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The Hierarchy of the Household

1Co 11:3

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Meshiyacha; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Meshiyacha is Alahayim.

Sir 3:2  

For the Lord hath given the father honour over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons.

  • This is the hierarchy of the household according to sound doctrine:

1Co 11:7

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of Alahayim: but the woman is the glory of the man.​

1Co 11:8

For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.
1Co 11:9

Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

  • The man is the glory and image of Alahayim while the woman is the glory of the man because the woman came of the man and was created for him. The hierarchy of the family was corrupted by the women given to the spirit of fornication before the flood to allure the Watchers (Angels) through outward attraction to lust after them and commit fornication with them:

Testament of Reuben 5:1, 3-7

1 For evil are women, my children; and since they have no power or strength over man, they use2 wiles by outward attractions, that they may draw him to themselves. 3 For moreover, concerning them, the angel of THE LORD told me, and taught me, that women are overcome by the spirit of fornication more than men, and in their heart they plot against men; and by means of their adornment they deceive first their minds, and by the glance of the eye instill the poison, and then through the accomplished 4 act they take them captive. For a woman cannot force a man openly, but by a harlot’s she beguiles him. 5 Flee, therefore, fornication, my children, and command your wives and your daughters, that they adorn not their heads and faces to deceive the mind: because every woman who useth these wiles hath been reserved for eternal punishment. 6 For thus they allured the Watchers who were before the flood; for as these continually beheld them, they lusted after them, and they conceived the act in their mind; for they changed themselves into the shape of men, and 7 appeared to them when they were with their husbands. 7 And the women lusting in their minds after their forms, gave birth to giants, for the Watchers appeared to them as reaching even unto heaven.

  • (The wives had no reverence for Alahayim by forsaking Ahayah's law of obedience to their husband's rule over them {Gen 3:16} being mislead by the spirit of fornication to lust after the angels though married to their own husbands.)

7 And the women lusting in their minds after their forms, gave birth to giants, for the Watchers appeared to them as reaching even unto heaven.

  • Due to these events of the past and and the woman being the glory of the man, the woman's head covering is a symbol of her man's authority over her for protection from the Angels:

1Co 11:10

For this cause ought the woman to have power G1849 on her head because of the angels.

  • (The fallen angels lusted after the women before and after the flood seeing them from above, hence the head covering is a symbol of her Head's authority over her for protection for them)







Thayers Definition:

the power of rule or government (the power of him whose will and commands must be submitted to by others and obeyed.)

d. a sign of the husbands authority over his wife.

1. the veil with which propriety required a woman to cover herself.

e. the sign of regal authority, a crown. (a wife's veil is a crown upon her head)


  • By definition, a woman’s head covering is a token of the control or authority her husband has. Her father gives this authority over in marriage {Sirach 22:4- 5}.

Sir 7:24  

Hast thou daughters? have a care of their body, and shew not thyself cheerful toward them.
Sir 7:25  

Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.

  • Also, the man has responsibility for the life of the woman too, as the savior of her body.

Eph 5:23  

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 

  • He has to dwell with her in the knowledge of the Lord as the weaker vessel for the prayers of the family to be heard and be a living sacrifice to work righteousness to sanctify and cleanse his wife:

1Pe 3:7  

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 

Eph 5:25  

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Eph 5:26  

That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

Eph 5:27  

That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

  • The man and woman are essential to each other, they are to walk as one in Christ Yache serving one another.

1Co 11:11

Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in Ahayah.

1Co 11:12

For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of Alahayim.

  • The man is the head of the woman but they are one together having need of one another and the Holy Spirit is beautified when they agree together:

 Sir 25:1  

In three things I was beautified, and stood up beautiful both before Alahayim and men: the unity of brethren, the love of neighbours, a man and a wife that agree together.

Further edification on the hierarchy of the household

Sir 3:2

For Ahayah hath given the father honor over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons. 

  • The father has honour over the children, while the authority over the sons is given to the mother, {Sir 3:2} even as Yache is under the authority of the Holy Spirit, His true Mother {Gosp of Thomas 101} who guides him in the wisdom and prudence of the Father,{Prov 2:6;Wis 6:17-18} so that he honours the Father in all things. {John 8:49} The Holy Spirit is not the head of Yache, even as the wife is not the head of the sons or the other children. The word "head" is "Ishi H376" and it is a masculine word pertaining to men, hence Yache said 'Ye shall call me Ishi' in
    {Hosea 2:16} because he is the Head of the Church, even as Ahayah is the Head of his wife, the Holy Spirit. The wife is one flesh with her husband {Gen 2:23-24}, so she is a representation of him, even as the Church represents the Son of Alahayim {Hermas Parable 9 1[78]:1}. So the wife operates in unity instructing the sons so that the husband may leave one like unto himself in the earth. (Sir 30:3-4)


  • The mother guides the house in the instruction of the Lord which she learns from her husband as they grow together in the faith. {Polycarp to Php 2:6}. The sons are in subjection to both their parents even as Yache was to his parents on earth. {Luke 2:51} The mother is given wisdom and instruction to guide the sons from her husband, even as the Holy Spirit has received her prudence and knowledge from Ahayah which he instructed her to pour, without measure, upon Yache, their Son. {Matt :16; John 3:34} Yache is the fountain of wisdom {Sir 1:5} because he does what his mother commanded him and obeys the voice of his father {John 12:49-50} just as righteous sons will keep their mother's law and keep the commands of their father. {Pro 6:20} Mothers behave as is becoming of piety [Tit 2:2-4} and teach their children the humility of the fear of the Lord. {1 Clem 21:7-8}


  • A father has care over his daughter's body {Sir 7:24;42:9-11}, just as he is the savior of his wife's body, {Eph 5:23} A father has authority over his daughter to keep her as a virgin or to give her in marriage if he wills. {1 Cor 7:36-38} He performs a weighty matter by giving her to a man of understanding if he does give her in marriage. {Sir 7:25; Tob 7:13} Both, sons and daughters, are subject to their parents as unto their masters, {Sir 3:7} even as Yache and his sisters, the 12 holy spirits, are subject to the Holy Father and Holy Spirit, the Mother of all creation. A mother guides her daughter, teaching good things, and behaving as is becoming of piety {Tit 2:2-5} that she may teach her daughter by her example to be a virtuous woman. {Pro 31:10-31}


  • The sons have power over their sisters as well, even as Yache, the Son of Ahayah, has power over the 12 holy spirits {Hermas Parable 9 [2:3;13:2;15:1-2]}. One can confirm a son has power over his sister by evidence of him having authority to give her in marriage if the fathers absent as well. { Jubilee 30:7} The sons protect and guide their sisters to obey their father by the instruction/wisdom of their mother and in obedience to the voice of their father, who is the Head of the household.

Benefits of the Righteous Household for the Sons:

  • The hierarchy of the family prepares the sons for adulthood and marriage. The son, having learned to honor his parents being in subjection unto them, reciprocates that nurture and gentleness he experiences from them by guiding and protecting his sister(s). In the process, he learns to be patient and long-suffering with his sister(s) as he has seen his father do, and learns to be delicate and affectionate as he has seen his mother do; all of which will prepare him to be a good husband in Truth if the Lord wills for him to have a wife because he will know how to love her as a sister first, having loved his own sister in righteousness by the example of his parents.


Benefits of the Righteous Household for the Daughters:

  • This hierarchy is also a nurturing environment to prepare a daughter for adulthood and healthy marriage life because she learns to be shamefaced toward all men by the example of her mother's subjection and affection to her father, along with her own subjection and affinity to her father, and her reverence with obedience to her brother(s) who look out for her. Serving her parents as her masters prepares her to be a helpmeet unto her husband. Her virtuous mother's example of not being idle, hardworking in business, and guides her house in the fear of the Lord gives her an example of how to be virtuous as well. She also learns from her mother how to be faithful, chaste, gentle, good, discreet, loving, obedient, a keeper at home, and a teacher of good things to her own children in the future. This environment also teaches a daughter not to usurp authority over a man , which would be reproach unto her. {Sir 22:5; 42:10; I Tim 2:12} The environment encourages her to walk in humility by honoring her father, mother, and brethren. This environment prepares her for marriage as she walks in humility and obedience towards her parents and siblings understanding the love her brothers and parents have shown through guiding her on the right paths, which will enable her to have a flourishing relationship with her husband, whom she will reverence as a brother firstly, having loved her brothers, and love affectionately as a wife having learned from her mother's relationship with her father. Thus parents working as one unit to raise their household together, brings forth righteousness by being examples of believers to their children, showing them how to love and honor one another, just as Yache learned from the Holy Father and Wisdom, his true Mother.

  • It is a blessing in Ahayah’s eyes for husband and his wife (or wives) to build the house by raising up righteous children as our fore parents.

Rth 4:11

And all the people that were in the gate, and the elders, said, We are witnesses: Ahayah make the woman that is come into thine house like Rachel and like Leah, which two did build the house of Israel and do thou worthily in Ephratah, and be famous in Bethlehem:

Sir 40:19

Children and the building of a city continue a man’s name: but a blameless wife is counted above them both.

  • In the sight of Alahayim, a blameless wife is counted above children for some of the following reasons:

  1. Her continent mind cannot be valued: 

    • Sir 26:14  A silent and loving woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed.

    • Sir 26:15  A shamefaced and faithful woman is a double grace, and her continent mind cannot be valued.

  2. She increases her husband's joy of life by her grace:

    • Sir 26:13 The grace of a wife delighteth her husband, and her discretion will fatten his bones.

  3. She is a pillar of rest and tower of defense against death for her husband:

    • Sir 36:24  He that getteth a wife beginneth a possession, a help like unto himself, and a pillar of rest.

    • Sir 26:22  An harlot shall be accounted as spittle; but a married woman is a tower against death to her husband.

  4. Her beauty is shown in her ordering of the house (children):

    • Sir 26:16 As the Sun when it ariseth in the high heaven: so is the beauty of a good wife in the ordering of her house.

    • Pro 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 

    • Pro 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

  5. Her subjection to her husband and chaste conversation (manner of life) coverts unbelievers to the faith:

    • 1Pe 3:1  Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

    • 1Pe 3:2  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

In closing, wives are essential to all facets of a family in the faith. It starts with the husband walking in simplicity and guilelessness for his house to be saved. {Hermas vision 2 [3:7]} He first teaches himself to walk in the commands of the Lord getting the beam out of his own eye to see clearly {Matt 7:4-5} and then teaching his wife likewise to walk in the commands of the Lord. {Polycarp to Php 2:6} Then every wise woman builds the house {Pro 14:1} managing the affairs of their household in seemliness with all discretion {1 Clem 1:3} teaching their children how lowliness of mind prevails with Alahayim, the power of chase love with Alahayim, and how the fear of him is good and great, saving all who walk therein in a pure mind with holiness. {1 Clem 21:8} So that their children may be brought up in the fear and instruction of the Lord. {Polycarp to Php 2:6} Unless a man holds himself diligently in the fear of the Lord, his house will be overthrown {Sir 27:3} and a foolish wife plucks down her house with the unrighteous works of her hands, so both parents have to persevere in the fruits of the Spirit, not only for the house to be established but also for it to be built up in the faith. The works of the flesh will not only harm any parent who walks in it, but your spouse and children will be hindered from building a strong household because both parent's good works are needed for prosperity. 

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