Raising Children in Righteousness

Polycarp to Philipians 4:1

1 But the love of money is the beginning of all troubles.

Love of money (lust) or anything above Alahayim will lead a person unto idolatry which causes troubles in one's life;

Knowing therefore that we brought nothing into the world neither can we carry anything out, let us arm ourselves with the armor of righteousness, and let us teach ourselves first to walk in the commandment of the Lord;

Understanding what is important in this life, a man focuses on putting on righteousness by learning and practicing what is necessary for him keep the commandments.

Polycarp to Philipians 4:2

2 and then our wives also, to walk in the faith that hath been given unto them and in love and purity, cherishing their own husbands in all truth and loving all men equally in all chastity, and to train their children in the training of the fear of Alahayim.

Eph 6:4

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

When a man goes through the necessary experiences of learning, practicing, and eventually walking in the commandments, he will have the knowledge and understanding of what it takes to help and teach his wife and children how to uphold the faith as well (following his example of upholding the law in every aspect of life). As he understands and does the work to get the beam out of his own he to see clearly to help his family, he'll pay attention to them and help steer them in the right direction when opportunities present themselves without shame understanding the goal is for them to also choose and cleave to working righteousness unto Alahayim as well;

Psalms 32:8

I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.

Sir 42:1

Never be ashamed to work righteousness, nor teach your children.

It takes experience learning your children and what works to help them grow in the right direction. This process requires humility for a parent because it takes practice and mistakes will happen along the way as parents learn to raise their children in the nurture of the Lord. A believing parent isn't ashamed to embrace the process because believers come in humility willing to work at it, confessing their faults when they happen learning from the experiences, and in an honest and good heart, they bring forth fruits in themselves and their children with patience. Taking the time to raise children in the nurture of the Lord is kept in kindly remembrance before Alahayim:

Testament of Naphtali Chapter 8:5

As a man who has trained a child well is kept in kindly remembrance: So also for a good work there is a good remembrance before Alahayim.

Sound Doctrine to Teach Children

The type of instruction our children need are given in scripture:

1 Clem. 21:7-9

.....Let our children be partakers of the instruction which is in Christ: 8 let them learn how lowliness of mind prevaileth with Alahayim, what power chaste love hath with Alahayim, how the fear of Him is good and great and saveth all them that walk therein in a pure mind with holiness. 9 For He is the searcher out of the intents and desires; whose breath is in us, and when He listeth, He shall take it away.

1 Clem. 22:1-5

Now all these things the faith which is in Christ confirmeth: for He Himself through the Holy Spirit thus invite thus: Come, my children, hearken unto Me, I will teach you the fear of the Lord. 2 What man is he that desireth life and loveth to see good days? 3 Make thy tongue to cease from evil, and thy lips that they speak no guile. 4 Turn aside from evil and do good. 5 Seek peace and ensue it.

Admonitions for Parents

The admonitions for parents, begin with the head of the household:

Eph 6:4

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

We are called to beseech our children in the meekness and gentleness of Christ {2 Cor 10:1} as he beseeches us as a father praying his son and a mother her daughter. { 2 Esdras 1:28} So our actions ought not to provoke our children to wrath. Rather, through words of righteousness repeated daily, our children can grow in the faith of the Lord by nurture and reproof with love.

Shepherd of Hermas Vision 1

3:2 But the great mercy of the Lord had pity on thee and thy family, and will strengthen thee, and establish thee in His glory. Only be not thou careless, but take courage, and strengthen thy family. For as the smith hammering his work conquers the task which he wills, so also doth righteous discourse repeated daily conquer all evil. Cease not therefore to reprove thy children; for I know that if they shall repent with all their heart, they shall be written in the books of life with the saints."

The responsibility starts with the fathers to set the example for the family that he may teach his wife by his actions that she may learn to walk according to the faith setting an example herself as well. Then she can raise up their children in the instruction of the Lord as did Rachel and Leah build up the house of Israel. {Ruth4:12} Together as one unit in agreement, the parents can guide their household unto righteousness.

The Epistle of Polycarp to the Philippians 2:6

And let us teach ourselves first to walk according to the commandments of Ahayah; and then your wives to walk likewise according to the faith that is given to them' in charity, and purity; loving their own husbands with all sincerity, and all others alike with all temperance; and to bring up their children in the instruction and fear of the Lord.

It takes both parent working the fruits of the Spirit toward one another to set an example for the children:

Colossians 3:19

19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

1 Peter 3:7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

A man must bear the fruits of the Spirit towards his wife and dwell with her according to the knowledge of the law in everything in her struggles to help her as she grows.

Colossians 3:18

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

A wife must submit herself unto her husband in the fruits of the Spirit and operating according to the law as he learns to lead by example submitting himself to the will of the Lord. The relationship of the parents working together in the fruits will set an example for the children.

Colossians 3:20-21

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. 21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

A man has the growth opportunity of learning to be patient and long-suffering through his experiences in his home with his wife, the weaker vessel, and his children who need nurture in the meekness and gentleness of Christ (2 Co 10:1) to be raised up in the faith. A man has to guard himself in meekness to speak rightly with speech seasoned with salt unto his children to avoid provoking them to anger:

Pro 15:1

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

A man has to be mindful to walk in the fear of the Lord bearing the fruits towards his children in his deeds and speech too, not only his wife because if he doesn't walk in the fear of the Lord his house will be overthrown:

Sir 27:3

Unless a man hold himself diligently in the fear of the Lord, his house shall soon be overthrown.

In the household, parents and children deserve mutual respect honoring one another in humility as the Father and the Son our Lord honors one another {Jhn 8:49, 54} so that both children and parents may be honored by the Father for their service unto the Son our Lord. {Jhn 12:26}

John 8:49, 54

Yache answered, I have not a devil; but I honour my Father, and ye do dishonour me. 54 Yache answered, If I honour myself, my honour is nothing: it is my Father that honoureth me; of whom ye say, that he is your Alahayim:

John 12:26

If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour.

Walking in humility with deep respect in reverence for Ahayah serving the Lord Yache will bring honor in the sight of Alahayim for parent and children alike.

Proverbs 22:4

By humility and the fear of Ahayah are riches, and honour, and life.

In the household raising up children in the nurture and admonitions of the Lord, Ahayah is our example, showing mercy while chastening (with mild rebukes) his children whom he loves without upbraiding them. If we delight in our children, we must lead them in the right direction by example first, then with much encouragement, teaching, nurturing, comforting, and instructing with gentleness.

Pro 3:12

For whom Ahayah loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth

Its an act of love and delight in one's children to correct them in meekness with righteous discourse daily when teaching moments arise as it will

Proverbs 13:24

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Ecclesiasticus 30:1-4

He that loveth his son causeth him oft to feel the rod, that he may have joy of him in the end. 2 He that chastiseth his son shall have joy in him, and shall rejoice of him among his acquaintance. 3 He that teacheth his son grieveth the enemy: and before his friends he shall rejoice of him. 4 Though his father die, yet he is as though he were not dead: for he hath left one behind him that is like himself.

As parents guiding them to serve Alahayim from the heart sincerely, teach them good manners in the fruits of the Spirit from their youth and instruction in humility and good works unto Alahayim according to the law from their youth so that they may retain the wisdom unto their adulthood.

Sir 7:23

Hast thou children? instruct them, and bow down their neck from their youth.
Pro 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Sir 7:24

Hast thou daughters? have care of their body, and shew not thy self cheerful toward them.

This doesn't mean do not be cheerful towards your daughters at all because Cheerfulness is a holy spirit we must be clothed in to enter the kingdom. Its referring to when she sins or does something that isn't right, you shouldn't make light of it and laugh it off or smiling being cheerful like it's ok, lest she grow comfortable in folly not being properly nurtured. Upbraiding words is no profit to us or our children seeing as though we have to give them the example of the gentleness and meekness of Christ by humbly exhorting and encouraging them to walk in the ways of the Lord.

2Co 10:1

Now I Paul myself beseech you by the meekness and gentleness of Christ, who in presence am base among you, but being absent am bold toward you:

We are to be meek and gentle being base amongst our children, exhorting, comforting and charging them to walk worthily as a father ought to:

1Th 2:11-12

As ye know how we exhorted and comforted and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children, 12 That ye would walk worthy of Alahayim, who hath called you unto his kingdom and glory.
Pro 19:18

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
Pro 23:13-14

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. 14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Through daily righteous discourse, exhortation, encouragement, we will have joy in the righteous fruit it will bear just as Ahayah chastens us that we may bare fruits of righteousness unto him. {Heb 12:6-12} Teaching them in meekness will grieve the enemy because the fruits of the Spirit are being planted in their soul. On the other hand, if we are abusive, emotionally reactive, wrathful, yelling, scolding, reviling and hasty of spirit (short tempered) toward them, we are only increasing iniquity provoking them to anger and leading our children closer to Satan by showing them the example of Satan.)

An Example of Righteous Chastening of the Household

Hermas Vision 1

[3:1] "Yet it is not for this that Alahayim is wroth with thee, but that thou mayest convert thy family, that hath done wrong against the Lord and against you their parents. But out of fondness for thy children thou didst not admonish thy family, but didst suffer it to become fearfully corrupt. Therefore the Lord is wroth with thee. But He will heal all thy past sins, which have been committed in thy family; for by reason of their sins and iniquities thou hast been corrupted by the affairs of this world. [3:2] But the great mercy of the Lord had pity on thee and thy family, and will strengthen thee, and establish thee in His glory. Only be not thou careless, but take courage, and strengthen thy family. For as the smith hammering his work conquers the task which he wills, so also doth righteous discourse repeated daily conquer all evil. Cease not therefore to reprove thy children; for I know that if they shall repent with all their heart, they shall be written in the books of life with the saints."

Hermas Vision 2

3[7]:1 "But do thou, Hermas, no longer bear a grudge against thy children, neither suffer thy sister to have her way, so that they may be purified from their former sins. For they shall be chastised with a righteous chastisement, unless thou bear a grudge against them thyself. The bearing of a grudge worketh death. But thou, Hermas, hast had great tribulations of thine own, by reason of the transgressions of thy family, because thou hadst no care for them. For thou wast neglectful of them, and wast mixed up with thine evil transactions.

(In order to raise children right, one cannot be bitter or grudging against them, but one must be loving and sincere towards them with consistent words of righteousness which is the righteous chastisement and setting an example of righteousness for them (without hypocrisy) to show them the way in which they ought to go by one's example of a believer walking in guilelessness and simplicity according all of the law in all aspects of life.)

3[7]:2 But herein is thy salvation, in that thou didst not depart from the living Alahayim, and in thy simplicity and thy great continence. These have saved thee, if thou abidest therein; and they save all who do such things, and walk in guilelessness and simplicity. These men prevail over all wickedness, and continue unto life eternal.
3[7]:3 Blessed are all they that work righteousness. They shall never be destroyed

Teach Children the Law and Testimonies

Deu 4:9-10

Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes

have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons; 10 Specially the day that thou stoodest before Ahayah thy Alahayim in Horeb, when Ahayah said unto me, Gather me the people together, and I will make them hear my words, that they may learn to fear me all the days that they shall live upon the earth, and that they may teach their children.

We as parents have to take heed to the commandments and keep our souls diligently to observe them so as not to give place to evil thoughts or desires that would lead our hearts astray to forget them while teaching our children of the law and testimonies so that they also may learn to fear Ahayah all the days and pass that understanding down to their children after having learned from our examples of believers and the nurture and admonitions of the Lord that they themselves have been raised up in.

Deu 6:6-7

And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: 7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

As it was told to Hermas how righteous discourse repeated daily avails much, so also in the law we get confirmation that words of righteousness being spoken daily is profitable for raising up children in the faith of Christ.

A Father Teaching the Children

4Ma 18:9-19

And these my children, having arrived at maturity, their father died: blessed was he! for having sought out a life of fertility in children, he was not grieved with a period of loss of children. 10 And he used to teach you, when yet with you, the law and the prophets. 11 He used to read to you the slaying of Abel by Cain, and the offering up of Isaac, and the imprisonment of Joseph. 12 And he used to tell you of the zealous Phinehas; and informed you of Ananias and Azarias, and Misael in the fire. 13 And he used to glorify Daniel, who was in the den of lions, and pronounce him blessed. 14 And he used to put you in mind of the scripture of Esaias, which says, Even if you pass through the fire, it shall not burn you. 15 He chanted to you David, the hymn-writer, who says, Many are the afflictions of the just. 16 He declared the proverbs of Solomon, who says, He is a tree of life to all those who do His will. 17 He used to verify Ezekiel, who said, Shall these dry bones live? 18 For he didn’t forget the song which Moses taught, proclaiming, I will kill, and I will make to live. 19 This is our life, and the length of our days.

A Mother Raising Children

4Ma 13:19-25

You are not ignorant of the love of brethren, whereof the divine and all-wise Providence has given an inheritance to those who are begotten through their fathers, implanting it in them even through the mother's womb; 20 wherein brethren do dwell the like period, and take their form during the same time, and are nourished from the same blood, and are quickened with the same soul, 21 and are brought into the world after the same space, and they draw milk from the same founts, whereby their fraternal souls are nursed together in arms at the breast 22 and they are knit yet closer through a common nurture and daily companionship and other education, and through our discipline under the Law of Alahayim. 23 The feeling of brotherly love being thus naturally strong, the seven brethren had their mutual concord made yet stronger. 24 For trained in the same Law, and disciplined in the same virtues, and brought up together in the upright life, they loved one another the more abundantly.

Parental Neglect Exhortations

Children are attacked by youthful lust (the spirits of deceit) [Test of Reuben 2-3] from a young age and they need parents to guide them in the right way to go so that they won't depart when older. Parental neglect in nurturing children in the fear of the Lord stains the family nobility:

Sir 22:10

But children, being haughty, through disdain and want of nurture do stain the nobility of their kindred.

Pro 20:11, 15

Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right. 15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Correcting their behavior by reproof with love and setting an example from their youth to help them see the way they ought to go and overcome the evil spirits that seek to blind their hearts with pleasure in evil from their childhood will help them not have pleasure from their hearts when they are grown because of the upbringing they received to train them up in the right way to go and having seen the fruits of good works in how they were raised by their parents.

Sir 30:11

Give him no liberty in his youth, and wink not at his follies.

Children need structure and accountability in their youth so they can know the right way in which they should go. The wrong emotions cloud our judgment to slack in teaching our children, but through temperance in remembering the end goal of saving their soul as Ahayah desires through the commandments given, we can overcome those emotions to do what is right in the sight of Alahayim.

Hermas Vision 1

Sir 30:7

He that maketh too much of his son, shall bind up his wounds, and his bowels will be troubled at every cry.

A person who makes too much of their child is similar to one who puts a their child on a pedestal as if the child can do no wrong or makes excuses for the wrong they do turning a blind eye to hold them accountable for their actions or taking the time to teach them the ways of Alahayim to correct the behavior.

Sir 30:8

An horse not broken becommeth headstrong: and a child left to himself will be willful.

We are exhorted to teach our children the fear of Ahayah by speaking life into them with words of righteousness daily and holding them accountable with gentle corrections when necessary, lest they become headstrong by willful behavior because we left them to themselves not reproving them because we made too much of them out of our fondness for them.

Pro 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

It will hurt a mother as well if she make too much of her son leaving him to himself instead of giving him reproof in love and the rod when its called for.

Sir 30:9

Cocker thy child, and he shall make thee afraid: play with him, and he will bring thee to heaviness.

cocker: to pamper or spoil by indulgence. It is not wise to play with a child when they do things that aren't right just like its not wise to be cheerful when our daughters do the wrong thing {Sir 7:24} because making light of the wrong behavior will cause them to grow stubborn and willful from being left to themselves.{Sir 30:7-9}

Sir 30:10

Laugh not with him, lest thou have sorrow with him, and lest thou gnash thy teeth in the end.

If we do not raise our children right by overlooking their bad behavior, we will sorrow in our life, and gnash our teeth on judgment day because we will receive a just reward for not raising them in the ways of Alahayim while we had the opportunity to do so in this life.

Sir 30:12

Bow down his neck while he is young, and beat him on the sides while he is a child, lest he wax stubborn, and be disobedient unto thee, and so bring sorrow to thine heart.

Teach him to be humble while he is young lest stubbornness or any spirit of pride get an advantage over him.

Sir 42:1

Never be ashamed to work righteousness, nor teach your children.

Sirach 30:13

Chastise thy son, and hold him to labor, lest his lewd behavior be an offence unto thee.

Sir 26:10

If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straightly, lest she abuse herself through overmuch liberty

We as parents have to be attentive to understand our children and what they have need of or whats not good for them and not give that thing to them lest we set an occassion to fall before them.

Exhortation on Daughters

Raising daughters according to the law is essential as righteous parents so they may be stenghtened to stand in the faith regardless of what the world offers them:

Susanna 1:1-3

There dwelt a man in Babylon, called Joacim: 2 And he took a wife, whose name was Susanna, the daughter of Chelcias, a very fair woman, and one that feared the Lord. 3 Her parents also were righteous, and taught their daughter according to the law of Moses.

Some daughters will keep themselves in the ways of Alahayim according to the law of Moses regardless of the temptations they will face in the world like Judith who was raised uprightly:

Jdt 12:16

Now when Judith came in and sat down, Holofernes his heart was ravished with her, and his mind was moved, and he desired greatly her company; for he waited a time to deceive her, from the day that he had seen her.

If he would have deceived her to entice her to lay with him out of his sinful desire to sleep with her, it would have been a sin with her to defile and shame her as she wasn’t his wife:

Jdt 13:16

As the Lord liveth, who hath kept me in my way that I went, my countenance hath deceived him to his destruction, and yet hath he not committed sin with me, to defile and shame me.

It was the spirit of Fornication leading Holefernes in his desire for pleasure and drinking wine only ministered unto the spirit of Fornication working in him to commit a shameful act (which Judith wasn't will do fulfill lest she shame herself):

Testament of Judah 13

2 For the spirit of fornication hath wine as a minister to give pleasure to the mind; for these two also take away the mind of man.

The spirit of Fornication just uses wine as a minister to help a person fulfill their desires or what they have pleasure in, yet the spirit of Fornication herself operates in the love of pleasure, so she can lead a soul to commit the following acts even without wine if the persons mind is overcome by her to let her enter their nature and senses:

Testament of Judah 13:1, 3

1 And now, my children, I say unto you, be not drunk with wine; for wine turneth the mind away from the truth, and inspires the passion of lust, and leadeth the eyes into error. 3 For if a man drink wine to drunkenness, it disturbeth the mind with filthy thoughts leading to fornication, and heateth the body to carnal union; and if the occasion of the lust be present, he worketh the sin, and is not ashamed.

This helps understand its fornication that leads to working sin without shame. Deceit aids Fornication to lead the mind to sin without shame if the person doesn’t preserve modesty (humility):

Testament of Judah 13:7-8

7 For much discretion needeth the man who drinketh wine, my children; and herein is discretion in drinking wine a man may drink so long as he preserveth modesty. 8 But if he go beyond this limit the spirit of deceit attacketh his mind, and it maketh the drunkard to talk filthily, and to transgress and not to be ashamed, but even to glory in his shame, and to account himself honourable.

testament of Judah 14:1

1 He that committeth fornication is not aware when he suffers loss, and is not ashamed when put to dishonour

Lord willing, this helps understand the spirits of Fornication and Deceit help a soul to commit sin without shame. Women, being the weaker vessel, are overcome with the spirit of Fornication more than men so a man has to take special care for the women of his household as their covering:

Testament of Reuben 5:3-4

3 For moreover, concerning them, the angel of the Lord told me, and taught me, that women are overcome by the spirit of fornication more than men, and in their heart they plot against men; and by means of their adornment they deceive first their minds, and by the glance of the eye instill the poison, and then through the accomplished act they take them captive. 4 For a woman cannot force a man openly, but by a harlot’s bearing she beguiles him.

Some daughters are not shamefaced unfortunately as they are overcome with spirit of Fornication which makes a person unashamed to sin so a father has to keep watch over them especially if they are showing signs of having pleasure in the works of the spirit of Fornication lest they defile themselves in their desire to fornicate to their shame in the sight of Alahayim:

Sir 42:9-11

The father waketh for the daughter, when no man knoweth; and the care for her taketh away sleep: when she is young, lest she pass away the flower of her age; 10 In her virginity, lest she should be defiled and gotten with child in her father's house…11 Keep a sure watch over a shameless daughter, lest she make thee a laughingstock to thine enemies, and a byword in the city, and a reproach among the people, and make thee ashamed before the multitude.

A man who has a shameless daughter (struggling with the spirits of Fornication and Deciet), has to keep watch over her body lest she shame him (and herself) by getting herself defiled in her youth:

Sir 26:9, 11

The whoredom of a woman may be known in her haughty looks and eyelids. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass against thee.

Sir 7:24

Hast thou daughters? have a care of their body, and shew not thyself cheerful toward them.

When a daughter is showing the characteristics or signs of whoredom (the spirit of Fornication), it’s not something to show one’s self cheerful about as it’s a serious matter to implement protocols to protect her body lest through her liberty to have her way, it leads to her getting enticed or enticing others to get defiled:

Sir 26:10-11

10 If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuse herself through overmuch liberty. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass against thee.

Fornication and Deceit would make her unashamed without reverence for others, so understanding this, a father is admonished not to be amazed if she happens to do something disrespectful towards him

Sir 26:12

12 She will open her mouth, as a thirsty traveller when he hath found a fountain, and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow.

That means she will desire to commit fornication or operate in the works of the spirit of Fornication in some way with different men so a father must implement protocols to keep her from shaming herself. Thankfully not all women are given to the spirit of Fornication to their shame as some will choose differently and thoses righteous women will keep themselves from being defiled not letting the serpent deceive them nor straying from their fathers house to be protected by him and keep them pure in preparation for marriage:

4Macc 18:4-6

4. Now these are the words that the mother of the seven sons, the righteous woman, spake to her children: 'I was a pure maiden, and I strayed not from my father's house, and I kept guard over the rib that was builded into Eve. 5. No seducer of the desert, no deceiver in the field, corrupted me; nor did the false, beguiling Serpent sully the purity of my maidenhood; 6. I lived with my husband all the days of my youth;

So parents can see the great benefit of raising their daughters up in righteousness according to the law so that she may not be mislead by the spirit of Fornication or Deceit to transgress against Alahayim without shame.

A Father's Care for Daughters

Sir 42:9

The father waketh for the daughter when no man knoweth, and the care for her taketh away sleep; when she is young lest she pass away the flower of her age, and being married, lest she should be hated:

Sir 42:10

In her virginity lest she should be defiled, and gotten with child in her fathers house; and having an husband, lest she should misbehave herself: and when she is married, lest she should be barren

If a man sees his daughter is struggling with pleasure in the wrong spirits, he has to implement whats necessary to help her along with an increase in prayer and seeking insight on what's necessary to help her;

Sir 26:10-12

If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straightly: lest she abuse her self through overmuch liberty. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not, if she trespass against thee. 12 She will open her mouth as a thirsty traveler, when he hath found a fountain: and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow.

If she is in a place where she is struggling with the spirit of Fornication and the desire for fornication (carnal union) itself, along with prayer, a father will need to get insight as to how to help her overcome what she's facing.

Sirach 33:29

But be not excessive toward any; and without discretion do nothing.

Lord willing, his prayers and efforts will help his daughter go in the right direction as a young woman ought to in the ways of the law of Alahayim so that she will exemplify a righteous daughter in her father's house and when she is given unto a husband if the Lord wills;

4Macc 18:4-6