant. The sixth is the spirit of lying, in perdition and jealousy to practice deceits, and concealments from kindred and friends. 6 The seventh is the spirit of injustice, with which are thefts and acts of rapacity, that a man may fulfill the desire of his heart; for injustice worketh together with the other spirits by the taking of gifts. 7 And with all these the spirit of sleep is joined which is that of error and fantasy. 8 And so perisheth every young man, darkening his mind from the truth, and not understanding the law of Alahayim, nor obeying the admonitions of his fathers as

befell me also in my youth.

It’s the spirits of error in youth that lead to disobeying the admonitions of our fathers to make marriages according to their counsel. The counsel of a father helps keep from marrying the wrong woman

Testament of Reuben 3:9-10

9 And now, my children, love the truth, and it will preserve you: hear ye the words of Reuben your father. 10 Pay no heed to the face of a woman, nor associate with another man’s wife, nor meddle with affairs of womankind.

Testament of Reuben 4:1

1 Pay no heed, therefore, my children, to the beauty of women, nor set your mind on their affairs; but walk in singleness of heart in the fear of the Lord, and expend labour on good works, and on study and on your flocks, until the Lord give you a wife, whom He will, that ye suffer not as I did.

Testament of Judah 16:1

1 And now, I command you, my children, not to love money, nor to gaze upon the beauty of women; because for the sake of money and beauty I was led astray to Bathshua the Canaanite.

Ecclesiasticus 9:5, 8, 6

Gaze not on a maid, that thou fall not by those things that are precious in her. 8 Turn away thine eye from a beautiful woman, and look not upon another's beauty; for many have been deceived by the beauty of a woman; for herewith love is kindled as a fire. 6 Give not thy soul unto harlots, that thou lose not thine inheritance.

Proverbs 5:20

And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

Tobit 4:12-13

Beware of all whoredom, my son, and chiefly take a wife of the seed of thy fathers, and take not a strange woman to wife, which is not of thy father's tribe: for we are the children of the prophets, Noe, Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob: remember, my son, that our fathers from the beginning, even that they all married wives of their own kindred, and were blessed in their children, and their seed shall inherit the land. 13 Now therefore, my son, love thy brethren, and despise not in thy heart thy brethren, the sons and daughters of thy people, in not taking a wife of them: for in pride is destruction and much trouble, and in lewdness is decay and great want: for lewdness is the mother of famine.

A wise son keeps his father's commands to remember them to keep himself for the right woman in marriage:

Joseph and Asenath 7:6

And Joseph kept his father Jacob’s face before his eyes continually, and remembered his fathers’ commandments; for Joseph had Alahayim always before his eyes and ever remembered the injunctions of his father; for Jacob often spake and admonished his son Joseph and all his sons: " Keep yourselves, children, securely from a strange woman so as not to have fellowship with her, for fellowship with her is ruin and destruction."

Ecclesiasticus 26:19-21

My son, keep the flower of thine age sound; and give not thy strength to strangers. 20 When thou hast gotten a fruitful possession through all the field, sow it with thine own seed, trusting in the goodness of thy stock. 21 So thy race which thou leavest shall be magnified, having the confidence of their good descent.

A father in the faith instructions his sons to marry after this manner when he has been given a good woman from the Lord:

Testament of Levi 9

6 And Isaac called me continually to put me in remembrance of the law of the Lord, even as the angel of the

Lord showed unto me. 8 And each day he was instructing me, and was busied on my behalf before the Lord, and said to me: 9 Beware of the spirit of fornication; …10 Take, therefore, to thyself a wife without blemish or pollution, while yet thou art young, and not of the race of strange nations.

The spirit of fornication and pride, two amongst the spirits of error in youth, would lead to marrying a strange woman without our father’s counsel as befell Judah to understand the good work of getting our father’s counsel in marriage in humility, is a good work to keep us in obedience to the law of Alahayim. Jacob for example got his fathers counsel on marriage before taking a wife:

Jasher 29:24, 26-28

24. And Isaac called unto Jacob and said unto him: Take not a wife from the daughters of Canaan, for thus did our father Abraham command us according to the word of the Lord which He had commanded him, saying, unto thy seed will I give this land; if thy children keep my covenant that I have made with thee, then will I also perform to thy children that which I have spoken unto thee and I will not forsake them. 26. Therefore take heed lest thou shouldst forget the Lord thy Alahayim and all his ways in the land to which thou goest, and shouldst get connected with the people of the land and pursue vanity and forsake the Lord thy Alahayim. 27. But when thou comest to the land serve there the Lord, do not turn to the right or to the left from the way which I commanded thee and which thou didst learn. 28. And may the Almighty Alahayim grant thee favor in the sight of the people of the earth, that thou mayest there take a wife according to thy choice; one who is good and upright in the ways of the Lord

Having the testimonies for guidance, a man gets his father’s counsel and inquire’s of Alahayim’s will to be directed in truth before taking a wife:

Testament of Judah 12:4

4 For I said to my father-in-law: I will take counsel with my father, and so will I take thy daughter.

Ecclesiasticus 37:15-16

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.

A Father's Care for His Daughter

A father, being given honor over the children from the Lord, has care for his daughter's body

Sir 3:2

For the Lord hath given the father honour over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons.

Sir 7:24

Hast thou daughters? have care of their body, ....

Sir 42:9-10

The father waketh for the daughter, when no man knoweth; and the care for her taketh away sleep: when she is young, lest she pass away the flower of her age; ...10 In her virginity, lest she should be defiled and gotten with child in her father's house; ...

By reverencing Alahayim to walk in His ways (fruits) and keep His commandments, a father maintains his authority over his house:

Ecclesiasticus 10:21

The fear of the Lord goeth before the obtaining of authority: but roughness and pride is the losing thereof.

Having honor over the children and the care of his daughter's body, the father has authority to give her in marriage or keep his virgin pure (according to what Alahayim wills him to do):

1 Cor 7:36

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

If Alahayim wills him to give his daughter in marriage, it's a weighty matter as he has to be mindful to give her to a man of understanding whom Alahayim wills she be given to:

Sir 7:25

Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.

How to Identify a "Man of Understanding"

A man of understanding is as follows according to precept:

Ecclesiasticus 33:3

A man of understanding trusteth in the law; and the law is faithful unto him, as an oracle.

He trusts in the law and has faith in the guidance he gets from it to walk in it fearing Ahayah knowing doing the commandments is going to attain unto good understanding:

Psalms 111:10

The fear of Ahayah is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.

Psalms 119:34

Give me understanding, and I shall keep thy law; yea, I shall observe it with my whole heart.

He doesn't glory in knowledge knowing its Alahaiyim who gives understanding. He does the commandments so that he may keep the law with his whole heart meditating on the testimonies to gain understanding of how to keep the law in wisdom in all facets of his life.

Psalms 119:125, 97-99

I am thy servant; give me understanding, that I may know thy testimonies. 97 O how love I thy law! it is my meditation all the day. 98 Thou through thy commandments hast made me wiser than mine enemies: for they are ever with me. 99 I have more understanding than all my teachers: for thy testimonies are my meditation.

His understanding is shown in that he departs from evil fearing to do wrong to any man lest he offend the Lord

Job 28:28

And unto man he said, Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding.

Testament of Gad 5:3, 5

3 For he that is just and humble is ashamed to do what is unjust, being reproved not of another, but of his own heart, because the Lord looketh on his inclination. 5 For fearing lest he should offend the Lord, he will not do wrong to any man, even in thought.

In his labors of humility and long-suffering to have life through keeping the commandments, he will be of an excellent spirit walking uprightly letting his actions in good works speak for him rather than many words:

Pro 17:27

He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit.

Pro 15:21

Folly is joy to him that is destitute of wisdom: but a man of understanding walketh uprightly.

Sir 18:28

Every man of understanding knoweth wisdom, and will give praise unto him that found her

A father who knows Wisdom because he keeps the commandments will praise another man of understanding who has found Her and give him his daughter in marriage if Alahayim wills it. Yet, a father does not have to give his virgin in marriage if Alahayim doesn't will him to do it:

1Co 7:37-38

Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

Even if a daughter is defiled by a man who enticed her to lay with him, her father still has authority over her body to choose if he wills to give her unto the man or not according as Alahayim would have him to do:

Exodus 22:16-17

And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

The father has authority to keep his virgin daughter or marry his daughter unto whom Alahayim wills him to in the Lord:

Sir 36:21

A woman will receive every man, yet is one daughter better than another.

Though one daughter may be more righteous than another, a woman in the faith will receive which ever man of understanding her father appoints for her to marry trusting Alahayim's will and her father having her best interest at heart. There are laws concerning a father giving his daughter in marriage:

Laws on Making Marriages

No Intercourse Before Marriage

Testament of Judah 12:4

4 For I said to my father-in-law: I will take counsel with my father, and so will I take thy daughter.

Joseph and Asenath 20:8

And Joseph stayed that day with Pentephres; and he did not sleep with Aseneth, for he said, "It is not right for a man who worships Alahayim to have intercourse with his wife before their marriage."

A man has to wait until he has gone through the proper steps of marriage before sleeping with his wife. The proper steps are 1) Get his heavenly father's and earthly father's counsel, 2) Get her father's consent (or brother's) {and dowry agreement if required}. These two steps, however they may come to pass, both must be taken care of before having intercourse with your wife during an optional wedding feast. {marriages post-war and marrying widows are slightly different in that her father's consent (or brother's) is not required in such instances}.

Elders Before the Younger

It is evil for a father to give his younger daughter in marriage before the elder daughter.

Jubilees 28:6-7
[6]And Laban said to Jacob: 'It is not so done in our country, to give the younger before the elder.' And it is
not right to do this; for thus it is ordained and written in the heavenly tablets, that no one should give his
younger daughter before the elder; but the elder, one gives first and after her the younger and the man who
does so, they set down guilt against him in heaven, and none is righteous that does this thing, for this
deed is evil before Ahayah. [7] And command thou the children of Israel that they do not this thing; let them neither take nor give the younger before they have given the elder, for it is very wicked.

Prostitution

It is not lawful to prostitute your daughter to cause her to be a whore nor your son to make him a male prostitute:

Lev 19:29

Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.

Deu 23:17

There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel.

Unequally Yoked with Unbelievers

For men in the faith, it is unlawful to marry an unbeliever (strange woman) or give our daughters unto an unbeliever (strange man):

Ezra 10:2

And Shechaniah the son of Jehiel, one of the sons of Elam, answered and said unto Ezra, We have trespassed against our Alahayim, and have taken strange wives of the people of the land:…

Nehemiah 13:25-27

And I contended with them, and cursed them, and smote certain of them, and plucked off their hair, and made them swear by Alahayim, saying, Ye shall not give your daughters unto their sons, nor take their daughters unto your sons, or for yourselves. 26 Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his Alahayim, and Alahayim made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin. 27 Shall we then hearken unto you to do all this great evil, to transgress against our Alahayim in marrying strange wives?

2 Corinthians 6:14-15

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

Exodus 34:12, 15-16

Take heed to thyself, lest thou make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land whither thou goest, lest it be for a snare in the midst of thee: 15 Lest thou make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land, and they go a whoring after their alahayims, and do sacrifice unto their alahayims, and one call thee, and thou eat of his sacrifice; 16 And thou take of their daughters unto thy sons, and their daughters go a whoring after their alahayims, and make thy sons go a whoring after their alahayims.

Giving Seed to Moloch

Its unlawful to give your women (daughters and sisters) in marriage unto an unbeliever of any nation or take an unbelieving woman to yourself or your son for a spouse:

Jubilees 30:7, 12-13

7. And if there is any man who wisheth in Israel to give his daughter or his sister to any man who is of the seed of the Gentiles he shall surely die, and they shall stone him with stones; for he hath wrought shame in Israel; and they shall burn the woman with fire, because she hath dishonoured the name of the house of her father, and she shall be rooted out of Israel. 12. For this reason I have written for thee in the words of the Law all the deeds of the Shechemites, which they wrought against Dinah, and how the sons of Jacob spake, saying: "We shall not give our daughter to a man who is uncircumcised; for that were a reproach unto us." 13. And it is a reproach to Israel, to those who give, and to those who take the daughters of the Gentiles; for this is unclean and abominable to Israel.

As believers of all nations are children of Abraham because of their faith making them brothers and sisters, [Gal 3:7-9, 26-29] "the seed of the Gentiles" is referring to any man of any nation including Israel (as not all Israel are of Israel) [Rom 2:28-29; 9:6] who does not believe in Yache Christ and practice (work) righteousness by keeping the commandments and operating in the fruits of the Spirit to keep from evil. In regards to the seed of the Gentiles (unbelievers), it is a shame (reproach) for a man to give his daughter or sister to a man uncircumcised in heart and a woman who marries an unbeliever has dishonored her father's house, which is the house of Abraham by faith for all nations that believe. [Jubilees 30:7, 12-13] A man is only to give his daughter or sister to Christian men of understanding, which are the children of Abraham by faith (men of Israel) and through faith (brethren of the Gentiles) that maintain good works departing from iniquity as is becoming of those who call upon the name of Christ Yache. [Tit 3:8; 2Tim 2:19] circumcising their heart in humility to keep the commandments with pleasure in love with all the heart and soul:

Deuteronomy 10:16

Circumcise therefore the foreskin of your heart, and be no more stiffnecked.

Deuteronomy 30:6

And Ahayah thy Alahayim will circumcise thine heart, and the heart of thy seed, to love Ahayah thy Alahayim with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, that thou mayest live.

1 John 5:3

For this is the love of Alahayim, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.

Women of the faith, whether daughters of Israel or the sisters of the Gentiles, who may have unbelieving fathers or brethren, are only to consent unto marrying men of understanding (Believers) according to Alahayim's will so that they may also honor their father Abraham as well.

Identifying the Seed of the Gentiles vs the Children of Abraham

Faith made Abraham the father of all believers:

Rom 4:11-12

And he received the sign of circumcision, a seal of the righteousness of the faith which he had yet being uncircumcised: that he might be the father of all them that believe, though they be not circumcised; that righteousness might be imputed unto them also: 12 And the father of circumcision to them who are not of the circumcision only, but who also walk in the steps of that faith of our father Abraham, which he had being yet uncircumcised.

This is in reference to the Israelites and Gentiles so that even those who weren't circumcised would be imputed righteousness through faith as it was imputed to Abraham and by walking in faith performing good works according to the law as did faithful Abraham, they would have Abraham for their father also because of their faith as he is the father of the circumcision (Israelites) and uncircumcision (Gentiles) that believe and walk by faith as he did.

Galatians 3:8-9

And the scripture, foreseeing that Alahayim would justify the heathen through faith, preached before the gospel unto Abraham, saying, In thee shall all nations be blessed. 9 So then they which be of faith are blessed with faithful Abraham.

For this reason, even the Gentiles that believe are one body with the believing children of Israel through faith:

Eph 2:11-14
[11] Wherefore remember, that ye being in time past Gentiles in the flesh, who are called Uncircumcision by
that which is called the Circumcision in the flesh made by hands; [12] That at that time ye were without Christ, being aliens from the commonwealth of Israel, and strangers from the covenants of promise, having no hope, and without Alahayim in the world: [13] But now in Christ Yache ye who sometimes were far off are made nigh by the blood of Christ. [14] For he is our peace, who hath made both one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us;

The Gentile races are near unto the Hebrew race by the blood of Christ to make us one people as Christians

Eph 2:19

[19] Now therefore ye are no more strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints, and of the household of Alahayim;

Believing Gentiles are not strangers or foreigners. They are saints, brothers and sisters of the household of Alahayim. By precept, any nation that believes in Yache Christ are the children of Abraham by faith:

Galatians 3:6-7,26
[6] Even as Abraham believed Alahayim, and it was accounted to him for righteousness. [7] Know ye therefore that they which are of faith, the same are the children of Abraham. [26] For ye are all the children of Alahayim by faith in Christ Yache.

Now Jew and Gentile are children of Abraham by faith so we can understand a man only gives his daughter or sister to the children of Abraham by faith (Jews) and through faith (Gentiles of any nation), not to the seed of the Gentiles, which are unbelievers of the Gentiles and the Jews as all Israel are not of Israel.

**(please see interracial marriage tab for further edification)**

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There is punishment ordained for the man that gives his daughter or sister unto an unbeliever as well as for the woman who consents unto being unequally yoked with an unbeliever in marriage:

Jubilees 30:7, 9-10

7. And if there is any man who wisheth in Israel to give his daughter or his sister to any man who is of the seed of the Gentiles he shall surely die, and they shall stone him with stones; for he hath wrought shame in Israel; and they shall burn the woman with fire, because she hath dishonoured the name of the house of her father, and she shall be rooted out of Israel.9. For thus hath it been ordained and written in the heavenly tables regarding all the seed of Israel: he who defileth (it) shall surely die, and he shall be stoned with stones. 10. And to this law there is no limit of days, and no remission, nor any atonement: but the man who hath defiled his daughter shall be rooted out in the midst of all Israel, because he hath given of his seed to Moloch, and wrought impiously so as to defile it.

This precept helps understand that "giving our seed to Moloch" means a man has given his daughter or sister unto an unbeliever to defile her, his seed seed, and Ahayah's sanctuary:

Lev 20:1-3

And Ahayah spake unto Moses, saying, 2 Again, thou shalt say to the children of Israel, Whosoever he be of the children of Israel, or of the strangers that sojourn in Israel, that giveth any of his seed unto Molech; he shall surely be put to death: the people of the land shall stone him with stones. 3 And I will set my face against that man, and will cut him off from among his people; because he hath given of his seed unto Molech, to defile my sanctuary, and to profane my holy name.

Whether stranger (Gentile) or Israelite in the faith, giving a daughter or sister to an unbeliever defiles Ahayah's sanctuary and profanes His holy name.

Lev 20:4-5

And if the people of the land do any ways hide their eyes from the man, when he giveth of his seed unto Molech, and kill him not: 5 Then I will set my face against that man, and against his family, and will cut him off, and all that go a whoring after him, to commit whoredom with Molech, from among their people.

We are not to be consenting unto the giving of a believer unto an unbeliever in marriage or we will be cut off from the Body of Christ.

Jubilees 30:11

11. And do thou, Moses, command the children of Israel and exhort them not to give their daughters to the Gentiles, and not to take for their sons any of the daughters of the Gentiles, for this is abominable before Ahayah.

That is the reason it is not lawful to make (or consent unto) marriages with unbelievers for our family as it would cause whomever joins themselves unto an unbeliever to sin against Alahayim:

Deuteronomy 7:3-4

Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. 4 For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other alahayims: so will the anger of Ahayah be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.

Jubilees 3012-16

12. For this reason I have written for thee in the words of the Law all the deeds of the Shechemites, which they wrought against Dinah, and how the sons of Jacob spake, saying: "We shall not give our daughter to a man who is uncircumcised; for that were a reproach unto us." 13. And it is a reproach to Israel, to those who give, and to those who take the daughters of the Gentiles; for this is unclean and abominable to Israel.

This is the simplicity of the faith for all believers, "we cannot make marriages with unbelievers for our children; for it is a reproach unto us."

14. And Israel will not be free from this uncleanness if it hath a wife of the daughters of the Gentiles, or hath given any of its daughters to a man who is of any of the Gentiles. 15. For there will be plague upon plague, and curse upon curse, and every judgment and plague and curse will come (upon him): if he do this thing, or hide his eyes from those who commit uncleanness, or those who defile the sanctuary of Ahayah, or those who profane His holy name, (then) will the whole nation together be judged for all the uncleanness and profanation of this (man).

This command is important to keep because if we make marriages with unbelievers for our children or be consenting unto believers giving their children to unbelievers, it will bring about plagues, curses, and judgments upon us as a Christian nation for this uncleanness and profanation of the Holy name and defiling of the Sanctuary of Ahayah.

16. And there will be no respect of persons [and no consideration of persons], and no receiving at his hands of fruits and offerings and burnt-offerings and fat, nor the fragrance of sweet savour, so as to accept it: and so fare every man or woman in Israel who defileth the sanctuary.

Thus, we have understanding of the laws pertaining to making marriages:

NO intercourse before marriage
The elder daughter must be given or taken first in marriage before the younger
NO making marriages with unbelievers for ourselves
NO making marriages with unbelievers for our children
NO consenting unto marriages of unbelievers with a believer's children
Only give daughters to a man of understanding who walks uprightly according to Alahayim's counsel

The Laws on Rape

Deu 22:28-29

If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.

If a man rapes an unbetrothed young woman of marriageable age, he is held accountable for what he has done and must pay the bride price to her father and cannot divorce her at all for any reason all his life to take responsibility for his unrighteous act. On the other hand, if a man rapes a little girl not of marriageable age, its an act of robbery for ravaging her and he is worthy of death as was the case of Shechem:

Jubilees 30:2

2. And there they carried off Dinah, the daughter of Jacob, into the house of Shechem, the son of Hamor, the Hivite, the prince of the land, and he lay with her and defiled her, and she was a little girl, a child of eight years. Jasher 33:21-22

21. And they came and sat before their father and they spoke unto him kindled with wrath, saying, surely death is due to this man and to his household, because the Lord Alahayim of the whole earth commanded Noah and his children that man shall never rob, nor commit adultery ; now behold Shechem has both ravaged and committed fornication with our sister, and not one of all the people of the city spoke a word to him. 22. Surely thou knowest and understandest that the judgment of death is due to Shechem, and to his father, and to the whole city on account of what he has done.

Likewise, if a man corrupts a boy (ravaging him), it is an abomination worthy of death and he shall be cut off from his people:

Barn 10:6

Moreover thou shalt not eat the hare. Why so? Thou shalt not be found a corrupter of boys, nor shalt thou become like such persons;...

Leviticus 18:22, 29

Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination. 29 For whosoever shall commit any of these abominations, even the souls that commit them shall be cut off from among their people.

If a man rapes another man's wife, he is worthy of death because the act is the same as killing a man, but the woman has not committed any sin worthy of death:

Deu 22:25-27

But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die: 26 But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter: 27 For he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her.

Laws Regarding Making Marriages for Ourselves

Its not righteous to marry a strange woman who is not of the daughters of Abraham by faith (Israel) or through faith (Gentiles) lest they turn our hearts away from Ahayah:

Joseph and Asenath 7:6

6. For Joseph had Alahayim always before his 2 eyes and ever remembered the injunctions of his father; for Jacob often spake and admonished his son Joseph and all his sons :"Keep yourselves, children, securely from a strange woman so as not to have fellowship with her, for fellowship with her is ruin and destruction."

In addition to avoiding strange women, we are further admonished in wisdom not to give our strength (seed) unto strange women keeping one's virginity (or chastity after coming to repentance) sound until given a wife from the Lord:

Ecclesiasticus 26:19

My son, keep the flower of thine age sound; and give not thy strength to strangers.

Keeping the flower of our age (virginity or chastity) sound, when given a fruitful possession (daughter of Abraham by or through faith) in marriage from the Lord, {Pro 19:14} sow your seed and trust good fruit will come from your seed (children) in that woman you are familiar with that's walking after your mind:

Ecclesiasticus 26:20

When thou hast gotten a fruitful possession through all the field, sow it with thine own seed, trusting in the goodness of thy stock.

If already married to an unbeliever and you've newly come into the faith, if she be pleased to dwell with you, put her not away because she is sanctified by you because she is going in the ways you would have her to be after your mind in obedience to the law though she may not believe the gospel at this present time. It may be that dwelling with her according to the knowledge of the law may save her:

1 Corinthians 7:12, 14

But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 14 For...the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

1 Peter 3:7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1 Corinthians 7:16

For ...how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

In regards to marriage in general, making marriages with unbelieving women referred to as "the daughters of Canaan" is unlawful because of their works which would be a stumbling block to a man's mission to keep the commandments:

Jubilees 25:1, 8

Rebecca called Jacob her son, and spake unto him, saying: "My son, do not take thee a wife of the daughters of Canaan, as Esau, thy brother, who took him two wives of the daughters of Canaan, and they have embittered my soul with all their unclean deeds: for all their deeds are fornication and lust, and there is no righteousness with them, for their deeds are evil.

Deu 7:3-4

Neh 13:26-27

Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his Alahayim, and Alahayim made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin. 27 Shall we then hearken unto you to do all this great evil, to transgress against our Alahayim in marrying strange wives?

Solomon's strange wives caused him to sin, substantiating why the commandment was given to us to protect us. It is a transgression to marry strange wives because it will lead to transgressing against Alahayim.

Jasher 29:25.

Now therefore my son hearken to my voice, to all that I shall command thee, and refrain from taking a wife from amongst the daughters of Canaan;.. 28. And may the Almighty Alahayim grant thee favor in the sight of the people of the earth, that thou mayest there take a wife according to thy choice; one who is good and upright in the ways of the Lord.

For these reasons, it's a command not to marry strange women as marrying women who are good and upright in the ways of the Lord from the favor granted by Alahayim is what our father's command us to do. This edifies us to ensure we take wives of the true children of Abraham in the faith only:

Tob 4:12

We can make marriages with children of Noah (all nations) who believe in Lord Yache because they are children of Abraham either by faith (Israel) and through faith (Gentiles).

{Only sons of Aaron are prohibited from marrying sisters of the Gentiles as they may only marry women of the house of Israel}

Laws on Maid-wives

A father can sell his daughter as a maidservant, which is the man's maid-wife, since he has paid a dowry for her betrothing her unto himself:

Exo 21:7

And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do.

(In the 7th year of release she does not go out free like the men do, {Leviticus 25:40-41} because she is espoused to the man to be his maid-wife. She is not just a servant alone like the menservants.)

Exo 21:8

If she please not her master, who hath betrothed her to himself, then shall he let her be redeemed: to sell her unto a strange nation he shall have no power, seeing he hath dealt deceitfully with her.

He paid the dowry by buying her from her father, so she is betrothed unto him, but if he did not go in unto her to complete the marriage requirement, he hath dealt deceitfully with her because he didn’t marry her like he had bought her for, so she can be purchased by her family and return to her father’s house, so she can still be given to another man in marriage (This is not a divorce in this scenario as she was redeemed from her master to return to her family not put away by an husband). On the other hand, if he does make marriage with her so that she be may one flesh with him and named after him by sleeping with her, the laws change in regards to her freedom from him:

Exo 21:10-11

If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. 11 And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.

If the man doesn't continue to provide those three things for her as his maid-wife when he takes other wives, she shall go out free to return to her family and be married unto another in the Lord. If a man takes a maid-wife for his son, he has to deal with her after the manner of daughters:

Exo 21:7-9

And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do. 9 And if he have betrothed her unto his son, he shall deal with her after the manner of daughters.

If her master happens to have a Hebrew servant, her master who hasn't taken her fro a maid-wife for himself may give her to his servant for a wife:

Exodus 21:2-6

If thou buy an Hebrew servant, six years he shall serve: and in the seventh he shall go out free for nothing. 3 If he came in by himself, he shall go out by himself: if he were married, then his wife shall go out with him. 4 If his master have given him a wife, and she have born him sons or daughters; the wife and her children shall be her master's, and he shall go out by himself. 5 And if the servant shall plainly say, I love my master, my wife, and my children; I will not go out free: 6 Then his master shall bring him unto the judges; he shall also bring him to the door, or unto the door post; and his master shall bore his ear through with an aul; and he shall serve him for ever.

The Duty of a Husband's Brother

Not all Israel is of Israel {Rom 9:6} as a true Jew isn't one outwardly. {Rom 2:28} This means true Christian brethren of the Jews are Jews inwardly, whose circumcision is of the heart in the spirit {Rom 2:29} by resting in the law being instructed out of it to know {Rom 2:17-18} and do the will of the Father, which makes them a "brother" in the faith {Matt 12:50} by evidence of them doing the work to mortify the old man {Eph 4:22-24} and become new creatures in Christ, {2Co 5:17; Gal 6:15} zealous for good works {Tit 2:14} as the Israel of Alahayim: {Gal 6:16}

Rom 9:6

Not as though the word of Alahayim hath taken none effect. For they are not all Israel, which are of Israel
Romans 2:28-29, 17-18

For he is not a Jew, which is one outwardly; neither is that circumcision, which is outward in the flesh: 29 But he is a Jew, which is one inwardly; and circumcision is that of the heart, in the spirit, and not in the letter; whose praise is not of men, but of Alahayim. 17 Behold, thou art called a Jew, and restest in the law, and makest thy boast of Alahayim, 18 And knowest his will, and approvest the things that are more excellent, being instructed out of the law;

Ephesians 4:22-24

That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; 23 And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; 24 And that ye put on the new man, which after Alahayim is created in righteousness and true holiness.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

Galatians 6:15

For in Christ Yache neither circumcision availeth any thing, nor uncircumcision, but a new creature.

Titus 2:13-14

Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great Alahayim and our Saviour Yache Christ; 14 Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works.
Galatians 6:16

And as many as walk according to this rule, peace be on them, and mercy, and upon the Israel of Alahayim.

Mat 12:50

For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.

Knowing the understanding of a "brother," if a brother dies with no children, his near kin, shall perform the duty of a husband's brother:

Deu 25:5-10

If brethren dwell together, and one of them die, and have no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry without unto a stranger: her husband's brother shall go in unto her, and take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of an husband's brother unto her 6 And it shall be, that the firstborn which she beareth shall succeed in the name of his brother which is dead, that his name be not put out of Israel. 7 And if the man like not to take his brother's wife, then let his brother's wife go up to the gate unto the elders, and say, My husband's brother refuseth to raise up unto his brother a name in Israel, he will not perform the duty of my husband's brother. 8 Then the elders of his city shall call him, and speak unto him: and if he stand to it, and say, I like not to take her; 9 Then shall his brother's wife come unto him in the presence of the elders, and loose his shoe from off his foot, and spit in his face, and shall answer and say, So shall it be done unto that man that will not build up his brother's house. 10 And his name shall be called in Israel, The house of him that hath his shoe loosed

Marriages in War

In war against enemies of Alahayim, if they would not accept terms of peace, the males are smitten for their decision to remain enemies of Alahayim:

Deuteronomy 20:10-14

When thou comest nigh unto a city to fight against it, then proclaim peace unto it. 11 And it shall be, if it make thee answer of peace, and open unto thee, then it shall be, that all the people that is found therein shall be tributaries unto thee, and they shall serve thee.12 And if it will make no peace with thee, but will make war against thee, then thou shalt besiege it: 13 And when Ahayah thy Alahayim hath delivered it into thine hands, thou shalt smite every male thereof with the edge of the sword: 14 But the women, and the little ones, and the cattle, and all that is in the city, even all the spoil thereof, shalt thou take unto thyself; and thou shalt eat the spoil of thine enemies, which Ahayah thy Alahayim hath given thee.

The women would be without a head of household (coverings), whether fathers, husbands, and brethren who all died in their sins in the war so the men of Alahayim who have taken the women (females of marriageable age) unto themselves for servants giving them an opportunity to serve Alahayim, may take wives of them if the women be willing to marry them, so the women may have a believing head of household for their salvation:

Deu 21:10-13

When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and Ahayah thy Alahayim hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive, 11 And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife; 12 Then thou shalt bring her home to thine house; and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails; 13 And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.

If she chooses to go through that process of healing from the loss of her parent, she may be the man's wife if she consensually lets the man go in unto her that he may be her husband and she be called after his name as rape is unlawful to do. The woman must be consenting unto the union and pleased to dwell with the man:

1 Corinthians 7:12, 14

Deu 21:14

And it shall be, if thou have no delight in her, then thou shalt let her go whither she will; but thou shalt not sell her at all for money, thou shalt not make merchandise of her, because thou hast humbled her.

If the woman isn't pleased to dwell with the man according to the ways of Alahayim to please her husband which is shown by his lack of delight in her because she wouldn't go in the way he would have her, then let the unbelieving depart { 1 Cor 7:15} to go whither she wills as we are called unto peace:

1Co 7:15

But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but Alahayim hath called us to peace.

Remember, rape is accounted as robbery and an act worthy of death for ravaging a woman, so the woman has to be consenting unto the union when a man desires to marry her. One can confirm its not lawful to force (rape) the woman by the fact that the woman is free to go whither she will when she isn't pleasing her husband in this "captive-wife" scenario as opposed to when a man rapes a unmarried woman of marriageable age, he cannot put her away all his days.

What is Required for Marriage in the sight of Alahayim?

Your Father's Counsel

Getting the consent of the Bishop Lord Yache to ensure one has Alahayim's counsel is required along with getting the consultation of your earthly father.

Testament of Reuben 4:1

4 1 Pay no heed, therefore, my children, to the beauty of women, nor set your mind on their affairs; but walk in singleness of heart in the fear of the Lord, and expend labour on good works, and on study and on your flocks, until the Lord give you a wife, whom He will, that ye suffer not as I did.

Ecclesiasticus 37:15-16

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.

Ignatius to Polycarp 5:2

…It becometh men and women too, when they marry, to unite themselves with the consent of the bishop, that the marriage may be after the Lord and not after concupiscence. Let all things be done to the honour of Alahayim.

Testament of Judah 12:4

4 For I said to my father-in-law: I will take counsel with my father, and so will I take thy daughter.

Dowry (Bride Price)

The consent of a woman's father (or brother) and dowry price agreement (whatever that may be) is what is required for a betrothal or espousal to make a woman your espoused wife. The woman is her father's (or her brother's) to give away so the dowry depends on what he desires if he is willing to give his daughter (or sister) for a wife. Her is an example:

Genesis 34:6

And Hamor the father of Shechem went out unto Jacob to commune with him.

they sought Jacob's daughter for a wife so they went unto him as he is her father:

Genesis 34:8, 11

And Hamor communed with them, saying, The soul of my son Shechem longeth for your daughter: I pray you give her him to wife. 11 And Shechem said unto her father and unto her brethren, Let me find grace in your eyes, and what ye shall say unto me I will give.

Her father can give his daughter and brethren can give their sister away according to the law. For these reasons, Hamor and Shechem were communing with them for the damsel similar to Eliezer consulting with Rebecca's father, Bethuel, and brother, Laban, for her as a wife unto Isaac. So if a woman's father is ill disposed or deceased, consent from her brother is necessary (if both are deceased or she has no brother and her father is deceased, her grandfather can give her away if he is living as Terah gave his grand-daughter Sarai for a wife to Abram).

Genesis 34:12

Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me: but give me the damsel to wife.

Definition:

H4119 (Strongs)

מהר

From H4117; a price (for a wife): - dowry.

BDB Definition: 1) purchase price for wife, wedding money

Genesis 34:13

And the sons of Jacob answered Shechem and Hamor his father ...14 And they said unto them, We cannot do this thing, to give our sister to one that is uncircumcised; for that were a reproach unto us:

A woman's father and/or brethren do not have to consent unto giving her away in marriage just because someone ask's for her in marriage. Also, if a man has slept with her (consensually on her part) to defile her without consent from her head (father or brother) to have her as his wife, it still doesn't make them married in the sight of Alahayim as her father (or brother) doesn't have to agree to give her away in marriage in this scenario either:

Exodus 22:16-17

And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.

Definition:

H4117 (Strong)

מהר

A primitive root (perhaps rather the same as H4116 through the idea of readiness in assent); to bargain (for a wife), that is, to wed: - endow, X surely.

BDB Definition: 1) to obtain or acquire by paying purchase price, give a dowry 1a) (Qal) to obtain in exchange

The man erroring, has to seek to rectify the matter by endeavoring to obtain her as his wife with her father's consent and whatever dowry can be agreed upon with him (if he requires one) in order to lawfully have due benevolence (intercourse) with her as his wife.

Exodus 22:17

If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

Yet, if her father doesn't consent, the man who errored by defiling the woman still has to pay the normal price of dowry for virgins (though he cannot marry her) to make up for his error against her father. If the father (or brother) consents and agrees to the dowry he offered for her to be his wife on the other hand, she is then his lawful wife called after his name as he's already slept with her to consummate the marriage. These laws and testimonies help understand consensually sleeping with a woman alone doesn't make her your wife without going through the proper marriage process depending on the scenario.

Being Betrothed (Espoused) vs Being Married

In regard to espousals, consent from the woman's head (whether father or brother) and dowry (if required by the woman's head) are necessary for endowment of the woman to have her as your espoused wife, not merely her wanting or choosing to be with you. As your espoused wife, though you haven't slept with her, it is not lawful for her to be with another man as she is betrothed unto you.

Deuteronomy 22:23-24

If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her; 24 Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.

Leviticus 20:10

And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

Side Note: We aren't putting anyone to death under grace as he that is without sin casts the first stone and everyone is in Alahayim's hands who will render to every man who sins willfully despite the spirit of grace allotted to us through His Son. Lord willing all men come to the knowledge of the Truth and bring forth fruits of repentance to sin no more:

This shows, if she is betrothed and sleeps with another man consensually, she has committed adultery with another who isn't her espoused husband. On the other hand, if someone takes advantage of her to force her against her will, she isn't an adulteress in such instances and is not worthy being put away:

Deuteronomy 22:25

Now, if a woman happens to be forced during the time of her espousal to defile her or she remains undefiled in her espousal, in order to complete the marriage that she may be called by your name as your bone and flesh, consummation (intercourse) would be all that is required by law to make the union complete. Once married as one bone and flesh being named after you, anyone who touches her lacks understanding for committing the evil of lying with a married woman in adultery to the detriment of his own soul:

Proverbs 6:32

But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.

Deuteronomy 22:22

If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.

The difference between "a betrothed damsel" and "a woman married" is the married woman has been taken and slept with by her husband so she is named after him as one bone and flesh with him. On the other hand, a betrothed damsel's husband has her father's consent and paid his dowry (if one was required) but he hasn't taken her as yet to sleep with her to consummate the marriage so that she may be named after him as one bone and flesh with him.

Deuteronomy 20:7

And what man is there that hath betrothed a wife, and hath not taken her? let him go and return unto his house, lest he die in the battle, and another man take her.

By getting consent and giving dowry (if required) she was his espoused wife (a betrothed damsel), but if he hadn't lay with her, he hadn't taken her as his wife to complete the union that she may be called by his name as his bone and flesh. For this reason he has to take her after the espousal to complete the marriage.

Tobit 3:8

Because that she had been married to seven husbands, whom Asmodeus the evil spirit had killed, before they had lain with her... thou hast had already seven husbands, neither wast thou named after any of them.

This verse helps understand getting consent and giving dowry (if required) alone makes a man and woman espoused (betrothed) to one another, yet the marriage isn't complete until the man lay with his wife making her his bones and flesh that she may be named after him.

Is Wedding Feast Required?

A wedding feast is a custom but isn't required by the law in marriage to make it complete. A father's consent along with whatever dowry he may require (as he may not require one at all), your father's counsel, and consummation (intercourse) is all that is required to make a marriage complete to make the woman your wife called after your name. Though it is not seemly, a man can take a wife without his own father's consent, yet it wouldn't be upright as befell Judah in his youth. Understanding a wedding feast or dowry isn't required is seen through Adam's marriage to Eve being without feast or dowry as she was given to him by her Everlasting father and Maker, the Lord Yache, and he knew her (intercourse) to make the union complete in the sight of Alahayim. Also, for understanding a feast and dowry is optional, Jacob's marriage with Leah had a seven day feast held with no dowry required for her; while his marriage with Rachel had no feast but the 14 years of servitude for a dowry was given. These are examples in the testimonies to see that the dowry and feast are optional based on the agreements made between the man and the woman's head (father or brother), but consent and consummation are the necessary requirements for a union in marriage to be complete in the sight of Alahayim that the woman may be called after the man's name. Through the testimonies we confirm these things:

Gen 29:15, 18-19

And Laban said unto Jacob, Because thou art my brother, shouldest thou therefore serve me for nought? tell me, what shall thy wages be? 18 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter. 19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me.

Consent and agreement with the father to have her including his bride price (dowry) for his younger daughter:

Gen 29:20-21

And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her. 21 And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her.

He fulfilled the dowry so the price of his espousal is complete. Now he needs take his wife by going in unto her to consummate the marriage so that she may be called by his name (whether they have a wedding feast for this is optional). According to the testimonies, a marriage contract (instrument of covenants) must be written up for a record of the agreement that the man is taking her to be his wife and her father gives his daughter's hand unto him transferring his authority over her unto him:

Tob 7:13

Then he called his daughter Sara, and she came to her father, and he took her by the hand, and gave her to be wife to Tobias, saying, Behold, take her after the law of Moses, and lead her away to thy father. And he blessed them; 14 And called Edna his wife, and took paper, and did write an instrument of covenants, and sealed it.

Have two or three witnesses sign the instrument of covenant that the words may be established (the newly weds and one witness suffices to fulfill all righteousness):

2Co 13:1

...In the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every word be established.

Joseph and Asenath 20:8

And Joseph stayed that day with Pentephres; and he did not sleep with Aseneth, for he said, "It is not right for a man who worships Alahayim to have intercourse with his wife before their marriage."

Remember, it is not right to have intercourse with your wife before marriage so once the agreement is made having her father's consent and his father's counsel (as Jacob had Isaac's counsel and Laban's consent), a man may have intercourse with his espoused wife to marry her that she may be named after him name as one flesh with him (whether during a wedding feast or not). Though not required, it is well for a man have a wedding feast first wherein he has intercourse with his wife that night for their marriage to be complete in the marriage chamber:

Gen 29:22

And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast.

The wedding feast is first (though not required for marriage as well be seen):

Gen 29:23

And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her.

Leah was given to Jacob for a wife for no dowry which helps understand a dowry isn't required if the father does not require one. This means a marriage can still be consummated during the wedding feast (or without one) if the man and the father agree that no dowry is required.

Gen 29:26-28

And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn. 27 Fulfil her week..28 And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week...

Jacob fulfilled the wedding feast of seven days for Leah taking her as his wife that she may be called after his name (no dowry required).

Gen 29:27

Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years. {Side note: Laban's dealings were ill to change the bride price agreed upon for his gain}

The father requiring a dowry of 14 years service, a man may go in unto his espoused wife to complete their marriage by consummation that she may be called after his name without a wedding feast so long as he has a dowry agreement in place as Jacob did with Rachel so that she may be called after his name as one flesh with him once he sleeps with her:

Gen 29:28, 30

And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week: and he gave him Rachel his daughter to wife also. 30 And he went in also unto Rachel, ... and served with him yet seven other years.

By evidence of Laban agreeing with Jacob on his bride price for Rachel and giving her to him without a wedding feast, we can understand a wedding feast is not required for a marriage covenant to be completed (though it is well to have one according to the custom). Once the man takes his wife by sleeping with his espoused wife to complete the marriage, the woman is called by her husband's name as she is one bone and flesh with him according to the testimonies. The reason for this is because, if he doesn't sleep her, she cannot be called by his name though espoused to him according to scripture.

Tobit 3:8

Because that she had been married to seven husbands, whom Asmodeus the evil spirit had killed, before they had lain with her.

They had consent and agreement with the father but didn't complete the marriage by intercourse with her:

Tobit 3:8

..thou hast had already seven husbands, neither wast thou named after any of them.

Because none lay with her to complete the marriage, she was not named after any of them because she didn't become one bone and flesh with them through intercourse. This helps understand the necessity to take an espoused wife by laying with her to marry her so that she may be called by your name in marriage as your bone and flesh.

Deuteronomy 20:7

And what man is there that hath betrothed a wife, and hath not taken her? let him go and return unto his house, lest he die in the battle, and another man take her.

The helps understand a man ought to complete his espousal by taking his wife in marriage. Once married after the consummation, she is considered married and no longer betrothed (espoused). She or they (if he be given wives by Alahayim), build up the man's house as Leah and Rachel did unto Jacob:

Ruth 4:11

... Ahayah make the woman that is come into thine house like Rachel and like Leah, which two did build the house of Israel..

Ruth coming into the house of Boaz, would be called after his name after they consummate the marriage.

Ruth 4:13

So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife: and when he went in unto her, Ahayah gave her conception, and she bare a son.

Going about things the right way according to scripture to receive the treasure of a good wife from the Lord who will be your friend in this life will lead to the blessing of living children to continue a man's name:

Ecclesiasticus 40:18; 6:14; 40:19, 23

To labour, and to be content with that a man hath, is a sweet life: but he that findeth a treasure is above them both. [6:14] A faithfull friend is a strong defence: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure. [40:19] Children and the building of a city continue a man's name: but a blameless wife is counted above them both. [40:23] A friend and companion never meet amiss: but above both is a wife with her husband.

Summary of Requirements for Marriages

Consultation from your father
Consent from her father
Bride Price (Dowry) agreement from him {if dowry is required}
Instruments of Covenant (Marriage contract) w/ newly weds and at least a witness (making 2-3 witnesses).
Wedding Feast (optional custom yet not required)
Consummation: the man goes in unto his wife to take her in marriage so that she may be called after her husband's name as one bone and flesh with him.

What Is Necessary to be Married?

(Is intercourse alone marriage?)

Though a legal marriage according to the courts in one’s respective country isn’t necessary to be married according to the Law of Alahayim, according to Alahayim’s Law, intercourse with an unmarried woman who you’re not lawfully “betrothed (espoused) unto” according to the testimonies is fornication. If someone does this, they have to endow that woman to be their wife by offering a dowry and seeking consent to have her for his wife from her father (or brother).

Exodus 22:16-17

If her father refuses, it was fornication committed defiling the man’s daughter (and she polluting herself and her father’s name) and the man ought to learn from the experience not to go about enticing women to lay with them, but rather, to focus on Alahayim, his study, good works, and flocks (business/family) until He give him a wife according to His will.

Testament of Reuben Chapter 4:1

Testament of Reuben 7:1

1 Beware, therefore, of fornication; and if you wish to be pure in mind, guard your senses from every woman.

A unmarried woman likewise ought to focus on keeping herself pure in body and spirit for the Lord Yache, waiting on her Everlasting father Yache to give her in marriage if He wills, not being attentive to the beauty of men, nor associating with a man unless he is shown to be her husband so as to avoid fornication for herself and the man:

1 Corinthians 7:34

There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit…

Testament of Reuben 7:1-2

1 Beware, therefore, of fornication; and if you wish to be pure in mind, guard your senses from every woman. 2 And command the women likewise not to associate with men, that they also may be pure in mind.

Both men and women beware of dating or constantly meeting up with a man (who isn't your brother or fathers), making friends (associating) if hasn’t hasn't been shown to be your spouse from Alahayim as it will lead to fornication having place to cause an error of some sort (whether in heart or in the flesh)

Testament of Reuben 67:

3 For constant meetings, even though the unholy deed be not wrought, are to them an irremediable disease, and to us a destruction of Beliar and an eternal reproach. 4 For in fornication there is neither understanding nor holiness, and all jealousy dwelleth in the lust thereof.

According to Alahayim’s law, sleeping with an unmarried woman without consent to have her for your wife from her father (or brothers) is fornication as she isn’t your own wife and that man isn’t the woman’s husband (even though he and her may agree to be together without her father or brother’s consent as may be the custom in the modern world of dating and relationships).

1 Corinthians 7:2

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

In summary, you don’t have to be legally married according to the government in your respective country to be married according to the law of Alahayim.

Mark 10:6-9

But from the beginning of the creation Alahayim made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore Alahayim hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Intercourse alone with a unmarried woman (though living with her and you all agree you all are married) without consent from her father or brother to have her for a wife and a dowry price agreed upon and given (if he requires one) is fornication still according to the law of Alahayim. A marriage covenant according to the Law of Alahayim for an unmarried woman is:
- 1)Your father's counsel 2) Consent from the woman’s father or brother either of whom has authority to give her away in marriage 3) A dowry payment (agreed bride price if required), and 4) consummation of the marriage (intercourse) in the marriage chamber (bedroom).
A wedding feast is the custom but truly optional for a lawful marriage according to Alahayim. Now if the dowry price was paid to make her your espoused wife and you sleep with her after that, though you didn’t have a wedding feasts, she is your lawful wife called after your name being one bone and flesh with you as was the case with Mary, the wife of Joseph because they were espoused and slept together before the custom of the wedding feast that was suppose to take place "before they came together" to live with one another:

Luke 1:27

To a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin's name was Mary.

The dowry was paid and he had consent to have her, yet no wedding feast had transpired as yet to have the consummation of the marriage and then him taking her away to his house after the wedding according to the custom like what transpired with Tobias in Tobit chapter 8-10:

Matthew 1:18

Now the birth of Yache Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Spirit.

She was lawfully espoused to him, yet contrary to the custom of the Hebrews (not contrary to the law though), He slept with her before they came together to live with one another after the marriage feast according to the custom. For this reason, she received conception (became pregnant) before they were actually living together. Since he slept with her, she is now his wife called after his name as his bone and flesh (though everyone didn’t know they completed the marriage according to the law because no feast was had for him to take her to him).

Matthew 1:19

Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a publick example, was minded to put her away privily.

he was fearful of how things would look according to the custom rather than the law endeavoring to divorce her now that he is actually married to her and not merely espoused because he slept with her, but the Angel came and comforted him to know nothing would happen to her even though they didn't go through the custom of the people:

Matthew 1:20 But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit.

The angel revealed she is justly his wife, though they didn’t have a wedding feasts according to the custom nor lived together as yet and also the child in her womb is of the Holy Spirit, the true mother of Yache Christ who gave him life in the beginning of creation.

Matthew 1:24

Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:

After he knew she was his wife and nothing would happen to her, he didn’t reveal to anyone the pregnancy nor what the angel revealed to him:

Ascension of Isaiah 11

And when she was espoused, she was found to be pregnant, and Joseph the carpenter wished to divorce her. 4 But the angel of the Spirit appeared in this world, and after this Joseph did not divorce Mary, but kept Mary, but he did not reveal this matter to anyone.

He kept the matter private and didn’t live with her for two months nor sleep with her again during her pregnancy knowing who the child was in her womb (though it was lawful to do but he didn't want to make her unclean out of respect unto the Lord in her womb):

Ascension of Isaiah 11:5

5 And he did not approach Mary, though she was pregnant. 6 And he did not live with her for two months

After two months, (the time when a woman’s pregnancy starts to show) they came together by him bringing her to live in his house as she was his lawful wife called after his name because he got consent, paid dowry for espousal, and consummated the marriage by sleeping with her.

Ascension of Isaiah 11:7-11

7 And after two months of days while Joseph was in his house, and Mary his wife, but both alone. 8 It came about that when they were alone that Mary then looked with her eyes and saw a small infant, and she was astounded. 9 And after her astonishment had worn off, her womb was found as it was at first, before she had conceived. 10 And when her husband Joseph, said to her, "What has made you astounded?" his eyes were opened and he saw the infant and praised Ahayah, because the Lord had come in his lot. 11. And a voice came to them: "Do not tell this vision to anyone."

They were living together as lawful husband and wife though they didn’t have a wedding feast because he paid the dowry for her already before sleeping with her. This was to help understand the wedding feast is encouraged but not required in the sight of Alahayim to be married according to the law, just as Adam and Eve were married without a wedding feast after she was given to Adam by her Everlasting father, Yache, the Lord Alahayim.

Unequally Yoked Marriages

What if I already married an unbeliever before coming to the knowledge of the Gospel in truth? We, Jew and Gentile, have all walked in the unbelief and error of our former lives according to our lusts {Tit 3:2-3; Eph 2:1-3} and possibly gotten married to people who don't believe the True Gospel of Christ.

Tit 3:3

For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.

Eph 2:1-3

And you hath he quickened, who were dead in trespasses and sins; 2 Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: 3 Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others.

So if a newborn believer in the faith happens to be married to an unbeliever, the unbeliever is sanctified by the believer if they be pleased to dwell with them respecting their lifestyle in the faith:

1Co 7:14

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

So a believer is not to depart from an unbelieving spouse if that spouse is pleased to dwell with the brother or sister by evidence of not being a stumbling block to their walk in obedience to the faith:

1Co 7:12-13

But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

It may be the will of Alahayim to save our spouse by your example of a believer, so remaining with them and doing good works is important for converting them by one's actions and goodly words without hypocrisy:

1Co 7:16

For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse is not pleased to dwell with a believer and departs, the believer is not in bondage by the law to that marriage:

1Co 7:15

But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but Alahayim hath called us to peace.

If the unbelieving spouse departs and one is loosed from that spouse, seek not another spouse, but expend your labors on good works in the fruits of the Spirit, studying the scriptures for growth in your walk in the Gospel, and your flocks until the Lord gives you a spouse whom He wills so that you do not suffer from the sin of lust as Reuben did:

1Co 7:27

Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

Testament of Reuben 4:1

Pay no heed, therefore, my children, to the beauty of women, nor set your mind on their affairs; but walk in singleness of heart in the fear of the Lord, and expend labour on good works, and on study and on your flocks, until the Lord give you a wife, whom He will, that ye suffer not as I did.

Marriage for Widows

1Co 7:8-9, 40

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of Alahayim.

If a widow (age 60 and up) cannot contain and needs to marry to avoid fornication, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will in the Lord. She does not need her father's consent as she is free to marry whom she wills in the Lord according to Alahayim's counsel on the matter through the Bishop of our souls, Lord Yache:

1Co 7:39

The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

Ignatius to Polycarp 5:2

Ecclesiasticus 37:15-16

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.

She need only pray to the Most High to direct her in truth to ensure she is marrying the man He wills for her to marry waiting on an answer from Him through Lord Yache by his ministers in the church to know His counsel before taking action to marry a man of understanding in the Lord. A dowry (bride price) between a widow and her new husband is not required (as was the case with David taking Abigail and Boaz taking Ruth). A wedding feast is right to do, yet not required to become married. A marriage contract with signature of witnesses to establish the words of the covenant is still needed before intercourse to complete the marriage that she may be called after the man's name as one bone and flesh with him. The widows of age 59 and under on the other hand, have to go through these same steps for mairrage. Unlike the older widows, the younger ones age 59 and under are not permitted to remain unmarried for their salvation as they are commanded to remarry by the ordinance of the Lord to give none occasion to the adversary:

1 Ti 5:11-14

But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry; 12 Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith. 13 And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. 14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully

Widows desiring to re-marry, even as men have to expend their labors on good works, studying to perfect their walk, and tending their flocks until the Lord give them a wife; so also should widows that are required to marry or cannot contain and must marry for salvation, focus on their growth into a good woman or maintaining their good works so that she may be given by the Lord in the portion of a man that fears the Lord:

1Ti 5:5-6

Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in Alahayim, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day. 6 But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth.

If she is living in the pleasure of the lust of the flesh not keeping the laws and bearing the fruits of the Spirit, she is not on the right track to life and becoming the portion of a man that fears the Lord. A widow who is not living in pleasure in preparation for what the Lord has ordained for her, is identified by the following characteristics of her simplicity in Christ:

Polycarp to the Philippians 4:3

Our widows must be sober-minded as touching the faith of the Lord, making intercession without ceasing for all men, abstaining from all calumny, evil speaking, false witness, love of money, and every evil thing, knowing that they are Alahayim's altar, and that all sacrifices are carefully inspected, and nothing escapeth Him either of their thoughts or intents or any of the secret things of the heart.

When upholding the faith, she will be given in remarriage to a man of understanding:

Sir 26:3

A good wife is a good portion, which shall be given in the portion of them that fear the Lord.

If a man is a widower, he still has to go through the proper process of marriage if Alahayim doesn't will him to remain unmarried:

1 Corinthians 7:7-9

For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of Alahayim, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Lawful Marriages for the Children of Israel

Children of Israel, the Hebrews, we are required to do the whole law, {Gad the Seer 9:9-11; II Chron 33:8} and there are specific laws for us in regard to marriage. It is lawful for Hebrews to make marriages with other races that believe the Gospel of Christ Yache:

Examples:

Abram took Hagar from Sarai, his wife, who trusted her because she was righteous. Hagar was an Egyptian by race.

Jasher 16:24-26,28

24. And when she saw that she bare no children she took her handmaid Hagar, whom Pharaoh had given her, and she gave her to Abram her husband for a wife. 25. For Hagar learned all the ways of Sarai as Sarai taught her, she was not in any way deficient in following her good ways.

Moses also took a wife of Midian after she had shown herself to be a believer.

Jasher 78:7-8

7. In those days, Moses, the son of Amram, while in Midian, took Zipporah, the daughter of Reuel the Midianite, for a wife 8. And Zipporah walked in the ways of the daughters of Jacob, she was nothing short of the righteousness of Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel and Leah.

Salmon, the forefather of Christ and David according to the flesh, took Rahab the Canaanite, who believed in Ahayah, and bare him the righteous Boaz.

Heb 11:31

By faith the harlot Rahab perished not with them that believed not, when she had received the spies with peace.

Mat 1:5

And Salmon begat Booz of Rachab; and Booz begat Obed of Ruth; and Obed begat Jesse;

The Sons of Aaron (the Levite Priests)

The Laws for the Levite Priests, which are the sons of Aaron, requires that they cannot marry any besides the believing maidens of the seed of the house of Israel (who wasn't put away from her husband) or a believing widow of the seed of the house of Israel that was the wife of a priest before. Of course if one is already married to a woman of any nation before coming into the knowledge of the truth, do not put away your wife, because we are called as we are. {I Cor 7:20} It would be a transgression of the law to divorce her since she hasn't committed fornication. {Matt 19:9} Ahayah has suffered the man to marry the woman before coming into the knowledge of the truth, so "what Alahayim hath joined together let no man put asunder." {Matt 19:3-6} Only take heed not to marry any unbeliever, a woman who was put away, nor woman of a Gentile nation, or a widow who wasn't the wife of a priest before, and ensure if it be that Alahayim wills you take on the care of another wife that she be a believing maiden of Israel or a widow that had been married to a priest before, now that you are a believer having knowledge of the law & keeping it by faith in Yache the Lord.

Eze 44:15, 22

But the priests the Levites, the sons of Zadok, that kept the charge of my sanctuary when the children of Israel went astray from me, they shall come near to me to minister unto me, and they shall stand before me to offer unto me the fat and the blood, saith the Lord Ahayah: 22 Neither shall they take for their wives a widow, nor her that is put away: but they shall take maidens of the seed of the house of Israel, or a widow that had a priest before.

Leviticus 21:7

They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his Alahaym.

The daughters of the sons of Aaron may be given to believers of any nation aside from the children of Ham (see the unlawful marriage segment of this tab). The law does not restrict the daughters of Aaron from being given in marriage to any brother that is of the children of Abraham by faith in Yache (aside from the children of Ham) by evidence of the fact that there are laws for instruction on what to do when a daughter of a priest has been given to a stranger in marriage.

Lev 22:12

[12] If the priest's daughter also be married unto a stranger, she may not eat of an offering of the holy things.

The Sons of the Levites

Concerning the rest of the tribe of Levi, excluding the sons of Aaron, your sons can marry sisters of any nation in the faith of Yache. The law restricting a man of Israel to only marry a maiden of the seed of Israel only pertains to the sons of Aaron the priests. Your daughters can be given in marriage to brothers of any nation in the faith of Yache as well aside from the children of Ham. (see the unlawful marriage segment of this tab).

Unlawful Marriages

The children of Israel, are prohibited from the following marriages (along with not marrying strange wives or giving our daughters and sisters unto unbelievers of any nation):

Jasher 73:33-35

[33] For Moses remembered how Abraham made his servant Eliezer swear, saying unto him, Thou shalt not take a woman from the daughters of Canaan for my son Isaac. [34] Also what Isaac did when Jacob had fled from his brother, when he commanded him, saying, Thou shalt not take a wife from the daughters of Canaan, nor make alliance with any of the children of Ham. [35] For Ahayah our Alahayim gave Ham the son of Noah, and his children and all his seed, as slaves to the children of Shem and to the children of Japheth, and unto their seed after them for slaves, forever.

The children of Ham being referred to are the sons of Mizraim, Cush, Phut, Canaan, and the Philistines. The believers of the children of Ham will partake in the kingdom with all the nations that believe being reckon as children of Abraham through faith, yet we men of Israel cannot give our daughters or sisters unto the children of Ham by command of Isaac because they will be servants in the kingdom to come. It will put our daughters in servitude unto the children of Shem and Japheth in the kingdom as oppose to the inheritance of dominion with the children of Israel. {Jasher 73:33-35} Aside from the sons of Aaron, Israelites can make marriages with the believing daughters of Ham as they are reckoned as children of Abraham through faith (as Joseph married Asenath the Egyptian) but we cannot make marriages with their unbelieving daughters (as Moses didn't go in unto the Queen of Cush because she was an unbeliever though she was given unto him by the children of Cush).
Canaan: We are commanded not to marry the unbelievers of daughters of Canaan because their works are are lust and fornication which will turn our heart away from Alahayim. {Jubilee 27:8;20:4; Deut 7:3-4} On the other hand, a believing Canaanite woman is lawful to marry as she is a daughter of Abraham through faith. Also, the seed (the unbelieving males) of Canaan shall be not inherit the kingdom, {Testament of Simeon 6:3; Jub 22:20} while the believing men of Canaan will be servants in tranquility in the kingdom. Canaanites are the children of Ham so we may not give our daughters or sisters unto them though they believe according to the commands of Isaac our father. {Jasher 73:33-35}
Philistines: We cannot give our daughters or sisters to the unbelievers of Philistines because their seed (the unbelieving males) shall not inherit the kingdom. {Jubilee 24:28-33} The Philistines are also children of Ham, so we cannot give our daughters or sisters unto the believers of the Philistines in marriage as Isaac commanded, but marriages may be made with believing daughters of the Philistines.
Edom: We cannot give our daughters unto unbelievers of the men of Edom our brother because their unbelieving males will not inherit the kingdom. {Jer 49:10; Oba 1:18; Gad the Seer 2:15-26} Yet, the believers shall be left as a remnant of the tribe of Edom who are called by the name of Ahayah {Amos 9:12} and shall enter into the congregation according to the law, {Deut 23:7-8} so Israel may give their daughters and sisters to the believers of our brother Edom. Also, Edom's believing women shall trust in Ahayah, {Jer 49:11 } so Israel, excluding Aaron's sons, may marry the believing women of Edom as well.
Amalek: We are not to make marriages with unbelievers of the nation of Amalek because of the prophesies concerning their tribe as they shall not inherit the kingdom. {Num 24:20; Deut 25:19; 1 Sam 15:3; Simeon 6:3}
Moab and Ammon: We are not to give our daughters unto the Moabites or Ammonites because their seed (unbelieving males) shall be not inherit the kingdom {Jubilee 16:-9} and their males cannot enter into the congregation. {Duet 23:2-3} Yet, their daughters belong to Ahayah {Gad the Seer 3:8} so Israelites (aside from the sons of Aaron) may make marriages with the believing daughters of Moab and Ammon like Boaz did with Ruth the Moabite woman.
Priests Sons of Aaron: Sons of Aaron may not make marriages with unbelievers (whore or profane),{Lev 21:7} women of any nation besides the seed of the house of Israel, widows who hadn't been the wife of a priest before, or a woman who was put away from her husband.{Eze 44:22}
Israelites: We are also not to make marriages with the unbelievers of children of Israel because not all Israel are of Israel {Rom 9:6;2:28-29} and all the sinners of our people shall perish, {Amos 9:8-10} so giving our daughter or sister unto a sinner of Israel can cause her to perish with him {Eze 9:1-7;Rev 7:1-4;9:4} and taking an unbelieving Israelitish woman for a wife is unlawful because fellowship with a strange woman is ruin and destruction. {Joseph and Asenath 7:6}