Counseling for Women | Hebrew Readers

Sisters in the Church

A woman may teach the scriptures to her son, until he is the age of a man at 15yrs old, as she is commanded to guide the house in his youth to train him up in the right direction:

1 Timothy 5:14

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Ecclesiasticus 3:2

For the Lord hath given the father honour over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons.

Aside from that scenario, a woman ought not to teach doctrine usurping authority over a man because it is the duty of the Israelite men ministering in the Church to edify the Body of Christ:

1 Timothy 2:12

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

Romans 3:1-2

What advantage then hath the Jew? or what profit is there of circumcision? 2 Much every way: chiefly, because that unto them were committed the oracles of Alahayim.

Romans 9:4

Who are Israelites; to whom pertaineth the adoption, and the glory, and the covenants, and the giving of the law, and the service of Alahayim..

Barn 8:3

The children who sprinkle are they that preached unto us the forgiveness of sins and the purification of our heart, they to whom, being twelve in number for a testimony unto the tribes (for there are twelve tribes of Israel), He gave authority over the Gospel, that they should preach it.

Alahayim has set men of Israel in three ranks to help in the Church for edifying the Body

1 Corinthians 12:28

And Alahayim hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers...

Of those set in the Church by Alahayim, the apostles prophets and teachers are for edifying the Body:

Eph 4:11-12

And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; 12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:

Having men of Israel for the edifying of the Body (which includes the women), women ought not to seek counsel from other women for edification in the doctrine of Christ. In the Church, if a woman is usurping authority to teach doctrine (which is contrary to sound doctrine), it is Jezebel operating in the spirit of Fornication (by transgressing the law) calling herself a prophetess, seducing the people through her teachings of false doctrines by evidence of the fruit that comes forth from those who partake in her sins:

Revelation 2:20-21

Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols. 21 And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not.

Brothers, of the Jews and Gentiles, learn the doctrine and Gospel from the men of Israel ministering in the Church so that they teach their wives, daughters and unmarried sons at home. Unmarried women who's fathers aren't in the faith go unto the ministers if they have need of edification. Likewise for widows and orphans. In the scenarios of women married to an unbeliever, they also have the men ministering in the Church for edification when they need it. As for what women can teaching one another, the elder women who are walking uprightly may teach the younger women to do the following so that the Word of Alahayim isn't blasphemed:

Titus 2:2-5

That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of Alahayim be not blasphemed.

This means women ought not to teach one another the oracles of Alahayim but the elder women who are walking in behavior professing holiness, which is, 'being sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience, not false accusers, not given to much wine,' they may teach the younger to do the things Paul said unto Titus so that the word of Alahayim be not blasphemed. The things elder women may teach the younger women are; 'to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands.' When women want to learn anything in the Church, they must ask their husbands at home if married. For the unmarried, they have their believing fathers to ask at home. If the unmarried father's unbelieving, she has the ministers in the Church to get edification from. Also, those who are married to unbelievers have the ministers in the Church to teach them the doctrine of Christ as well.

Counsel for Sisters Married or Espoused to a Believer

Married and espoused women have their husbands to learn and get counsel from being in subjection to him in everything:

Eph 5:24

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Definition:

Subject G5293 (Thayer)

ὑποτάσσω

hupotassō

Thayer Definition:

1) to arrange under, to subordinate 2) to subject, put in subjection 3) to subject one’s self, obey 4) to submit to one’s control 5) to yield to one’s admonition or advice 6) to obey, be subject

1Ti 2:11

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.

1Co 14:35

And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home:…

In learning from her husband, she ought to consult with him asking her questions to understand him and his understanding of the scriptures and doctrine so that she may go after his mind in the way that he would have her agreeing as one so that she may have her mind well instructed in the faith being in agreement with her husband in the faith as he dwells with her according to the knowledge of the law in everything to help foster a healthy relationship that would be helpful to them both:

1 Peter 3:7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

A man would get the knowledge of the law to understand truth in any matter [Rom 2:20] to apply the law, fruits of it, and testimonies [Isa 8:20] in everything with his wife to dwell with her according to them out of charity to edify her by his works not dwelling without understanding by operating according to his own heart doing things according to his own thoughts. Also he would honor her which is to place a high value upon her as someone precious to him to watch over her and guide her by teaching her to walk in the law, fruits and testimonies as well so she can be after well instructed and after his mind as well.

Psalms 32:8

I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.

She will benefit from being instructed and taught in the knowledge of Alahayim. The fruits of her husband's efforts the will show in her works:

Ecclesiasticus 36:23

If there be kindness, meekness, and comfort, in her tongue, then is not her husband like other men.

These are signs of a husband who loves his wife doing the work at home (with a wife who reverences him [Eph 5:33]) to guide his wife in the right way dwelling with her according knowledge so her mind would be well instructed unto operating in such good works:

Ecclesiasticus 26:14

A silent and loving woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed.

In charity, if she would go in the way he would have her after his mind taking heed to the good instructions he gives (through his knowledge of the law), it will bring the relationship closer and he can build with her, as truth with each other and abiding in the law brings oneness, but if she won’t respect him to reverence, listen to him and be subject to him or be willing to learn to be under obedience by putting in the work to do so, then in charity, he has to take heed and not give himself over to her to let her have her way:

Ecclesiasticus 7:26

Hast thou a wife after thy mind? forsake her not: but give not thyself over to a light woman.

A man of understanding understands that he can't give himself over to a woman who lightly esteems him not having respect for him to be after his mind as they cannot walk together in the faith unless they agree together;

Amos 3:3

Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

A wife that reverences her husband and agrees with him will go after his mind getting his counsel before every action as she learns to be according to his mind showing her subjection to him and reverence for him by getting and going according to his advice in everything.

Ecclesiasticus 37:16

Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.

Sir 33:29

.. and without discretion do nothing.

Sir 32:19

Do nothing without advice...

As she learns his counsel and reasonings according to the law, her mind will be well instructed and she will grow in agreement with him walking together according to the same law. In time she will be operating as he would operate having been instructed in the right way. As she grows to have the same mind as him walking together with him, she will exemplify the fruits of the Spirit which will how her husband is instructing her well:

Ecclesiasticus 26:14

A silent and loving woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed.

Ecclesiasticus 36:23

If there be kindness, meekness, and comfort, in her tongue, then is not her husband like other men.

Eventually, he will safely trust her to make decisions knowing she is thinking like him and she will do him good all his days:

Proverbs 31:11-12

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

The more they are in harmony agreeing together, their prayers won't be hindered and Alahayim will hear their prayers to direct their way in truth when they inquire of him.

1 Peter 3:1-2, 7

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Ecclesiasticus 37:15

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth.

She may have friends and etc being at peace with all, yet her husband is her one friend and counselor she goes to for counsel as wives are subject to their own husbands:

Ecclesiasticus 6:5-6

Sweet language will multiply friends: and a fair speaking tongue will increase kind greetings. 6 Be in peace with many: nevertheless have but one counsellor of a thousand.

Seeking counsel from her husband who keeps the commandments is upright as they have the same mind desiring to keep the law and he will sypathize with her is she miscarries and teach her whats needful for her growth.

Ecclesiasticus 37:12

But be continually with a holy man, whom thou knowest to keep the commandments of the Lord, whose mind is according to thy mind, and will sorrow with thee, if thou shalt miscarry.

She ought to pray, speak to her husband about things whenever they come up so they can pray together and he can pray on the matter to get counsel from his head, Yache the Lord, and give his reasoning and counsel from Alahayim through Yache. In the mean time of waiting for counsel, she should meditate on the law in her thoughts and focus on good works while waiting for answers so that Alahayim will establish her heart and give her wisdom on whats right to do as she desires:

Sir 6:37

Let thy mind be upon the ordinances of the Lord and meditate continually in his commandments: he shall establish thine heart, and give thee wisdom at thine owns desire.

The Unmarried Sisters

An unmarried woman seeking edification in the faith ought to go unto the ministers of the Church if her father or brother of age (15 yrs) is not in the faith. There is a difference for an Unmarried woman seeking counsel amongst her friends as oppose to scripture or doctrinal questions she needs counsel about for her learning in the Church. Amongst her friends, an unmarried woman must be mindful of which of her friends she choses to confide in for counsel:

Ecclesiasticus 6:5-6

Sweet language will multiply friends: and a fair speaking tongue will increase kind greetings 6 Be in peace with many: nevertheless have but one counsellor of a thousand.

Though she may have friends and be at peace with many, if she keeps the commandments, Alahayim will send her a faithful friend.

Ecclesiasticus 6:14-17

A faithful friend is a strong defence: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure. 15 Nothing doth countervail a faithful friend, and his excellency is invaluable. 16 A faithful friend is the medicine of life; and they that fear the Lord shall find him. 17 Whoso feareth the Lord shall direct his friendship aright: for as he is, so shall his neighbour be also.

Amongst the friends gained, when one is seeking that one faithful friend to confide in for counsel, prove her first to be sure she can be trusted for the following reasons:

Ecclesiasticus 6:7-9

If thou wouldest get a friend, prove him first and be not hasty to credit him. 8 For some man is a friend for his own occasion, and will not abide in the day of thy trouble. 9 And there is a friend, who being turned to enmity, and strife will discover thy reproach.

she may counsel you for her own occasion (advantage or gain) and when things don't go well for you, she will not abide with you when you face trouble. Also, she may turn to hate you and tell your personal business to others exposing your shortcomings. These are reasons to prove a friend first to ensure she is faithful before confiding in her for counsel amongst however many friends you may have. Now in the church and seeking edification for growth in the faith, an unmarried woman has to go unto the ministers of the church that are over her for edification (if her father or brother isn't in the faith).

The Unmarried Uncovered and Unequally yoked Sisters

In the church, unmarried women and women who have unbelieving heads of household (whether husband, father or brother) have the ministers Alahayim sent to learn from for edification for their perfecting:

Eph 4:11-12

These are who the members of the Church are subject to for everyone's edification:

Romans 13:1

Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of Alahayim: the powers that be are ordained of Alahayim.

The powers that are ordained of Alahayim are his ministers in the Church for the edifying of the Body:

Romans 13:2-5

Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of Alahayim: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same: 4 For he is the minister of Alahayim to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of Alahayim, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil. 5 Wherefore ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake.

Now for the unmarried or those with an unbelieving head of household, finding ministers in the faith who are holy men who keeps the commandments is good for counsel to go unto continually for guidance after you have prayed about your concerns to Alahayim through the righteous fathers unto Lord Yache or through Lord Yache:

Sirach 6:36-37

And if thou seest a man of understanding, get thee betimes unto him, and let thy foot wear the steps of his door. 37 Let thy mind be upon the ordinances of the Lord and meditate continually in his commandments: he shall establish thine heart, and give thee wisdom at thine owns desire.

Sirach 37:12

But be continually with a holy man, whom thou knowest to keep the commandments of the Lord, whose, mind is according to thy mind, and will sorrow with thee, if thou shalt miscarry.

Sirach 37:15

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth.

Sirach 37:16

Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.

Sir 33:29

.. and without discretion do nothing.

Sir 32:19

Do nothing without advice...

So the unmarried, uncovered (no believing head of household) or unequally yoked (married to an unbeliever) would first pray about concerns to Alahayim through the righteous unto or through Lord Yache, then get unto the holy man who keeps the law for counsel so he can pray and get direction in the way of truth to help the sister, and while waiting on an answer, she should meditate continually upon the law that Alahayim may establish her heart and give her wisdom as she desires.

Sir 6:37

Let thy mind be upon the ordinances of the Lord and meditate continually in his commandments: he shall establish thine heart, and give thee wisdom at thine owns desire.

Moderation & Patience in Prayer

For further understanding of this process, sisters, whether married or unmarried, do things in moderation, not growing anxious when concerns arise, but by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving to Alahayim (through the righteous unto the Lord Yache or through Lord Yache), they raise their concerns to Him and cast their cares unto Him as an act of humbling themselves before Him respecting his hierarchy, and then speak to the man, whether father, husband, brother or minister, who has the rule over them about the concern for counsel. After that process, focus on the meditations of the law to ensure they are thinking of things that are just, lovely and good while waiting on an answer to their inquiries:

Php 4:5-6

Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. 6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto Alahayim.

1Pe 5:6-7

Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of Alahayim, that he may exalt you in due time: 7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Php 4:7-8

And the peace of Alahayim, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Yache. 8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Once Alahayim gives you understanding whether through your covering or his minister or through dreams with His interpretation, do not deviate to the right or left from His instruction holding His words in high regard:

Ecclesiasticus 5:10-13

Be stedfast in thy understanding; and let thy word be the same. 11 Be swift to hear; and let thy life be sincere; and with patience give answer. 12 If thou hast understanding, answer thy neighbour; if not, lay thy hand upon thy mouth. 13 Honour and shame is in talk: and the tongue of man is his fall.

When young in the faith and learning, it’s not wise to go according to one’s own mind not submitting to one's covering in the faith and doing things according to Alahayim's hierarchy, so we encourage our sisters to do all things with good intent and in order in the fear of Alahayim (humility) as outlined in the scriptures discussed in this understanding covered in this website tab and the Order of Prayer through Hierarchy" tab:

https://www.hebrewreaders.com/the-order-of-prayer-through-hierarchy

Testament of Naphtali 2:9

9 So then, my children, let all your works be done in order with good intent in the fear of Alahayim, and do nothing disorderly in scorn or out of its due season.

Don't let pride or an haughty spirit cause your fall by letting them turn your heart away from submitting to the laws and upright order of Alahayim:

Proverbs 16:18

Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.

Sir 5:2-3

Follow not thine own mind and thy strength, to walk in the ways of thy heart: 3 And say not, Who shall control me for my works? for the Lord will surely revenge thy pride.

It’s the spirits of pride that despises being under someone else’s control or counsel to seek guidance from Alahayim in their proper order:

Sir 3:24

For many are deceived by their own vain opinion; and an evil suspicion hath overthrown their judgment.

Leaning on Alahayim through your head (covering) or Alahayim's ministers, either of which are your helpers to bring you unto the Lord Yache and Alahayim the Father, for understanding by taking counsel in every action from your covering {(whether father, husband, or brother) or the ministers themselves who will inquire unto the Lord with and/or for you} as you grow in serving Alahayim through obedience unto your covering in patience to wait on Alahayim’s counsel is wise:

Pro 1:5

A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:

Not only is it upright to get counsel from whomever's care the Lord Yache has placed you in, but also to walk with wise man who are also striving in keeping the law in agreement with him going after his mind as companions help one another so that that you both may be wise departing from evil (even as Zipporah was a help to her husband when there was an opportunity and likewise her husband helped build her up by teaching her the right way to go for her conversion unto the faith in the Alahayim of the Hebrews):

Proverbs 13:20

He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.

This upright order of Alahayim ensures a sister is waking in His counsel and thoughts of His heart given to her through whomever's care she is placed under by our Lord Yache so that she will be prospered in all things with no fear because she know she's gotten counsel from on high and no strange deity can deceive her hearts to turn to the right or left from Alahayim’s ways:

Psa 33:11

The counsel of Ahayah standeth for ever, the thoughts of his heart to all generations

Pro 21:30

There is no wisdom nor understanding nor counsel against Ahayah.

for such reasons, Alahayim’s counsel is esteemed above wealth:

Sir 40:25

Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both.

Placing high value on His counsel, will strengthen a sister's heart to seek it and receiving it to take heed to it because she hold it in high regard valuing the benefits of good that will come from it:

Proverbs 12:15

The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.

Proverbs 19:20

Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.

Sir 22:16 As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time.

This helps understand Alahayim didn’t give us the spirit of fear nor will we be fearful because by seeking counsel, we will have a sound mind walking in what they will for us to do:

2 Timothy 1:7

For Alahayim hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

This is praise worthy until Alahayim understanding how valuable it is when the counsel does come from Alahayim in any given matter to perform it with gratitude

The Necessity for Counsel

When young in the faith and learning, it’s not wise to go according to one’s own mind but rather to put on the mind of Christ by following the guidance of how to do things outlined in the law:

Sir 5:2

Follow not thine own mind and thy strength, to walk in the ways of thy heart:

Sir 3:24

For many are deceived by their own vain opinion; and an evil suspicion hath overthrown their judgment.

Sir 5:3

And say not, Who shall control me for my works? for the Lord will surely revenge thy pride.

It’s the spirits of pride in selfwill that despises government being under someone else’s control or counsel to seek guidance from them:

2 Peter 2:10

But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous are they, selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities.

On the other hand, it shows trust in Ahayah by seeking His counsel so as not to lean on your own understanding that you may have Him directing your paths in everything that you do through Lord Yache and whomever's care he has placed you in, whether a covering (father, husband or brother) or his ministers:

Pro 3:5-6

Trust in Ahayah with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Sir 37:15-16

And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.

Sir 32:17-20

A sinful man will not be reproved, but findeth an excuse according to his will. 18 A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel. 19 Do nothing without advice; and when thou hast once done, repent not. 20 Go not in a way wherein thou mayest fall, and stumble not among the stones.

Sir 33:29

But be not excessive toward any; and without discretion do nothing.

The Fruits of Counsel

Ephesians 5:23-24

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

The Church, being in subjection in everything to Christ, is a representation of him as she is after his mind walking as he would have her to the point that she is referred to as him in scripture;

Hermas Vision 4

2[23]:1 Now after I had passed the beast, and had gone forward about thirty feet, behold, there meeteth me a virgin arrayed as if she were going forth from a bridal chamber all in white and with white sandals, veiled up to her forehead, and her headcovering consisted of a turban, and her hair was white.

2[23]:2 I knew from the former Visions that it was the Church, and I became more cheerful. She saluteth me, saying, "Good morrow, my good man"; and I saluted her in turn, "Lady, good morrow."

Hermas Parable 9

1[78]:1 After I had written down the commandments and parables of the shepherd, the angel of repentance, he came to me and saith to me; "I wish to show thee all things that the Holy Spirit, which spake with thee in the form of the Church, showed unto thee. For that Spirit is the Son of Alahayim.

The Church herself is in agreement with Christ, her head, and goes in the way he would have her being after his mind so as to do things as he would have he would being one mind with him. She operates like him having submitted herself to him in everything to the point that she herself is referred to as "the Son of Alahayim" because she represents him in everything that she does being subject to her head for an example for women to follow. For the unmarried one's lord in the faith is your father {or brother} or the ministers of the Church (if the head of household is in unbelief) who have rule over you. For the married, one's lord is your husband. when one grows in knowing the will of Alahayim being well instructed through one’s lord to be in agreement together going in the way he would have you after his mind, there will come a time when your lord can safely trust you to make decisions on your own because you’ve grown in understanding to reason as he reasons and think as he thinks so as to act in his stead and fulfill his will in all your works because you have the same desires and understanding being one with him so you would do good unto him all his days and you'll look well to the ways of your household:

Pro 31:10-12

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Pro 31:27-28

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Her children and husband will appreciate her for the good that she is doing and that she does in upholding the law. Through submitting herself in everything like the Church {Eph 5:24} to get counsel from her lord, she will come into agreement with him, having his mind and going in the way he would have her. The Holy Spirit will be beautified in this agreement between them.

Sir 25:1

In three things I was beautified, and stood up beautiful both before Alahayim and men: the unity of brethren, the love of neighbours, a man and a wife that agree together.

In agreement with her husband, she will operate in Wisdom and her good fruits:

Pro 31:25-26

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

Wisdom is with her in her speech and she does no evil by the same Wisdom, which is the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit herself speaks as she hears from the Father, having the same mind as Him and going in the way He would have her so a sister who is grown up in thinking, speaking and acting as her lord would, being in agreement together, is in the ways of Alahayim through Lord Yache:

Joh 16:13

Howbeit when she, the Spirit of truth, is come, she will guide you into all truth: for she shall not speak of herself; but whatsoever she shall hear, that shall she speak: and she will shew you things to come.

For this reason, until one gets build up in righteousness, seeking counsel and prayer in every action is wise to build that good well instructed mind and show one's trust in Alahayim (through Lord Yache and whomever's care you've been placed in) to be given Wisdom when They will it:

Ecclesiasticus 37:15-16

15 And above all this pray to the most High, that he will direct thy way in truth. 16 Let reason go before every enterprise, and counsel before every action.

Sir 32:18-20

18 A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel. 19 Do nothing without advice; and when thou hast once done, repent not. 20 Go not in a way wherein thou mayest fall, and stumble not among the stones.

Sir 33:29

But be not excessive toward any; and without discretion do nothing.

To supplement the edification on this page, please check out the "Counseling for Men" tab to ensure you understand the order in which whichever man's care the Lord Yache has placed you in goes about getting his counsel from Alahayim through the Lord Yache:

https://www.hebrewreaders.com/counseling-for-men