The Hierarchy of the Household

1Co 11:3

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is Alahayim.

Genesis 3:16

Unto the woman he said,.. thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

Ephesians 5:24

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Sir 3:2

For the Lord hath given the father honour over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons.

This is the hierarchy of the household according to sound doctrine:

1Co 11:7-9

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of Alahayim: but the woman is the glory of the man. 8 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

The man is the glory and image of Alahayim, while the woman is the glory of the man because the woman came from the man and was created for him, he being her lord who her desire is unto as he is the savior of her body, cherishing and nurturing her as Christ does the Church, giving himself as a living sacrifice in good works for their salvation. The hierarchy of the family was corrupted by the men operating in the spirit of Fornication to serve idols (which lead to all manner of uncleanness) and the women given to the spirit of Fornication before the flood to allure the Watchers (Angels) through outward attraction to lust after them and commit fornication with them:

Testament of Reuben 4:6-7

For a pit unto the soul is the sin of fornication, separating it from Alahayim, and bringing it near to idols, because it deceiveth the mind and understanding, and leadeth young men into Hades before their time. 7 For many hath fornication destroyed; because, though a man be old or noble, or rich or poor, he bringeth reproach upon himself with the sons of men and derision with Beliar.

Wisdom of Solomon 14:12, 21-27

For the devising of idols was the beginning of spiritual fornication, and the invention of them the corruption of life. 21 And this was an occasion to deceive the world: for men, serving either calamity or tyranny, did ascribe unto stones and stocks the incommunicable name. 22 Moreover this was not enough for them, that they erred in the knowledge of Alahayim; but whereas they lived in the great war of ignorance, those so great plagues called they peace. 23 For whilst they slew their children in sacrifices, or used secret ceremonies, or made revellings of strange rites; 24 They kept neither lives nor marriages any longer undefiled: but either one slew another traiterously, or grieved him by adultery. 25 So that there reigned in all men without exception blood, manslaughter, theft, and dissimulation, corruption, unfaithfulness, tumults, perjury, 26 Disquieting of good men, forgetfulness of good turns, defiling of souls, changing of kind, disorder in marriages, adultery, and shameless uncleanness. 27 For the worshipping of idols not to be named is the beginning, the cause, and the end, of all evil.

Romans 1:24-27

Wherefore Alahayim also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25 Who changed the truth of Alahayim into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26 For this cause Alahayim gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

Testament of Reuben 5:1, 3-4

For evil are women, my children; and since they have no power or strength over man, they use wiles by outward attractions, that they may draw him to themselves. 3 For moreover, concerning them, the angel of the Lord told me, and taught me, that women are overcome by the spirit of fornication more than men, and in their heart they plot against men; and by means of their adornment they deceive first their minds, and by the glance of the eye instill the poison, and then through the accomplished act they take them captive. 4 For a woman cannot force a man openly, but by a harlot’s bearing she beguiles him.

Testament of Reuben 6:1-4

Flee, therefore, fornication, my children, and command your wives and your daughters, that they adorn not their heads and faces to deceive the mind: because every woman who useth these wiles hath been reserved for eternal punishment. 2 For thus they allured the Watchers who were before the flood; for as these continually beheld them, they lusted after them, and they conceived the act in their mind; 3 for they changed themselves into the shape of men, and appeared to them when they were with their husbands 4 And the women lusting in their minds after their forms, gave birth to giants, for the Watchers appeared to them as reaching even unto heaven.

Both men and women operating in the spirit of Fornication caused the disorder in the hierarchy of the household. The wives who were overcome by the spirit of Fornication had no reverence for their men nor Alahayim by forsaking His law of obedience to their husband's rule over them, {Gen 3:16} being mislead to allure and lust after the angels though married to their own husbands. Due to these events of the past and the woman being the glory of the man, the woman's head covering is a symbol of her man's authority over her for protection from the evil Angels:

1Co 11:10

For this cause ought the woman to have power G1849 on her head because of the angels.

(The fallen angels lusted after the women before the flood, seeing them from above. The power upon her head of the head covering is a symbol of her Head's authority over her for protection for the evil angels;

Definition:

G1849

ἐξουσία

exousia

ex-oo-see'-ah

Thayers Definition:

the power of rule or government (the power of him whose will and commands must be submitted to by others and obeyed.)

d. a sign of the husbands authority over his wife.

1. the veil with which propriety required a woman to cover herself.

e. the sign of regal authority, a crown. (a wife's veil is a crown upon her head)

By definition, a woman’s head covering is a token of the control or authority her husband has. Prior to marriage, her father has this authority and control over her, caring for her body. Her father gives this authority over to the man of understanding in marriage. {Sirach 22:4- 5}

Sir 7:24-25

Hast thou daughters? have a care of their body, and shew not thyself cheerful toward them. 25 Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.

Also, the man has responsibility for the life of the woman too, as the savior of her body who he dwells with according to the knowledge of the law so that their prayers be not hindered through pride and/or bitterness (nourishing hatred);

Colossians 3:19

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

Ephesians 5:25

...even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Testament of Dan 6:9

..for he is true and long-suffering, meek and lowly, and teacheth by his works the law of Alahayim.

Ephesians 5:26-27, 23

That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

1Pe 3:7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Psalms 138:6

Though Ahayah be high, yet hath he respect unto the lowly: but the proud he knoweth afar off.

This work of love as the head of household to save his family by doing what's right according to the law in everything for the sanctification and cleansing of his wife for her salvation is the same work Christ did for his wife:

Ephesians 5:1-2, 28-29

Be ye therefore followers of Alahayim, as dear children; 2 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to Alahayim for a sweetsmelling savour. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

The man and woman are essential to each other. They are to walk as one in Christ Yache serving one another for each other's good unto edification.

1Co 11:11-12

Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. 12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of Alahayim.

1 Corinthians 7:33-34

But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34.. she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

Romans 15:2

Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.

The man is the head of the woman but they are one together having need of one another and the Holy Spirit is beautified when they agree together, serving the Lord in one mind, speaking the same thigs:

Sir 25:1

In three things I was beautified, and stood up beautiful both before Alahayim and men: the unity of brethren, the love of neighbours, a man and a wife that agree together.

1 Corinthians 1:10

Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Yache Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.

Romans 12:16

Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.

Further edification on the Hierarchy of the Household

Sir 3:2

For the Lord hath given the father honor over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons.

Fathers

The father has honor over the children, even as the Father has honor over Christ, the Son. The head of Christ is Alahayim the Holy Father. The Holy Spirit is not the head of Yache, even as the wife is not the head of the sons or the other children. Christ is the head of the Church, even as Ahayah is the Head of his wife, the Holy Spirit. The wife is one flesh with her husband, {Gen 2:23-24} so she is a representation of him, even as the Church represents the Son of Alahayim. {Hermas Parable 9 1[78]:1} So the wife operates in unity with her husband instructing the sons so that the husband may leave one like unto himself in the earth. {Sir 30:3-4} For the mothers, the authority over the sons in their youth (up until age 15) is given to the mother, {Sir 3:2} even as Yache was under the authority of Mary in his youth before the age of manhood. {Luk 2:41-51}

Mothers

The mother guides the house in the instruction of the Lord that she learns from her husband to be after his mind [Sir 7:26] in the commandments [Sir 6:37] as they grow together in the faith. {Polycarp to Php 4:1-2} The sons are in subjection to both their parents even as Yache was to his parents on earth, honoring them. {Luke 2:51} The mother learns wisdom and instruction from her husband {1Co 14:35} to guide the sons, even as the Holy Spirit, who being conversant with Ahayah, [Wis 8:3-4] received her prudence and knowledge from Him [Pro 8:12] which He instructed her to pour, without measure, upon Yache, their Son, {Jhn 3:34-35} that he may be like unto his Father in all things. {Jhn 14:7-9} Yache is prosperous in all things [Test of Judah 1:4-6] because he obeys the voice of his Father, {Jhn 12:49-50} doing the things that please Him in His commandments [Jhn 8:29] which also justifies his Mother {Luke 7:35} as he is keeping her ways that she taught him in his youth, [Pro 8:32; Sir 1:5] walking in the laws she gave him to aid him in fulfilling the will of the Father, her husband. [Wis 6:18-19] This is just as righteous sons will keep the commands of their father and the laws of their mother which guide them in fulfilling their father's instructions. {Pro 6:20} Mothers behave as is becoming of piety {Tit 2:2-4} and teach their children the humility of the fear of the Lord, {1Clem 21:7-8} walking in it themselves, being of a lowly estate in mind so as to treat their children as their brother and sister in Christ, not lording over them, {Rom 12:16; 1Pe 1:3} but inspiring them unto walking in the judgments of their father, {Apoc of Paul 13} doing so herself as an ensample and aid unto them all. {Mrk 10:42-44}

Daughters

A father has care over his daughter's body, {Sir 7:24;42:9-11} just as he is the savior of his wife's body. {Eph 5:23} A father has authority over his daughter to keep her as a virgin for her salvation and greater gifts in the kingdom [Apoc of Paul 21] or to give her in marriage if Alahayim wills him to do so {1 Cor 7:36-38} wherein she shall receive her blessings in the kingdom for keeping the chastity of her nuptials in this life. {Apoc of Paul 21} He performs a weighty matter by giving her to a man of understanding if he does give her in marriage. {Sir 7:25; Tob 7:13} Both, sons and daughters, do service unto their parents as unto their masters, {Sir 3:7} even as Yache and his sisters, the 12 holy spirits, serve the Holy Father and Holy Spirit, the Mother of all creation. A mother guides her daughter in the ways her father would have her to go, teaching the good things she learned from their head of household, and behaving as is becoming of piety {Tit 2:2-5} that she may teach her daughter by her example to be a virtuous woman {Pro 31:10-31} as sister, daughter, and wife if it be Alahayim's will she be given in marriage. {Pro 31:10-31}

Sons

The sons have power over their sisters as well, even as Yache, the Son of Ahayah, has power over the 12 holy spirits. {Hermas Parable 9 [2:3;13:2;15:1-2]} One can confirm a son has power over his sister by evidence of him having authority to give her in marriage in agreement with his father {Gen 34:5-14} or if the father is absent as well. { Jubilee 30:7} The sons protect and guide their sisters to go in the ways their father would have them to go by the instruction/wisdom of their mother in their youth and in obedience to the voice of their father, who is the head of the household. When they become men, they still have power over their sister to help her go in the way their father would have her to go, doing so in the fruits of righteousness they learned in their upbringing from their mother in their youth. Their mother now just exhorts them to continue being sober minded as she no longer teaches them doctrine lest she be usurping authority over the men. When their sister is given in marriage, that power over her is given unto her husband, their brother in-law, who is now the savior of her body. They continue to have a care for the wellbeing of their sister, hoping the marriage prospers wherein she is treated well and behaving uprightly herself to the honoring their father's house.

Benefits of the Righteous Household for the Sons:

The hierarchy of the family prepares the sons for adulthood and marriage. The son, having learned to honor his parents, being in subjection unto them with due reverence, reciprocates that nurture and gentleness he experiences from them by guiding and protecting his sister(s). In the process, he learns to be patient and long-suffering with his sister(s) in love, cherishing her as he has seen and experienced his father do, and learns to be delicate and affectionate in loving nurture as he has seen and experienced his mother do; all of which will prepare him to be a good husband in truth if the Lord wills for him to have a wife because he will know how to love her as a sister first, having loved his own sister in righteousness by the example of his parents.

Benefits of the Righteous Household for the Daughters:

This hierarchy is also a nurturing environment to prepare a daughter for adulthood and healthy marriage life because she learns to be shamefaced toward all men by the example of her mother's subjection to her father in affection and reverence for him, along with her own experiences of being subjection to him out of her reverence and affinity for her him, and her reverence with obedience to her brother(s) who look out for her with affection. Serving her parents as her masters and aiding her brothers in love prepares her to be a helpmeet unto her husband, who will be her lord to whom her desire shall be unto to please him uprightly and be a tower against death out of her concern for his wellbeing, following her mother's example. Her virtuous mother's example of not being idle, hardworking in business, and guiding her house in the fear of the Lord gives her an example of how to be virtuous as well. She also learns from her mother how to be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, sound in charity, sound in patience, not a false accuser, not given to much wine, chaste, gentle, good, discreet, loving unto her husband and children, obedient to her husband, a keeper at home, and a teacher of good things to her own children in the future. This environment also teaches a daughter not to usurp authority over a man, which would be reproach unto her. {Sir 22:5; 42:10; I Tim 2:12} The environment encourages her to walk in humility by honoring her father, mother, and brethren as they all have care over her. This environment prepares her for marriage as she walks in humility and obedience towards her parents and siblings understanding the love her brothers and parents have shown through guiding her on the right paths her father would have her to go in. This will also enable her to have a flourishing relationship with her husband, whom she will reverence as a brother firstly, having loved her brothers, and love affectionately as a wife having learned from her mother's relationship with her father. Thus, parents working as one unit to raise their household together brings forth righteousness by being examples of believers to their children, showing them how to love and honor one another, just as Lord Yache learned from the Holy Father and Wisdom, his true Mother.

The Value of a Virtuous Woman

It is a blessing in Ahayah’s eyes for husband and his wife (or wives) to build the house by raising up righteous children as our fore parents.

Rth 4:11

And all the people that were in the gate, and the elders, said, We are witnesses: Ahayah make the woman that is come into thine house like Rachel and like Leah, which two did build the house of Israel and do thou worthily in Ephratah, and be famous in Bethlehem:

Sir 40:19

Children and the building of a city continue a man’s name: but a blameless wife is counted above them both.

In the sight of Alahayim, a blameless wife is counted above children for some of the following reasons:

Her continent mind cannot be valued. Sir 26:14-15
She increases her husband's joy and quality of life by her grace. Sir 26:13
She is a pillar of rest and tower of defense against death for her husband. Sir 36:24, 22
Her beauty is shown in her ordering of the house (children), Sir 26:16 guiding the sons to be as their father Sir 30:4 and daughters to go in the ways of wisdom and humility to the honor their father's house. Sir 22:3-5
Her subjection to her husband and chaste conversation (manner of life) converts unbelievers (whoever they may be) to the faith: 1Pe 3:1-2

Proverbs 31:10

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

Her virtuous mind is invaluable as it shows forth in her good works like being silent, loving, shamefaced and faithful;

1 Clem. 21:7

let them show forth their lovely disposition of purity; let them prove their sincere affection of gentleness; let them make manifest the moderation of their tongue through their silence...

Sir 26:14-15, 13

A silent and loving woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed. 15 A shamefaced and faithful woman is a double grace, and her continent mind cannot be valued. 13 The grace of a wife delighteth her husband, and her discretion will fatten his bones.

These invaluable fruits of a virtuous woman, prospers her husband as she is a help and pillar of rest unto him, being a tower against death as her concern is for his wellbeing;

Sir 36:24

that getteth a wife beginneth a possession, a help like unto himself, and a pillar of rest.

Sir 26:22, 16

An harlot shall be accounted as spittle; but a married woman is a tower against death to her husband. 16 As the Sun when it ariseth in the high heaven: so is the beauty of a good wife in the ordering of her house.

Her efforts in the household will be shown in the children and the trust her husband has in her taking care of the house;

Pro 31:27, 11

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Sir 11:28

Judge none blessed before his death: for a man shall be known in his children.

His blessed portion of a good wife will be shown in his sons being like unto him, having been trained up in their youth from their mother to do so;

Sir 30:4

Though his father die, yet he is as though he were not dead: for he hath left one behind him that is like himself.

The sons and daughters works to honor or dishonor their father can give indication of whether they were well nurtured in their upbringing by their parent(s) as an unrighteous parent or parents can negatively affect the children's upbringing;

Sir 22:3-5

An evilnurtured man is the dishonour of his father that begat him: and a foolish daughter is born to his loss. 4 A wise daughter shall bring an inheritance to her husband: but she that liveth dishonestly is her father's heaviness. 5 She that is bold dishonoureth both her father and her husband, but they both shall despise her.

Though the children have their own choices to make in life, the parents making the choice to walk in the faith helps bring forth living children who won't be overcome by the idols that seek to lead them astray from their youth unto perdition. Though they will have to work through the growing pains of youth to overcome idolatry like everyone else, having parents to guide them through the hurdles, educating them in gentleness and setting an example for them, will build them up to get through the process as Rachel and Leah did unto the house of Israel;

Acts of Thomas 12

Remember, my children, what my brother said to you, and to whom he commended you; and know that if you refrain from this filthy intercourse you become temples holy and pure, being released from afflictions and troubles, known and unknown, and you will not be involved in the cares of life and of children, whose end is destruction.

This is an example of how parents decisions according to their lusts affect the children when they don't take the time to come to know themselves and each other uprightly in Christ to build a healthy relationship and household for the children to flourish. Judah is evidence of this as in his ignorance, he wasn't well aware of himself and the spirits that were conspiring against him in his younger days which led him to marry for the sake of pleasure and gain (money), not oberserving the law and proper protocols of Alahayim for marriage. All of this led to him having a stressful relationship, cares (anxiety) regarding his children as things weren't going well with them, and two of his sons being destroyed by the idols at work in his relationship because their mother led them astray from Alahayim, raising them according to her own standards rather than teaching them to go in their father's good ways and obey his instructions for them;

Testament of Judah 10:1

And I knew that the race of the Canaanites was wicked, but the impulse of youth blinded my mind. 2 And when I saw her pouring out wine, owing to the intoxication of wine I was deceived, and took her although my father had not counseled (it).

Testament of Judah 12:4-8

For I said to my father-in-law: I will take counsel with my father, and so will I take thy daughter. And he was unwilling, but he showed me a boundless store of gold in his daughter’s behalf; for he was a king. 5 And he adorned her with gold and pearls, and caused her to pour out wine for us at the feast with the beauty of women. 6 And the wine turned aside my eyes, and pleasure blinded my heart. 7 And I became enamoured of and I lay with her, and transgressed the commandment of the Lord and the commandment of my fathers, and I took her to wife. 8 And the Lord rewarded me according to the imagination of my heart, inasmuch as I had no joy in her children

Testament of Judah 10:3-5

And while I was away she went and took for Shelah a wife from Canaan. 4 And when I knew what she had done, I cursed her in the anguish of my soul. 5 And she also died through her wickedness together with her son.

Testament of Judah 18:1-4

My children, the love of money leadeth to idolatry; because, when led astray through money, men name as alahayim those who are not alahayim, and it causeth him who hath it to fall into madness. 2 For the sake of money I lost my children, and had not my repentance, and my humiliation, and the prayers of my father been accepted, I should have died childless. 3 But the Alahayim of my fathers had mercy on me, because I did it in ignorance. 4 And the prince of deceit blinded me, and I sinned as a man and as flesh, being corrupted through sins; and I learnt my own weakness while thinking myself invincible.

Judah's experience shows we need the help of Alahayim's mercy upon us to keep our households together, being preserved from evil spirits, as it was by Alahayim's mercy that not all his children were destroyed by evil spirits works and the ones that lived were blessed to continue his name in the earth, from which tribe our Lord Yache sprang out of. He is also evidence that such experiences of unhealthy relationships, though we may have made the wrong choice to get into them or got into them for the wrong reasons, they can be for our good as nothing happens without Alahayim, wherein we learn humility and ourselves to serve Alahayim in singleness not going astray from Him lest we suffer again like we did in our prior experiences, having learned the necessary lessons to humble ourselves in the sight of Alahayim so as not to depart from Him and His ways;

Testament of Reuben 4:1

Pay no heed, therefore, my children, to the beauty of women, nor set your mind on their affairs; but walk in singleness of heart in the fear of the Lord, and expend labour on good works, and on study and on your flocks, until the Lord give you a wife, whom He will, that ye suffer not as I did.

Not marrying just for the sake of lust in physical attraction in the desire for intercourse or for gain, but uprightly doing so for the upright reasons according to the counsel of Alahayim and going through the proper steps according to the law in humility will bring forth good results in the parents' and children's lives. Yet, if they marry for lust's sake or other carnal reasons, not taking the time to come together spiritually to uphold the faith as brother and sister so the family may flourish, that carnality in the relationship has a high probability of affecting the children as there is no hedge of Alahayim's mercy through Christ about them to protect them from idols;

Acts of Thomas 12

But if you get many children, for their sakes you become grasping and avaricious, plundering orphans and deceiving widows, and by doing this you subject yourselves to most grievous punishments.

These are some of the works of the parents who didn't do what it takes to uphold the faith themselves, for which they will be punished even though they may have thought the evil was justified to be done for the sake of their children. Also, their choices to sin against Alahayim can also affect their children's wellbeing;

For most children become unprofitable, being possessed by demons, some openly and some secretly. For they become either lunatics or half-withered or crippled or deaf or dumb or paralytics or idiots. And though they be healthy, they will be again good-for-nothing, doing unprofitable and abominable works. For they will be detected either in adultery or in murder or in theft or in unchastity, and by all these you will be afflicted.

You can see how the parents choice to do things according to their lust (self-will) in Wrath and Fornication, justifying what they're doing by thinking its for the sake of their children, will lead to the children being possessed by demons and spirits of youth that attack them from a young age and the children's works are going to negatively affect their parents who will have to deal with the unprofitable fruit that will come from how they raised their children;

Sir 30:7-10

He that maketh too much of his son shall bind up his wounds; and his bowels will be troubled at every cry. 8 An horse not broken becometh headstrong: and a child left to himself will be wilful. 9 Cocker thy child, and he shall make thee afraid: play with him, and he will bring thee to heaviness. 10 Laugh not with him, lest thou have sorrow with him, and lest thou gnash thy teeth in the end.

Now on the other hand, if the parents, take the time to become brothers and sisters in Christ unto one another, having married uprightly and not for lust, doing the works of faith in themselves in obedience to preserve their souls, they can guide their children unto life, having Christ as a hedge about the household;

But if you obey and preserve your souls pure to Alahayim, there will be born to you living children, untouched by these hurtful things, and you will be without care, spending an untroubled life, free from grief and care, looking forward to receive that incorruptible and true marriage, and you will enter as groomsmen into that bridal chamber full of immortality and light.”

Such people take the time to learn themselves and one another so that their relationship may flourish as they themselves will be flourishing in Christ, which enables them to help each other and their children;

Acts of Thomas 13

And when the young people heard this, they believed the Lord and gave themselves over to him and refrained from the filthy lust, and remained thus spending the night in the place. And the Lord went away from them saying, “the grace of the Lord be with you!”

Instead of indulging in the lust of the flesh, they spent the night actually being vulnerable to get to know themselves and each other so that they can build on the foundation of Christ;

and when dawn came the king arrived, and having furnished the table brought it in before the bridegroom and the bride. And he found them sitting opposite each other, and he found the face of the bride uncovered, and the bridegroom was very cheerful. And the mother came in and said to the bride, “why do you sit thus, child, and are not ashamed, but act as if you had lived for a long time with your own husband?” And her father said, “is it because of your great love to your husband that you are unveiled?”

This shows they spent the night actually getting to know each other to the point where the bride wasn't ashamed of her showing herself and her vulnerabilities in to her husband to be, unwilling to hide anything from him by evidence of remaining with him unveiled which indicates there was no deceit operating in her towards him to conceal her true self from him;

Acts of Thomas 14

The bride answered and said, “Truly, father, I am in great love, and I pray to my Lord that the love which I have experienced this night may remain, and that I obtain that man whom I have experienced today. That I do not veil myself is because the mirror of shame has been taken away from me; I am no longer ashamed or abashed, since the work of shame and bashfulness has been removed far from me.

Its the love of Christ who visited them that strenghtened her to be vulnerable with her husband to be, unashamed of exposing her shortcomings and vulnerabilities because of her faith that Christ could deliver her from them through working in her husand to be. This helps her not give place to the spirit of lying in deceit who operates in the perdition (shame), thinking one can't change or being jealous of where someone else may be in their journey, either of which falsly justifies concealing one's true self from being revealed;

And that I am not frightened is because alarm did not abide in me.

Through Christ, the fear of the devil has no place in her because she believes she can change and isn't afraid to go through the process to do so which requires humility;

And that I am cheerful and glad is because the day of joy has not been distributed.

Her perspective has changed through Christ to see each day as an opportunity to get closer to Him through her husband in good works;

And that I have set at naught this husband and these nuptials which have passed away from before my eyes is because I have been joined in a different marriage. And that I had no conjugal intercourse with a temporary husband, whose end is repentance and bitterness of soul, is because I have been united with the true husband.”

Through her experience in getting to know Christ and her husband in that night, she saw past him the flesh man and desire for fleshly pleasure, being united with Christ, the true husband at work in him, joining herself unto her husband in the spiritual marriage to see Christ in him, subjecting herself unto him as unto the Lord, counting her marriage unto him as being united unto the true husband Christ at work in the man, who is the savior of her body. Next the man will speak of how Christ was formed in him throug getting to know himself;

Acts of Thomas 15

And when the bride was saying even more, the bridegroom answered and said, “I thank you, Lord, who have been proclaimed by the stranger and found in us;

Christ helped him see that he is in them to know to whom he truly belonged, helping him come out of the corruption of serving idols through allowing them to operate in him;

who have put corruption far from me, and have sown life in me, who have delivered me from this disease, hard to heal, hard to cure and abiding forever, and established in me sound health;

He helped him come out of idolatry (corruption) by his spirit being sown in him, delivering him from disease (fornication) to be in sound health by the holiness and contentment of abiding in the will of Alahayim resisting pleasure. He will explain how this came to be;

who have shown yourself to me, and have revealed to me my condition, in which I am;

Christ showed himself to the man to help him see the standard which he ought to uphold so that he may truly see his own condition and the things he needed to change to be like Christ his Lord, mirroring him;

who have redeemed me from falling, and have led me to something better, and who have released me from things temporary, but have deemed me worthy of things immortal and everlasting;

Christ helped him grow out of his shortcomings that he could now see in himself now having Chist to compare himself unto because he wanted to see it and desired to change by Christ leading him to immortality through His Spirit in him;

who have humbled yourself to me and my weakness, to place me beside your greatness and to unite with you;

He experienced the meekness and gentleness of Christ, being vulnerable with him to confess his faults that were being revealed, not being fearful of being rejected, devalued or discarded by his Everlasting father who came to help him;

who have not kept your compassion from me, who was lost, but have shown me how to seek myself, and to know who I was and who and how I now am, that I may become again what I was;

This confirms Christ helped him see the true flawed self he had become and his shortcomings in compassion with his vulnerabilities, which was necessary to see so that he may know who he became and what he needed to do to seek after his spiritual self in Christ and overcome the old man he had become with the necessary self-awareness of how the idols were working in him so that he may be harmless as a dove, avoiding evil in his understanding;

whom I did not know, but you sought me out; of whom I did not know; but you stood by me; whom I have experienced and am not able to forget; whose love is fervent in me and of whom I cannot speak as I ought. But what I have to say about him is short and very little, and is not in proportion to his glory; but he does not find fault with me if I dare to tell him even what I know not; for it is out of love to him I say this.”

You can see his gratitude for Christ's love toward him to help him see himself and change so that Christ may be formed in him. Having Christ in him also helps his new marriage with his wife who sees Christ in him to serve them, which will help that relationship flourish wherein they'll have living children as the Lord foretold;

Acts of Thomas 12

Understanding the effects parents can have on thier household, choices and works can either make or break a family;

Pro 14:1

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

Knowing the effects parents can have on children, a wise woman would focus on building the house up through her good and virtuous works. In her meekness and quietness of spirit with reverence, she can build her house up, operating in the spirits that are of great price with Alahayim as they can convert souls, even her children who may have gone astray by chance;

1Pe 3:4, 1-2

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of Alahayim of great price. 1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

In closing, wives are essential to all facets of a family in the faith. It starts with the husband walking in simplicity according to all the law and guilelessness for his house to be saved. {Hermas vision 2 [3:7]} He first teaches himself to walk in the commands of the Lord, getting the beam out of his own eye to see clearly {Matt 7:4-5} and then teaching his wife likewise to walk in the commands of the Lord. {Polycarp to Php 4:1-2} Then every wise woman builds the house {Pro 14:1} managing the affairs of their household in seemliness with all discretion {1 Clem 1:3} teaching their children how lowliness of mind prevails with Alahayim, the power of chase love with Alahayim, and how the fear of Him is good and great, saving all who walk therein in a pure mind with holiness {1 Clem 21:8} so that their children may be brought up in the fear and instruction of the Lord, {Polycarp to Php 4:1-2} being like unto their father for sons and going in the way he would have them to go for daughters, both honoring their father's house. Unless a man holds himself diligently in the fear of the Lord, his house will be overthrown {Sir 27:3} and a foolish wife plucks down her house with the unrighteous works of her hands, so both parents have to persevere in the fruits of the Spirit, not only for the house to be established but also for it to be built up in the faith. The works of the flesh will not only harm any parent who walks in it, but your spouse and children will be hindered from building a strong household because both parent's good works are needed for prosperity.