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The Building of The Family in Christ 


The Household 

1Co 3:10

According to the grace of Alahayim which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.

1Co 3:11

For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Yache Christ.

  • (Only on his name and character, can a household be built.)

Mat 7:24

Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise

man, which built his house upon a rock:

  • (The Rock is Christ according to precept.)

Hermas parable 9

12[89]:1 "First of all, Sir," say I, "explain this to me. The rock and the gate, what is it?" "This rock," saith he, "and gate is the Son of Alahayim." 

1 Cor 10:4

And did all drink the same spiritual drink: for they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them: and that Rock was Christ.

Mat 7:25

And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.

Mat 7:26

And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand:

Mat 7:27

And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.

  • The house must be founded on the strong rock of Yache by hearing and doing his sayings so that the storm of the enemy will not cause our house to fall. 

Psa 127:1

A Song of degrees for Solomon. Except Ahayah build the house, they labor in vain that build it: except Ahayah keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.

Sir 27:3

Unless a man hold himself diligently in the fear of the Lord, his house shall soon be overthrown.

  • If the man of the house does not hold himself diligently in the fear of Ahayah to bear the fruits of the Spirit and keep the law as an example to his household, it shall be overthrown. Ahayah builds the house through Wisdom and the holy spirits: 

Pro 24:3

Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:
Pro 24:4

And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

  • This building of the house starts with the man, the head of the household, and his actions affect his family: 

Hermas parable 7

1[66]:3 I say to him; "Sir, if they perpetrated such deeds that the glorious angel is embittered, what have I done?" "They cannot be afflicted otherwise," saith he, "unless thou, the head of the [whole] house, be afflicted; for if thou be afflicted, they also of necessity will be afflicted; but if thou be prosperous, they can suffer no affliction."  

  • A man must keep the commandments of Ahayah to receive Wisdom to build his house:

Sir 1:26  

If thou desire wisdom, keep the commandments, and the Lord shall give her unto thee. 

  • After he teaches himself to walk in the commandments, then he can teach his wife to walk likewise so that she may bring up their children in the in the fear of Ahayah.

The Epistle of Polycarp to the Philippians 2:6 

[6] And teach ourselves first to walk according to the commandments of the Lord; and then your wives to walk likewise according to the faith that is given to them; in charity, and purity, loving their own husbands with all sincerity, and all others alike with all temperance; and to bring up their children in the instruction and fear of the Lord.

  • (The man has to be an example of a believer first, then he shall teach his household (not being an hypocrite, bearing a grudge, nor neglectful of his family) how to walk according to the commands through his example. Not bearing a grudge, admonishments with love to a spouse, and righteous discourse can save the household)

Hermas Vision 2

3[7]:1 "But do thou, Hermas, no longer bear a grudge against thy children, neither suffer thy sister to have her way, so that they may be purified from their former sins. For they shall be chastised with a righteous chastisement, unless thou bear a grudge against them thyself. The bearing of a grudge worketh death. But thou, Hermas, hast had great tribulations of thine own, by reason of the transgressions of thy family, because thou hadst no care for them. For thou wast neglectful of them, and wast mixed up with thine evil transactions. 

  • Being caught up in business affairs, neglecting the family, letting you wife have her way in unrighteousness, and bearing a grudge at their wrong doings brings the household down:

3[7]:2 But herein is thy salvation, in that thou didst not depart from the living Alahayim, and in thy simplicity and thy great continence. These have saved thee, if thou abidest therein; and they save all who do such things, and walk in guilelessness and simplicity. These men prevail over all wickedness, and continue unto life eternal. 

  • Working such righteousness as continence, simplicity, and guilelessness can keep the house from being destroyed and save it.

3[7]:3 Blessed are all they that work righteousness. They shall never be destroyed. 

Vision 1

3:2 But the great mercy of the Lord had pity on thee and thy family, and will strengthen thee, and establish thee in His glory. Only be not thou careless, but take courage, and strengthen thy family. For as the smith hammering his work conquers the task which he wills, so also doth righteous discourse repeated daily conquer all evil. Cease not therefore to reprove thy children; for I know that if they shall repent with all their heart, they shall be written in the books of life with the saints." 

          The unity of the House must be in Love according to the Royal law, Love thy neighbor as thyself.

Testament of Gad 6:1 

1 And now, my children, I exhort you, love ye each one his brother, and put away hatred from your hearts, love one another in deed, and in word, and in the inclination of the soul.

Mat 7:12

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

Col 3:12 

Put on therefore, as the elect of Alahayim, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 

Col 3:13 

Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

Col 3:14 

And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.
Col 3:15

And let the peace of Alahayim rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and

be ye thankful.

Col 3:16

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.

Eph 5:19

Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody inyour heart to the Lord;

Eph 5:20

Giving thanks always for all things unto Alahayim and the Father in the name of our Lord Yache Christ;

Eph 5:21

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of Alahayim.

Eph 5:22

Wives, submit your selves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

  • (Serve your husband as you would serve Yache, for we must love those we can see as Him who we cannot see with bodily eyes. {I John 4:20})

1Pe 3:1

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation G391 of the wives;

  • (Your behavior wins unbelievers over so your obedience is not for your wellbeing only but for the sake of others also.)



G391 ἀναστροφή anastrophē Thayer Definition: 1) manner of life, conduct, behavior, deportment

1Pe 3:2

While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

  • (When they see your sober behavior they will believe the gospel because the Gospel is in power of the demonstration of the Spirit, not words. { I Cor 4:20} )

  • Examples of what men and women's good behavior should include:

1 Clem 21:6

Let us fear the Lord Yache Christ, whose blood was given for us. Let us reverence our rulers; let us honor our elders; let us instruct our young men in the lesson of the fear of Alahayim. Let us guide our women toward that which is good:

1 Clem 21:7

Let them show forth their lovely disposition of purity; let them prove their sincere affection of gentleness; let them make manifest the moderation of their tongue through their silence; let them show their love, not in factious preferences but without partiality towards all them that fear Alahayim, in holiness. ...

Tit 2:1  

But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: 

Tit 2:6 

 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.

Tit 2:7
In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity,

Tit 2:8

  Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.

Tit 2:2  

That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. 
Tit 2:3  

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things

Tit 2:4  

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 
Tit 2:5 

 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of Alahayim be not blasphemed.

  •  The women are called to be obedient unto their husbands for their salvation: 

Eph 5:23

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church: and he is the savior of the body.

  • (Just as the self sacrifice of Yache is what saves the Church, the husband becoming a living sacrifice to work righteousness is what saves his wife.)

Eph 5:24

Therefore as the Church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Eph 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave himself for it:

  • ( A man must give up himself and die to himself by serving Yache to lead his house aright.)

Eph 5:26

That he might sanctify & cleanse it with the washing of water, by the word,
Eph 5:27

That he might present it to himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such

thing: but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28

So ought men to love their wives, as their own bodies: he that loveth his wife, loveth himself.

  • (Through much toil in raising, teaching, growing, guiding, the husband builds his household as Yache does the Church.)

Eph 5:29

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh: but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the Church:

Eph 5:30

For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Eph 5:31

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

  • (A man’s priority changes to the guiding of his household when he gets married as oppose to his complete subjection to his parents prior too. He doesn’t forget the commands or desires of his parents nor does he forsake them. Rather he applies their guidance to the building of his house, just as Yache has applied all the commandments Ahayah and Wisdom have given him to build his house, the Church.)

Eph 5:32

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the Church.
Eph 5:33

Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular, so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see

that she reverence her husband.


The Hierarchy of the Household


1Co 11:3

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is Alahayim.

  • The the man cannot cover his head in prayer and prophesying because he is under the dominion of Yache, while the woman must cover her head in the same as a sign that she is under the dominion of her husband to protect her from the Fallen Angels. 

1Co 11:7

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of Alahayim: but the woman is the glory of the man.

1Co 11:8

For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.
1Co 11:9

Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

1Co 11:10

For this cause ought the woman to have power G1849 on her head because of the angels.

  • (The fallen angels lusted after the women before and after the flood seeing them from above, hence the head covering is a symbol of protection for them under their Husband/Father)







From G1832 (in the sense of ability); privilege, that is, (subjectively) force, capacity, competency, freedom, or (objectively) superhuman,

Thayers Def: the power of rule or government (the power of him whose will and commands must be submitted to by by others and obeyed.)

d. a sign of the husbands authority over his wife.

1. the veil with which propriety required a woman to cover herself.

e. the sign of regal authority, a crown. (a wife's veil is a crown upon her head)


  • The account of the women adorning themselves to attract the angels before the flood: 

Testament of Reuben 5:5

bearing she beguiles him. Flee, therefore, fornication, my children, and command your wives and your daughters, that they adorn not their heads and faces to deceive the mind: because every woman
Testament of Rueben 5:6

who useth these wiles hath been reserved for eternal punishment. For thus they allured the Watchers who were before the flood; for as these continually beheld them, they lusted after them, and they conceived the act in their mind; for they changed themselves into the shape of men, and

Testament of Reuben 5:7 appeared to them when they were with their husbands.

  • (The women had no reverence for their husbands seeing as though the angels took women that were married already.)

  • By definition, a woman’s head covering is a token of control or authority of her husband over her, her father gives this authority over in marriage {Sirach 22:4- 5}). Also, the man has responsibility for the life of the woman to protect her in the knowledge of Yache with love and nurture as the weaker vessel. The man and woman are essential to each other, they are to walk as one in Chirst Yache serving one another.

1Co 11:11

Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.

1Co 11:12

For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of Alahayim.

  • We are to be servants to our head in humility, esteeming their will above ourselves as Yache is a servant to his head, the Father Ahayah Alahayim. Yache’s sole purpose was to do the will of His head, in which he was rewarded with glory and dominion. This is our example to serve our Head and in doing so we shall serve one another as he came to serve by the will of his Father.

  • Yache’s desire

Psa 40:8

I delight to do thy will, O my Alahayim: yea, thy law is within my heart.

  •  Yache’s obedience

Joh 12:49

For I have not spoken of myself; but the Father which sent me, he gave me a commandment, what I should say, and what I should speak.

Joh 12:50

And I know that his commandment is life everlasting: whatsoever I speak therefore, even as the Father said unto me, so I speak.

  • Yache’s reward

Psa 45:7

Thou lovest righteousness, and hatest wickedness: therefore Alahayim, thy Alahayim, hath

anointed thee with the oil of gladness above thy fellows

  • Yache’s invite to us to be humble servants as he is

Mat 11:28

Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Mat 11:29

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

Mat 11:30

For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

Php 2:1

If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies,

Php 2:2

Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind

Php 2:3 

Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

Php 2:4 

Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others

Php 2:5

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Yache.

Php 2:6 

Who, being in the form of Alahayim, thought it not robbery to be equal with Alahayim:

Php 2:7  

But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:

Php 2:8

And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.

  • Further edification on the heirarchy of the household:

Sir 3:2

For the Lord hath given the father honor over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons. 

  • The father has honour over the children, while the authority over the sons is given to the mother, {Sir 3:2} even as Yache is under the authority of the Holy Spirit, His true Mother {Gosp of Thomas 101} who guides him in the wisdom and prudence of the Father,{Prov 2:6;Wis 6:17-18} so that he honours the Father in all things. {John 8:49} The Holy Spirit is not the head of Yache, even as the wife is not the head of the sons nor other children. The word "head" is "Ishi H376" and it is a masculine word pertaining to men, hence Yache said 'Ye shall call me Ishi' in Hosea 2:16 because he is the Head of the Church, even as Ahayah is the Head of his wife, the Holy Spirit. The wife is one flesh with her husband, {Gen 2:23-24} so she is a representation of him, even as the Church represents the Son of Alahayim {Hermas Parable 9 1[78]:1}. So the wife operates in unity instructing the sons so that the husband my leave one like unto himself in the earth. (Sir 30:3-4)


  • The mother has authority to guide the house according to the instruction of the Lord which she learns from her husband as they grow together in the faith. The sons are in subjection to both their parents even as Yache was to his parents on earth {Luke 2:51} and is to his Father and Mother in Heaven {John 12:48-50; Luke 7:35}. The mother is given wisdom and instruction to guide the sons from her husband, even as the Holy Spirit has received her prudence and knowledge from Ahayah which he instructed her to pour, without measure, upon Yache, their Son. {Matt :16; John 3:34} Yache is the fountain of wisdom {Sir 1:5} because he does what his mother commanded him and obeys the voice of his father {John 12:49-50} just as righteous sons will keep their mother's law and keep the commands of their father. {Pro 6:20}


  • The daughters are the possessions of their father until he gives that authority over to a righteous man in marriage. [Sir 7:24-25; Exo 21:7] A father has care over his daughter's body {Sir 7:24;42:9-11}, just as he protects his wife, until he gives her to a man of understanding in marriage {Sir 7:25}. This is why the law stipulates that if a man finds a unbetroth virgin and lies with her he must pay her father the dowry {Exodus 22:16-17} because she is the possession of her father until the man pays for her. Both, sons and daughters, are servants to their father and mother as unto their masters, {Sir 3:7} even as Yache and his sisters, the 12 holy spirits, are subject to the Father and the Mother. 


  • The sons have power over their sisters as well, even as Yache, the Son of Ahayah, has power over the 12 holy spirits {Hermas Parable 9{2:3;13:2;15:1-2}. The sons protect and guide their sisters to obey their father by the instruction/wisdom of their mother and in obedience to the voice of their father, who is lord of the household.

Benefits of the righteous household for the sons:

  • The hierarchy of the family prepares the children for adulthood by the sons learning to honor their father and mother being in subjection unto them, then reciprocating that nurture and gentleness by guiding and protecting their sisters in sincerity by learning to be patient and longsuffering with them, as they have seen their father do, and being delicate and affectionate as he has seen his mother do, which will prepare him to be a husband in righteousness when he receives his wife because he will know how to love her as a sister first, having loved his own sister in righteousness by the example of his parents.

Benefits of the righteous household for the daughters:

  • This is also a nurturing environment for a daughter, who learns to be shamefaced toward all men by the example of her mother's subjection and affection to her father, along with her own subjection and affinity to her father, and her reverence with obedience to her brothers who look out for her. The daughters gets to learn how to be a helpmeet for her father and brothers. She also learns from her mother how to be faithful, chaste, gentle, good, discreet, loving, obedient, a keeper at home, and a teacher of good things to children. This environment also teaches a daughter not to usurp authority over a man, which would be reproach unto her {Sir 22:5; 42:10; I Tim 2:12}. The environment encourages her to walk in humility by honoring her father, mother, and brethren. This environment prepares her for marriage as she walks in humility and obedience towards her parents and siblings understanding the love her brothers and parents have shown through guiding her on the right paths, which will enable her to have a beautiful relationship with her husband, whom she will reverence as a brother firstly, having loved her brothers, and love affectionately as a wife which she learned from her mother's relationship with her father. Thus parents working as one unit to raise their household together, produces great righteousness by being examples of believers to their children, showing them how to love and honor one another, just as Yache learned from the Holy Father and received wisdom from his true Mother.

  • It is a blessing in Ahayah’s eyes for husband and his wife (or wives) to build the house by raising up righteous children as our fore parents.

Rth 4:11

And all the people that were in the gate, and the elders, said, We are witnesses: Ahayah make the woman that is come into thine house like Rachel and like Leah, which two did build the house of Israel and do thou worthily in Ephratah, and be famous in Bethlehem:

Sir 40:19

Children and the building of a city continue a man’s name: but a blameless wife is counted above them both.

Sir 26:16

As the Sun when it ariseth in the high heaven: so is the beauty of a good wife in the ordering of her house.

Pro 31:27

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 
Pro 14:1

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

  • (Wives you are essential to the building of a house, if you walk in wisdom (fruits), your house shall be established, but if you choose the wrong way, you will not only harm yourself, but your husband and children will be hindered from attaining a strong household because your good works are needed for prosperity. Husbands, you must walk in the wisdom of Alahayim all the same that the house may be established, or else the lack of good works will leave your household weak and without Yache's protection because unless a man keep himself in the fear of the Lord his house shall fall.)

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