Counseling for Women | Hebrew Readers

Sisters in the Church

A woman may teach the scriptures to her son, until he is the age of a man at 15yrs old, as she is commanded to guide the house in his youth to train him up in the right direction:

1 Timothy 5:14

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Ecclesiasticus 3:2

For the Lord hath given the father honour over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons.

Aside from that scenario, a woman ought not to teach doctrine usurping authority over a man because it is the duty of the Israelite men ministering in the Church to edify the Body of Christ:

1 Timothy 2:12

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

Romans 3:1-2

What advantage then hath the Jew? or what profit is there of circumcision? 2 Much every way: chiefly, because that unto them were committed the oracles of Alahayim.

Romans 9:4

Who are Israelites; to whom pertaineth the adoption, and the glory, and the covenants, and the giving of the law, and the service of Alahayim..

Alahayim has set men of Israel in three ranks to help in the Church for edifying the Body

1 Corinthians 12:28

And Alahayim hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers...

of those set in the Church by Alahayim, the apostles prophets and teachers are for edifying the Body:

Eph 4:11-12

And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; 12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:

Having men of Israel for the edifying of the Body, women ought not to seek counsel from other women for edification in the doctrine of Christ. Brothers, of the Jews and Gentiles, learn from the men of Israel ministering in the Church and they teach their wives and daughters. Unmarried women who's fathers arent in the faith go unto the ministers if they have need of edification. In the scenarios of women married to an unbeliever, they also have the men ministering in the Church for edification when they need it. As for what women can teaching one another, the elder women who are walking uprightly may teach the younger women to do the following so that the Word of Alahayim isn't blasphemed:

Titus 2:2-5

That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of Alahayim be not blasphemed.

Thus women ought not to teach one another the oracles of Alahayim but the elder women who are walking in behavior professing holiness may teach the younger to do the things Paul said unto Titus so that the word of Alahayim be not blasphemed. When women want to learn anything in the Church, they ought to ask their husbands if married, but for the unmarried, they have their believing fathers or the ministers in the Church to get edification if their fathers are unbelieving while those who are married to unbelievers have the ministers in the Church to teach them the doctrine of Christ.

Counsel for Sisters Married or Espoused to a Believer

Married and espoused women have their husbands to learn and get counsel from being in subjection to him in everything:

Eph 5:24

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

1Ti 2:11

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.

1Co 14:35

And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home:…

In learning from her husband, she ought to reason with him and get his counsel before every action as she learns to be according to his mind.

Ecclesiasticus 37:16

Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.

As she learns his counsel and reasonings according to the law, her mind will be well instructed and she will grow in agreement with him walking together according to the same law:

Amos 3:3

Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Ecclesiasticus 26:14

A silent and loving woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed.

Ecclesiasticus 7:26

Hast thou a wife after thy mind? forsake her not: but give not thyself over to a light woman.

As she grows to have the same mind as him walking together with him, she will exemplify the fruits of the Spirit which wills how her husband is instructing her well:

Ecclesiasticus 36:23

If there be kindness, meekness, and comfort, in her tongue, then is not her husband like other men.

Eventually, he will safely trust her to make decisions knowing she is thinking like him and she will do him good all his days:

Proverbs 31:11-12

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

The more they are in harmony agreeing together, their prayers won't be hindered and Alahayim will hear their prayers to direct their way in truth when they inquire of him.

1 Peter 3:1-2, 7

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Ecclesiasticus 37:15

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth.

She may have friends and etc being at peace with all, yet her husband is her one friend and counselor she goes to for counsel as wives are subject to their own husbands:

Ecclesiasticus 6:5-6

Sweet language will multiply friends: and a fair speaking tongue will increase kind greetings. 6 Be in peace with many: nevertheless have but one counsellor of a thousand.

Seeking counsel from her husband who keeps the commandments is upright as they have the same mind desiring to keep the law and he will sypathize with her is she miscarries and teach her whats needful for her growth.

Ecclesiasticus 37:12

But be continually with a holy man, whom thou knowest to keep the commandments of the Lord, whose mind is according to thy mind, and will sorrow with thee, if thou shalt miscarry.

She ought to pray, speak to her husband about things whenever they come up so he can pray on the matter, and give his reasoning and counsel from Alahayim. In the mean time of waiting for counsel, she should meditate on the law in her thoughts and focus on good works while waiting for answers so that Alahayim will establish her heart and give her wisdom on whats right to do as she desires:

Sir 6:37

Let thy mind be upon the ordinances of the Lord and meditate continually in his commandments: he shall establish thine heart, and give thee wisdom at thine owns desire.

The Unmarried Sisters

An unmarried woman seeking edification ought to go unto the ministers of the Church if her father is not in the faith. There is a difference for an Unmarried woman seeking counsel amongst her friends as oppose to scripture or doctrinal questions she needs counsel about for her learning in the Church. Amongst her friends, an unmarried woman must be mindful of which of her friends she choses to confide in for counsel:

Ecclesiasticus 6:5-6

Sweet language will multiply friends: and a fair speaking tongue will increase kind greetings 6 Be in peace with many: nevertheless have but one counsellor of a thousand.

Though she may have friends and be at peace with many, if she keeps the commandments, Alahayim will send her a faithful friend.

Ecclesiasticus 6:14

A faithfull friend is a strong defence: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure.
Ecclesiasticus 6:15 Nothing doth countervail a faithful friend, and his excellency is invaluable.
Ecclesiasticus 6:16 A faithful friend is the medicine of life; and they that fear the Lord shall find him.
Ecclesiasticus 6:17 Whoso feareth the Lord shall direct his friendship aright: for as he is, so shall his neighbour be also.

Amongst the friends gained, when one is seeking that one faithful friend to confide in for counsel, prove her first to be sure she can be trusted for the following reasons:

Ecclesiasticus 6:7-9

If thou wouldest get a friend, prove him first and be not hasty to credit him. 8 For some man is a friend for his own occasion, and will not abide in the day of thy trouble. 9 And there is a friend, who being turned to enmity, and strife will discover thy reproach.

she may counsel you for her own occasion (advantage or gain) and when things don't go well for you, she will not abide with you when you face trouble. Also, she may turn to hate you and tell your personal business to others exposing your shortcomings. These are reasons to prove a friend first to ensure she is faithful before confiding in her for counsel amongst however many friends you may have. Now in the church and seeking edification for growth in the faith, an unmarried woman has to go unto the ministers of the church that are over her for edification.

The Unmarried and Unequally yoked Sisters

In the church, unmarried women and women who have unbelieving husbands have the ministers Alahayim sent to learn from for edification for their perfecting:

Eph 4:11-12

Now for the unmarried or those with unbelieving husbands, finding ministers in the faith who are holy men who keeps the commandments is good for counsel to go unto continually for guidance after you have prayed about your concerns to Alahayim:

Sirach 6:36-37

And if thou seest a man of understanding, get thee betimes unto him, and let thy foot wear the steps of his door. 37 Let thy mind be upon the ordinances of the Lord and meditate continually in his commandments: he shall establish thine heart, and give thee wisdom at thine owns desire.

Sirach 37:12

But be continually with a holy man, whom thou knowest to keep the commandments of the Lord, whose, mind is according to thy mind, and will sorrow with thee, if thou shalt miscarry.

Sirach 37:16

Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.

Sirach 37:15

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth.

So the unmarried or unequally yoked would first pray about concerns to Alahayim, then get unto the holy man who keeps the law for counsel so he can pray and get direction in the way of truth to help the sister, and while waiting on an answer, she should meditate continually upon the law that Alahayim may establish her heart and give her wisdom as she desires.

Moderation & Patience in Prayer

For further understanding of this process, sisters, whether married or unmarried, do things in moderation, not growing anxious when concerns arise, but by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving to Alahayim, they raise their concerns to Him and cast their cares unto Him as an act of humbling themselves before Him, and then speak to the man, whether father, husband or minister, who has the rule over them about the concern for counsel. After that process, focus on the meditations of the law to ensure they are thinking of things that are just, lovely and good while waiting on an answer to their inquiries:

Php 4:5

Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.

Php 4:6

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto Alahayim.

1Pe 5:6

Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of Alahayim, that he may exalt you in due time:

1Pe 5:7

Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Php 4:7

And the peace of Alahayim, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Yache.

Php 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

The Necessity for Counsel

When young in the faith and learning, it’s not wise to go according to one’s own mind but rather to put on the mind of Christ by following the guidance of how to do things outlined in the law:

Sir 5:2

Follow not thine own mind and thy strength, to walk in the ways of thy heart:

Sir 3:24

For many are deceived by their own vain opinion; and an evil suspicion hath overthrown their judgment.

Sir 5:3

And say not, Who shall control me for my works? for the Lord will surely revenge thy pride.

It’s the spirit of pride in selfwill that despises government being under someone else’s control or counsel to seek guidance from them:

2 Peter 2:10

But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous are they, selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities.

On the other hand, it shows trust in Ahayah by seeking his counsel so as not to lean on our own understanding that we may have him directing our paths in everything that we do:

Pro 3:5

Trust in Ahayah with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

Pro 3:6

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Sir 37:15

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth.

The Fruits of Counsel

For the unmarried one's lord in the faith is your father or the ministers of the Church who have rule over you. For the married, one's lord is your husband. when one grows in knowing the will of Alahayim being well instructed through one’s lord to be in agreement and walking after his mind, there will come a time when your lord can safely trust you to make decisions on your own because you’ve grown in understanding to reason as he reasons and think as he thinks so as to act in his stead and fulfill his will in all your works because you have the same desires and understanding being one with him so you would do good unto him all his days and you'll look well to the ways of your household:

Pro 31:10

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

Pro 31:11

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Pro 31:12

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Pro 31:27

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Pro 31:28

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Her children and husband will appreciate her for the good that she is and that she does in upholding the law. Through submitting herself in everything like the Church {Eph 5:24} to get counsel from her lord, she will come into agreement with him, having his mind and going in the way he would have her. The Holy Spirit will be beautified in this agreement between them.

Sir 25:1

In three things I was beautified, and stood up beautiful both before Alahayim and men: the unity of brethren, the love of neighbours, a man and a wife that agree together.

In agreement with her husband, she will operate in Wisdom and the fruits of the Spirit:

Pro 31:25-26

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

Wisdom is with her in her speech and she does no evil by the same Wisdom, which is the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit herself speaks as she hears from the Father, having the same mind as Him and going in the way He would have her so a sister who is grown up in thinking speaking and acting as her lord would, being in agreement together is in the ways of Alahayim:

Joh 16:13

Howbeit when she, the Spirit of truth, is come, she will guide you into all truth: for she shall not speak of herself; but whatsoever she shall hear, that shall she speak: and she will shew you things to come.

For this reason, until one gets build up in righteousness, seeking counsel and prayer in every action is wise to build that good well instructed mind and show one's trust in Alahayim to be given Wisdom when they will it:

Ecclesiasticus 37:16

Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action.

Ecclesiasticus 37:15

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth.